https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Jul 2026 16:47:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media/page/2#post-1960947 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 09:17:14 +0000 MrsTiz 1960947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: haha!<br /> @lamariniere: yeah you get out of here with your amazing pictures of places I've never heard of! Booooo! ;)</p> <p>I try and keep it real, I post pictures of crying LO, talk about teething and stuff like that on IG. I don't clean my house to post pictures but I do always remember to crop my half naked DH out of the pictures, so I'm doing my part :P IG is mostly just my friends though, on FB I tend to post more pleasnt things because my FB is mostly for my extended family to keep up with LO and I want them to think I have it all together if I'm being honest. </p> <p>I absolutely get jealous of other people. Mostly about their material possessions and their amazing bodies. Not so much of their parenting unless they're like a Pinterest mom because I know full well that for every dreamy baby picture that's posted, they got shit on or thrown up on twice to counter it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media/page/2#post-1960927 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 09:00:52 +0000 catomd00 1960927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I am completely satisfied with my life so I don't get jealous over anyone's social media activity. I don't post much on Facebook and when I do it's pics of my daughter shared only with close family and friends, so I don't feel the need to go out of my way and edit the pics to make them look better. I generally think the more people post about how great their life is, the more unhappy they probably are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media/page/2#post-1960921 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 08:53:29 +0000 Pirouette 1960921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: yea yea yea, downplay it all you want - I still want to hop on a plane every time I see your pics! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media/page/2#post-1960806 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 06:50:20 +0000 Cherrybee 1960806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@loveisstrange: Oh I know. Everyone gets theirs in one way or another! And to be honest I wouldn't wish a moment of unhappiness on this particular colleague, she's lovely and has had more than her fair share of crap courtesy of her health. It's just that those "precious, perfect, magical newborn days", that's something I will never get back with E and I like to tell myself it's because they don't exist in real life! :silly: </p> <p>In other news, I totally crop mess out pictures before posting them!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media/page/2#post-1960768 Wed, 26 Nov 2014 04:56:41 +0000 lamariniere 1960768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: @Pirouette: @ShootingStar: :wink: Most of the time my life is very boring. I slave away in front of my computer all day like everyone else. :silly: But we're lucky to have family in fun places, and a lot of fun places aren't that far from us, relatively speaking. And I can't even tell you how many pics I have to take of my LOs before I can get just one of them cracking a smile. :silly: </p> <p>@cait: I stopped reading some of the more popular mommy bloggers partly because their lives do seem all too perfect, but mainly because the really popular ones have become so commercial! The sponsored posts with all the high end stuff gets really annoying! I wasn't feeling jealousy over all their great stuff, I just didn't want to see the pseudo advertisements anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960429 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 18:54:53 +0000 cait 1960429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've definitely felt a little inadequate when seeing pictures (usually from popular "mommy bloggers" or IGers) that appear to show an ideal life. It's easy to see a nice picture and assume their home is always clean, their kids are always smiling, etc. When it gets to me, I step away from the electronics and focus on my own life. I also remind myself of times when I've had guests over who have complimented my place and have no clue about the marathon cleaning session that ended 5 minutes before they arrived, or the mess that I cropped out of a photo before posting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960414 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 18:36:07 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1960414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: who wouldn't envy toilet dinner? :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960409 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 18:31:49 +0000 artsyfartsy 1960409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LovelyPlum: Absolutely not!!! I wish T could be up and doing the same things too, but I still love seeing all the HB babies doing their thing. It's so sweet of you to think of me! But post away! I love the pictures. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960311 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 17:05:01 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1960311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I purposely try to keep it real. This weekend I posted a beautiful Fam picture on vacation but said "you can't see the two hours of crying, 11 0'clock bedtime or 6am wake up behind this perfect pic." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960283 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 16:44:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 1960283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: @Pirouette: bawahahaha, I was thinking the same thing as you guys - I totally get jelly of @lamariniere:'s travel pics on IG! :silly: </p> <p>When LO was a (hard) newborn I used to get a little bitchy towards a cousin of mine with a LO about 3 months older because on FB her posts were all about how her LO started STTN at 1 week old, and never cried and never fussed and everything was so easy and so wonderful. Then she started private messaging me with encouragement if/when I did post help type questions on FB. I never called her out, but was laughing to myself that her kid is an angel on her public posts on FB, and much more normal when you sit and talk 1:1. Taking things with a grain of salt reigns in the green-headed monster. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960273 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 16:37:11 +0000 loveisstrange 1960273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I had a friend who had a baby 4 weeks after me. Her baby slept all the time, was really easy, breastfeeding went well. I was in a constant state of "fuck that bitch". UNTIL, the girls were 4/5 months old. C did a major turnaround and became the easy kid who STTN and was happy all the time and her sleepy newborn turned into a constantly screaming mess. I admit that I gloated a bit to myself. My point is... I think everyone gets it, some just get it later than others. </p> <p>And honestly.... it used to, but not so much anymore. My give a fuck is broken at this point. ha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960239 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 16:21:38 +0000 erinpye 1960239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I just realize social media is everyone's personal PR campaign, and it's never the whole story. And even if it were? I love my messy, beautiful life the way it is, struggles and blessings alike, and don't want anyone else's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960204 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 16:06:21 +0000 Lindsay05 1960204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll admit that I do get a little jealous when I see my 'friends' going on all of these family vacations. We definitely lack in going lots of places as a family and it's something I wish we did more of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960172 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 15:53:15 +0000 Cherrybee 1960172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I get jealous when people post things about how much they're enjoying motherhood or, even worse, mat leave. But its not just online - my work colleague came in today with her 7 week old (she's on a 1 yr mat leave) and she was telling me that she is loving every minute. It got even worse when she shrugged off my "you look great!" comment, attributing it to breastfeeding and, uh, the weight is falling off her. For some people I guess it really is all wonderful and magical and amazing and their boobs work! Having had a really tough (PPD) first year of motherhood, I console myself by saying that everyone struggles, that most people find it hard and, really, everyone's just pretending they enjoyed the newborn days. It stings when something suggests otherwise. </p> <p>Its fleeting though, honestly! I love being a toddler mummy so its all good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960168 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 15:48:50 +0000 BSB 1960168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I'm a bit different. Work is work and I don't share many personal things other than what I'm doing that weekend. Since I have IF, it's easier having the less personal conversation about my current IF treatments through facebook. For me, it's easier to tell others my feelings with a computer between me and my friends and family on FB. (I've been open about my IF journey for about 1.5 years, now, and have surprisingly a ton a support. So I will continue using FB to get support and to spread IF awareness.) Also, let's just say that having someone bring up IF to my face IRL is awkward!! My coworker who is my FB friend recently told me she was pregnant but she also said she's been seeing my posts about our recent IVF and wants to let me know that she's thinking of me. She also said she was worried about how awkward the conversation would be when telling me she was pregnant. Luckily, she was really thoughtful and it wasn't as awkward as it could have been. (Also, I think there were subtle signs that made me wonder if she was pregnant and so I was subconsciously prepping myself for the news.) It was still awkward because I wanted to ask all the normal pregnancy questions but I was a bit guarded because I wasn't sure if I or her would say something that could make me jealous. I was guarded in asking about how she was feeling and how far along she was. I'm not sure if she could sense the weirdness. Anyway, it all worked out but I still use FB as a voice for my IF. I am someone who posts FB statuses about 2 times a week so I would say I am fairly active on FB. </p> <p>Though, when it comes to being a mom and posting photos, I have no idea. As I've said in an earlier post, I post a lot of pics of my two very spoiled dogs. They make me smile during all the waiting. </p> <p>Coming from someone who does not have kids, I do think there can be a standard that some moms put on themselves. Some are the perfect mom, the funny mom, the mom that can't figure out what they are doing, [insert the an adjective that would describe yourself] etc. Some are a combination of them. Maybe it's all about how they feel about themselves and how they feel like they compare to others. Maybe that's where the jealousy comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960140 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 15:38:33 +0000 Raindrop 1960140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stopped going on facebook not because I was jealous but because people would have life events and not tell me! Just do a facebook blast. Type of things that deserved an e-mail at the very least. I was like forget it... If they wanted me to know... they would tell me.</p> <p>On the other hand I do xmas cards and I usually try to get the card that let's me share the most photos or work in a way to post more photos in one slot. Haha. I have one at my desk at work usually and one of my co-worker came by and looked at it... she commented... wow your LO seems happy all the time and you look like you do a lot of stuff with him. I laughed and said well I'm not going to put sad pictures of LO! :) We don't do that much but there are only a few pictures here... even if we just one thing every other month it would fill this xmas cards. So I guess that's the same thing as having a facebook that only shows the good. *shrugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960136 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 15:36:49 +0000 plantains 1960136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find IG fun to browse and sometimes get inspiration from things people post e.g activities they are doing with their kids. I don't get jealous because I like to see pretty pictures and most people post pretty pictures :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1960020 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 14:40:22 +0000 Corduroy 1960020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I'm doing social media wrong. I post pictures of messes all the time. Sometimes they are just pictures of messes with no LO. LO looked like a hobo in the last picture I posted. </p> <p>I don't get jealous of people based on their online self-branding. If I cared to I could create some luxurious looking online life but it would probably cost me my real friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959886 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:39:33 +0000 Orchid 1959886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel jealous about "things" - home, clothes, etc BUT I can feel inadequate as a mom when it seems others have everything running like a well-oiled machine while I cant get the nap/sleep situation under control at almost 9 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959871 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:30:34 +0000 LovelyPlum 1959871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: interesting question. On some forms of social media, yes, like FB. I try really hard to not post much on FB, because I know that work connections can see it, as well as lots of other people. It's not so much that I'm hiding what I'm doing, but there's just no point in me posting much. Any support I would get on there would come from a small handful of people who probably already know already. I gave up FB for Lent 2 years ago because it was turning me into a green-eyed monster. I've since gone back, but only rarely. I don't much miss it.</p> <p>But IG is a different story to me. I'm OK with posting there because the only people on it are my family and HB. I don't even have IRL friends on IG. Instead, it is my way to share what my baby is doing with our families, who are exclusively out of town and only get to see LO once a month, if that. I added HB's because I really like seeing their babies, but that's it. My intention is not to show off there, but rather, to show real life, because that's what I want to share with my family. </p> <p>@Danizaur: I'm glad you posted here, because I've been wanting to tell you that I am really sorry if anything I post has made you upset. I know that G is a crazy all over the place baby, but I promise, I would never share those things to brag in a mean way. I post so her crazy aunts and uncles can see what she's up to. I can't wait to see pictures of T tearing up the house. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959865 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:28:40 +0000 blackbird 1959865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everybody's jealous of the pictures I post where I'm eating dinner on the toilet while E takes a bath. It's very glamorous. </p> <p>i might get jealous over cool travel photos or someone who looks amazing after having a baby (i follow a lot of fitness type people, but i also realize they do the work so it's more like admiration) but it's fleeting. I don't take it very seriously, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959843 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:21:06 +0000 edelweiss 1959843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>while i'm not on facebook/twitter/instagram, but i absolutely do get jealous of moms on certain blogs. this insecurity is part of the reason i'm not on social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959840 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:19:17 +0000 Pirouette 1959840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: hahaha i was going to say the exact same thing! the only time i get jealous is when i see what @lamariniere: is up to :silly: </p> <p>to be honest, i don't even notice if my messy house is in the background of a picture i share, nor would i care if i did. i don't get jealous of others because i think everyone has their priorities, and having a pinterest worthy house is not on my list. i do get jealous when my friends go on vacations, because DH and I are so desperately in need of one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959829 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 13:13:26 +0000 sunny 1959829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think people generally try to show their best selves online so I don't really get jealous. I do the same! As someone mentioned, its like cleaning your home before you have guests.</p> <p>I have gotten jealous over real life things though. Mostly about having time to travel and a supportive family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959792 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 12:54:43 +0000 birdofafeather 1959792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I definitely don't post "dirty laundry" but i do try to keep it real every now and again (with words, not like photos of poop or whatever).</p> <p>i am prone to jealousy, so there are people that i purposely don't follow even though it might be good for me professionally to connect with them. once i kept these people off my feeds, i've felt much better. but i think instagram and FB just make the jealousy more accessible rather than me actively hearing about it, it's passive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959785 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 12:51:18 +0000 Andrea 1959785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah no jealousy, I realize that I am very fortunate and blessed. And most people do only show the good days on social media so I take everything with a grain of salt. I've gotten a lot of good ideas from my mom friends on IG so I like that form of social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959754 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 12:36:30 +0000 Anagram 1959754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do any of you feel like social media is an extension of your "public self"? I mean, at work for instance...I exchange pleasantries with my coworkers who often ask about my LO, and I generally just say "Oh, she's doing fine". You know, I don't go on and on about her latest poopsplosion or how she was up 4 times last night.</p> <p>And I guess the same is true for FB for me. I only post about 1-2 times a month, and then they are just generally cute pics of LO or of us as a family. I don't really post random status updates in general, so of course they aren't going to be negative, exasperated posts complaining about my life.</p> <p>Just like I wouldn't post about my marriage on FB, I don't post about other drama. I guess I just consider it "dirty laundry" that doesn't need to be aired in public, and I usually hide people from my feed that are always posting about drama. Well, that and the fact that I'm actually generally happy with my life?</p> <p>Anyway, I post my exasperation about parenting here on HB and IRL with my mommy friends over wine, haha.</p> <p>ETA: I forgot to say that since I do that myself, I assume *everyone* else is similar. Has struggles occasionally, just doesn't choose to post it all over social media. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959702 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 12:10:27 +0000 ShootingStar 1959702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get a little envious at @lamariniere:'s travel on Instragram! </p> <p>But for the most part I don't really get jealous of other parents. What do people get jealous of? Other people's homes? The behavior of other kids? Other's people's lives always look perfect in pictures, and even the bad moments are usually only posted for a laugh (like crying santa pics). I assume you're not getting the full story of other people's lives, just like I don't put my entire life online either.</p> <p>But I'm really happy with a lot of things in my life. It took me a really long time to get here and get through some struggles and I'm really appreciative of where I am now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959673 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 11:53:23 +0000 pui 1959673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think pretty much everyone tries to show their best side on social media, including myself. It's also easy to look put together when people are only seeing little slices of your life. I'm by no means perfect and I know no one else is either.</p> <p>When I was TTC, I did hide some of my FB friends who were pregnant/mothers because it hurt to much to see their updates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-being-jealous-of-other-moms-because-of-social-media#post-1959665 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 11:49:49 +0000 BSB 1959665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Great advice for my friend! Thank you! </p> <p>@twodoghouse: LOL at the discarded bra! Yup, I've been there. Let's hide the pile of dirty clothes on the floor or the spot where my dog just had an accident earlier that day. </p> <p>@PurplePumps: I've had comments about all the traveling we do and some friends and family have mentioned being jealous. I think traveling is what we do (or I do) to pass the time or distract me during IF. Then there's photos of my spoiled rotten dogs... haha. I know it bad but it's the little things that I have to be happy about because we both know the pain of IF. If only people knew my true feelings... I do try to be positive in the things I post about but I, also, think I even it out with some mild complaining. </p>