https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 01:11:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates/page/2#post-1090390 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:58:02 +0000 Sapphiresun 1090390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a mom of a boy, but I did work in a sex crimes division as an analyst, and it is important to teach the proper names. There have been so many incidents of kids making disclosures to teachers or other care givers about sexual abuse, but because they talked about touching their "bird" or "pocketbook" or "cookie" it was difficult for them to recognize the disclosure, and somewhat more difficult to get charges to stick because these hazy terms can raise reasonable doubt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates/page/2#post-1090277 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:32:47 +0000 Honeybee 1090277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use the anatomically correct terminology for boys and girls or we say "genitals" for more general use. I think at some point, regardless of what term you use, your kid will eventually say it in pulic/in mixed company. It might be embarassing at the moment, but it's not that big of a deal. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090259 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:25:49 +0000 californiadreams 1090259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i never gave it much before what we will do, but i have heard the advice that it is better to use anatomically correct names.....although i never thought of the reasoning why that was better until a few pps have brought up the red flag for molestors issue :( i'm convinced now and will use penis </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090246 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:18:11 +0000 lovehoneybee 1090246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We call it penis even now. </p> <p>I took a Psychology of Sex class in college and one of the lessons included all of the different names that previous students had called their bits. I don't remember most of them now but "cookie" "cupcake" and "Little Miss Muffet" stick out from the vaginal nicknames. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090231 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:12:35 +0000 Adira 1090231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't discussed this yet, but I'm leaning towards calling it by the proper term, so penis it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090208 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 13:00:21 +0000 lamariniere 1090208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We call it the "zizi". That is the cutesy name the French use. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090189 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:54:35 +0000 mrbee 1090189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: I will listen more carefully. But it definitely doesn't come up once a day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090177 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:52:34 +0000 HLK208 1090177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: bleh. Gosh. B is coming home from preschool today and it will NO longer be a winky. Penis from now on! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090164 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:49:16 +0000 Lozza 1090164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Really? Between diaper changes and bathtime and being really slow about potty training, I feel like I heard DS say the word "penis" at least twice a day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090162 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:46:21 +0000 HLK208 1090162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I taught him to say boy parts but sometimes he says winky. When he was in diapers, DH and I said winky and I didn't realize he would start saying it so early. Ahh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090149 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:42:04 +0000 Koolbreeze 1090149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We taught our 4 year old "penis", but he started calling it his "nakie" on his own. So that's what it is! Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090147 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:41:46 +0000 mrbee 1090147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find that these words don't come up very often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090130 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:38:02 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1090130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is good to use anatomical names. For one it shows kids that it's no different than a nose or an ankle, for another it'll be a red flag if they start using a cutesy nickname-- which perpetrators tend to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090072 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:22:27 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1090072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is so young, this issue never even crossed my mind. The things I have to now think about as a mom with a boy....</p> <p>I'll probably be calling it a penis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090068 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:21:23 +0000 travellingbee 1090068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm totally calling it a penis but I have a harder time with girls because, frankly, it isn't all a vagina. It is a labia, a urethra, a vagina, etc. I don't want a daughter if mine to think she's peeing out of her vagina! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090067 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:20:20 +0000 Silva 1090067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For. Child sexual abuse prevention, teaching kids to use the appropriate terminology is rally important. It gives them appropriate words to use so they can tell someone if something is happend, and teaches them that they shouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed of those body parts.<br /> Go with penis! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090062 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:18:32 +0000 Arden 1090062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We will use penis if we have a boy. I'm very in favor of using correct terminology from the beginning! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090055 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:15:55 +0000 pelikila 1090055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use penis. C is potty trained and he now holds his own penis down when he sits and he is at the age where he wants to announce everything he does so in many public restrooms he says "penis down". You get used to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090049 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:13:44 +0000 bushelandapeck 1090049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: same here. I want to use the correct term, but DH thinks it's strange (?!) so we call it pee-pee. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090046 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:12:33 +0000 NavyRN2012 1090046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For ODS it's always been privates. Recently, he heard my husband say "crotch" (which I hate), and has been calling it his "crunch", which is hilarious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090034 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:09:34 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1090034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're sticking with the anatomically correct terms, presented without shame or judgement. When he's older we can talk about privacy and all that, but at 2, that's really not on his radar :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1090016 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 12:03:47 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1090016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: That cracks me up. Such a smarty! I think my little guy does that too but he does it with his hands, not his legs. And he doesn't say anything yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089963 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:45:02 +0000 Lozza 1089963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: Thanks :)<br /> He also likes to play "penis hide and seek" during diaper changes- after I get the old one off and before I get the new one on, he'll clap his legs together and announce "My penis is hiding!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089938 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:35:12 +0000 mrs. mochi 1089938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MRS. LEMON-LIME: pocket book? really? seems somewhat degrading or something... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089937 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:33:54 +0000 MrsTiz 1089937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. mochi: My niece calls hers a "butt". Everything underwear would cover is her butt, I can't stand it either </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089935 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:33:31 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 1089935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: Love it! So awesome! Your kid rocks ;) :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089933 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:31:47 +0000 Lozza 1089933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Penis. I'd feel weird calling it something else, and it's not weird to hear him say penis. </p> <p>Speaking of penises, DS walked into my room this morning just as I was getting out of the shower and was like "Mommy, where's your penis??" and being generally concerned about its absence, like I'd lost one and should be equally distraught. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089924 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:29:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1089924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. mochi: lol, what? The weirdest one I heard was "pocket book". </p> <p>Really, are adults *that* embarassed to properly name these body parts?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089919 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:28:38 +0000 mrskc 1089919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: I know. It's a terrible thing to even think about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-boys-what-did-you-teach-them-to-call-their-privates#post-1089909 Mon, 16 Sep 2013 11:26:24 +0000 mrs. mochi 1089909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>penis and for girls vagina. i've heard little girls call it their "front butt". not a fan. </p>