https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 21:53:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111844 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 23:54:57 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1111844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: you are amazing!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111773 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 22:14:38 +0000 Sunshine710 1111773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine will be 23 months apart, love all the ideas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111294 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:59:59 +0000 Running Elley 1111294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chastenet: Thanks!!!! I'm glad that you're around again!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111267 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:49:27 +0000 chopsuey 1111267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are a little shy of 21 months apart. I had someone at home with me for 2 weeks, then my DH had to travel so I flew solo for 2-4 days a week. </p> <p>I was still nursing DD at the time so it was really tricky and I had to time everything perfectly. The swing was really helpful. And I couldn't have done it without our TV and Netflix. :P</p> <p>Thankfully DS was a GREAT newborn and all he did was eat, pee/poop and sleep. This allowed me to spend a lot of quality time with DD. I pumped a lot during the first month and fed DS bottles during the day because it was quick and got him full. He got boob before bed and in the middle of the night. </p> <p>Man, those early weeks were rough, but it gets a lot easier and so much fun really fast. :) You're gonna love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111204 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:25:16 +0000 Chastenet 1111204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: omg! Congratulations!!! That's so exciting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111187 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:18:47 +0000 Penny Lane 1111187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this thread is amazing, you guys! so much great advice so far!! when my second comes in January, my 2 will be 16 months apart, and I'm so excited. but so nervous!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111146 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 17:03:02 +0000 Running Elley 1111146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chastenet: Sister!! They'll be 13-14 months apart :) </p> <p>@Mrs. Train: Very reassuring!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1111068 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 16:33:30 +0000 Mrs. Train 1111068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookish: I promise. It is not easy but you will adjust. There might be moments of panic as well. My husband thought I was nuts when I told him I wanted to try for a fourth and a week before I had my daughter I had a mini panic attack. But once she was here and we were in a groove I couldn't imagine life without her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110996 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 16:09:46 +0000 Chastenet 1110996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: Are you expecting a little brother or sister for Elliot? I've been kind of absent and have missed a lot :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110987 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 16:05:11 +0000 Bookish 1110987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: Promise? I went from one and done to I want 2 under 2 (in the last week, LOL), and my DH is having a bit of a heart attack ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110965 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 15:55:55 +0000 Mrs. Train 1110965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For everyone who is subscribing because they have their second one coming along soon let me just reassure you that you will adjust and adapt. After a few weeks it will just be the way life is instead of this scary notion of two babies. There will be rough patches were you might feel like you are in survival mode and that's ok. Eventually it will smooth out and you will thrive as a family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110941 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 15:51:11 +0000 Protectlove 1110941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am definitely following this! I am due any day now and my daughter is exactly 14 months old today! We are absolutely part of the 2 under 2 team! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110864 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 15:34:47 +0000 sillygoose 1110864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing - #2 is due in less than two mths, will be 2 yrs apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110757 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 15:20:12 +0000 Amelieisme 1110757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing....LO #2 on the way and DS will be 20 months! I'm nervous. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110645 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 14:56:58 +0000 Mrs. Train 1110645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: I had all four of mine home with me for a year before my oldest started preschool. :)</p> <p>@HabesBabe: I had the same pain the second time with nursing but it didn't last as long. I think it was 3-4 weeks with my twins and then maybe 2 weeks with my daughter </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110631 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 14:51:41 +0000 HabesBabe 1110631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not gear-related, but if you nursed w/ both LOs, did it hurt like a mofo the 2nd time around? I hope to not experience that oh-so-pleasant 10 second rush of pain when the baby latches on again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1110593 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 14:42:22 +0000 tooshi 1110593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>subscribing...as my first will be 20 months when baby #2 arrives in March </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109374 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 07:45:02 +0000 MamaBehr 1109374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Here are some things that I have learned (mine are 23 months apart, and I'm expecting our 3rd which means LO#2 and the new one will be 22 months apart)<br /> ~Sometimes someone will have to cry while the others needs are being met ie the newborn will have to cry in the swing while the older one is put down for nap<br /> ~ make sure the older one feels involved. I have pictures of DD doing the same thing that I'm doing with DS, but with her baby doll<br /> ~ make a big deal out of the roll of the older sibling (you're job is to help Mommy, without you I would be lost, or "you need to protect the new baby, we have to be gentle")<br /> ~ babywear. I wore DS for so long. In the grocery store DD would go in the cart and DS in the Ergo. I also wore him around the house to have both hands free<br /> ~ take the baby out of the car first, put the big kid in the car first. (DD has almost wandered away while making the car transition) </p> <p>I think the best thing we did was have a visitor (grandparents that took turns) for the first five weeks of DS's life. That way DD didn't ever feel left out or jealous, because she got all the attention of her grandparents. We are going to do that this time too (especially since she is older this time and will remember a time pre-baby) </p> <p>And, no matter how intimidating it is in the beginning I think this is a great age difference :) (enough so that we are doing it again!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109346 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 07:17:35 +0000 shellio 1109346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have 2 under 2 yet, but will when LO comes and DS is 22 mos! Thanks for all the good advice! </p> <p>We have the City Select and love it, we use it with DS all the time and are so glad we can just stick the other seat on. We have used it as a double a few times with other kids and it seems to work well. </p> <p>A friend who had 2 under 2 said that one thing that worked well for them was letting the older child be as involved as she wanted to be - if she wanted to be hands-on in changing diapers, they let her, even if it took longer; if she wanted to be in mom's lap while BF the baby, sure. Etc. I thought this made a lot of sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109325 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 06:44:04 +0000 bushelandapeck 1109325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine will be just shy of 22 months apart in June when LO #2 is due. This is all great advice! Thank you so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109252 Wed, 25 Sep 2013 01:39:19 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1109252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing because I am so scared to have two even though I definitely want two an they won't both be under two. Also I can't afford day are EVER so I'd love to hear about people who are really doing it all, all day, by themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109213 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 23:28:29 +0000 Mrs. Train 1109213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: I think when it comes to splitting duties it is sort of related to personal strengths and each child's. For example. When my first was born I did most of the child care. (I was a SAHM and my husband worked) But he had his nights backwards for a few months so one weekend night my husband would take over the night shift to give me one regular night sleep. He was bottle feed so there was no issue there. When my twins were born my husband took over almost all care for my older son when he was home. He did all night feedings for the older son while I breastfeed the twins. </p> <p>When our daughter was born I did almost all of her care while my husband took care of the boys. If they woke up at night he took care of it because I was usually already nursing my daughter. Some of that is biological. He can't breastfeed so feedings automatically went to me. He had to take over all other jobs while I was nursing. </p> <p>Now that they are older (an no one is nursing) we split things a little more evenly. If one of us has had a rough day and just can't take any more the other steps in to take over. It's a tag team. We have some normal routines like he takes over child care when he gets home so I can make dinner. He washes the dishes while I take the kids to play a little before bath. It really is something you will have to figure out along the way. It's a bit of trial and error until you find something that works and keeps each of you sane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1109122 Tue, 24 Sep 2013 21:39:02 +0000 Lindsay05 1109122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great advicr. Any advice on how you split duties between parents and to keep things sane?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106228 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:53:59 +0000 Running Elley 1106228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all SO much!! Great, great advice!</p> <p>Keep it coming ladies :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106222 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:50:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1106222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: I think wine is definitely gear ;)<br /> @Honeybee: As always, great advice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106200 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:33:59 +0000 Honeybee 1106200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @Mrs. Jacks: and @Mrs. Train: have great advice. We tried to get out of the house every day, even if it was just for a walk. And as quickly as possible we implemented a "nap hour" every day when both kids were sleeping; that was a lifesaver.</p> <p>I didn't really use the double stroller much, but our carriers were priceless. I used to tie my Moby on in the morning and wear it all day, so I could easily put #2 in/take him out, as needed. We also borrowed a second glider from some friends and put it in the living room/play room. That was a lifesaver, since I could rock #2, while still supervising #1 playing. </p> <p>The hardest thing for me to figure out at first was the logistics of having 2. So, for example, I would take #2 out of the car first, and put his car seat on the ground next to me while I got #1 out of her seat. I would make #1's meals/snacks and #2's bottles at the same time, so I could feed them at the same time. Most of the time, if I needed to run errands, I would wear #2 in the Ergo so I had my hands free to deal with #1 (I still do this, even though #2 is 18 months, because it is so much easier/faster/less stressful to only have to worry about one at a time!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106196 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:30:13 +0000 Bookish 1106196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've got a question.. If your LO was in daycare when #2 was born, did they go as normal or stay home for a while? And did you take a longer or shorter maternity leave? Ok that was two questions ;)</p> <p>ETA not trying to threadjack, sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106189 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:24:53 +0000 HabesBabe 1106189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: LOL wine is the most important parent gear!</p> <p>@Bluebonnet: how funny-- which one are you leaning towards right now? i'm hoping to get LO#2 into the Ergo earlier than I did LO#1... she doesn't mind it, but she never falls asleep/loves it like other babies on HB seem to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106185 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:22:34 +0000 Bluebonnet 1106185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: How funny. I have the City Mini and LOVE it, so I was considering the City Select or the City Mini Double.</p> <p>We also have an Ergo, so I plan on using that as much as possible for LO#2 and having LO in the stroller. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-2-under-2#post-1106184 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 16:22:06 +0000 Mrs. Train 1106184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if I count as two under two as our needs were a little skewed. I did have a way to get out with all my kids. For awhile it was a double and a carrier then we moved to a triple stroller. I love going for walks with the kids. A little fresh air will do wonders for a tired mama. </p> <p>I have to second @Mrs. Jacks: time as a couple (date night) is important. When my boys were young it was so hard to work out nursing and leaving but I just had to do it to keep my marriage going.</p> <p>Does wine count as needed gear? Wine helps sometimes. :) </p>