https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 14:18:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1282177 Sat, 14 Dec 2013 23:51:11 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 1282177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister has fraternal twin boys that are just under a year and none of us could tell them apart at first. She and her husband pointed out a few things about each twin to help us out, like one of them has very distinctive eyebrows and one of them has hair that always looks like he stuck his finger in an electrical socket. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1282040 Sat, 14 Dec 2013 20:50:56 +0000 twoofeverything 1282040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a mom of b/g twins, so no good advice...but if I had identicals, I would appreciate people being honest. Maybe ask the mom how she tells them apart? I think tiptoeing around it may be weirder than just being up front... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1254322 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 15:53:59 +0000 Corduroy 1254322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Thanks for the input! I will do my best to figure them out. I am terrible at recognizing &amp; differentiating people. I hope they send out a well labeled Christmas card so I can study it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1254174 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 14:58:24 +0000 Anagram 1254174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: nope! no cards (super small school library) so I just look them up by last name (and then for the twins, have to pick the right twin's account), so I HAVE to ask and can't just pretend I know.</p> <p>And since I only see them maybe twice a month when their class comes to the library, it makes it difficult. And the teachers don't accompany them, so I can't ask them either. I guess I could secretly ask a classmate, but that seems awkward instead of just owning up to the fact that I don't know.</p> <p>We have 7 sets of twins in a school of only 400 kiddos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253827 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 13:22:48 +0000 mrbee 1253827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Do you guys have library cards or a register that students have to sign to check out books?</p> <p>I've found with twins that it's usually not too hard to tell them apart, if you put a little effort into it. I'm not good at all with faces, and even I can usually figure it out! If you're stymied, you can always ask one of the twins for tips. In my experience, twins always always always remember when someone can tell them apart!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253747 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 12:55:49 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1253747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to put them in different colors so people can identify them by that, but I think being ask who you are is just part of the baggage of being a twin. I prefer people just ask me which one is which, especially as they get older and will be more aware of people not being able to tell them apart. I think it's nice when people ask what little things they can look for to tell them apart so they don't have to ask as often. For instance, our sons' ears are a kind of different and are a good thing to look for if you are trying to tell them apart. If people ask, we can point that out and then they don't get confused as often. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253665 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 12:35:30 +0000 Anagram 1253665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: hahaha! Intitials on the shirt! I'm sorry but that's adorable! What DO you recommend? I have this problem at my school. We have an inordinate amount of identical twins here and as the school librarian, I really can't tell them apart, especially if they are separate. It's easier when they are together because usually they look ever-so-slightly different.</p> <p>But really, what's a good way? I'm usually just really blunt and ask things like, "Jeremy or Kyle?" when checking out their books. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253522 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 12:01:33 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1253522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: that reminds me of the full house episode where Rebecca put booties her mom made on the boys to distinguish them, but Jesse hated the booties and took them off.. Then couldn't figure out who was who! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253473 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 11:50:43 +0000 sandy 1253473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of our best friends has twin girls and at 3 years old we can tell them apart pretty good but that wasn't always the case. When they were super little i would quietly ask my friend "is that X in the red shirt?" If you can't tell from their personalities then I think it's best to discretely ask one of their parents so you can keep it straight the rest of the visit. Also, the parents can clue you in on differences that make it easier to tell them apart </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253448 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 11:42:34 +0000 mrbee 1253448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm an identical twin, and my mom dressed us in matching clothes but with our first initial sewed onto our shirts. Do not recommend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-multiples-help-me-be-a-better-cousin#post-1253405 Mon, 02 Dec 2013 11:28:59 +0000 Corduroy 1253405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a big family get together over the weekend and my cousin brought her twin toddlers. Fun! Most of the extended family, myself included, sees the twins about twice a year. They are fraternal but we can't tell them apart. We were using the 'Susie has pigtails and Sara has a ponytail' method. That works if Mom introduces them first but now they are of the age where they can venture off on their own. I heard "which one are you?" dozens of times. "Hi, what's your name?" sounds distant for family members and, like most toddlers, they aren't very forthcoming with their names. </p> <p>How would you like people to find out your kids' names? </p>