https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 06:47:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1855247 Tue, 09 Sep 2014 15:41:49 +0000 plantains 1855247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: best comment ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851614 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:50:17 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1851614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: LOLed at your comment! :) I'm just starting the get the beginnings of this and it is SO annoying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851612 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:45:18 +0000 Dandelion 1851612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: agreed.</p> <p>If you don't scold your kids for being assholes, then they grow up and become assholes to everyone else. They DO need to learn to have some respect for other people. Starting with their parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851610 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:42:23 +0000 .twist. 1851610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: hahaha perfect example. One of my cousins said that he loved potty training because each time the kid actually went potty he got a scotch and the day just kept getting easier. ;) :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851608 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:38:46 +0000 Silva 1851608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: haha. all the scotch. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851605 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:38:07 +0000 Silva 1851605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: Like @.twist.: said, I really didn't mean to be offensive or defensive :) I guess I took your comment to suggest that this woman needed therapy because she yelled at her kids once, which to me means you are making assumptions about how she functions on a day to day basis (unless you would go to therapy because you yelled once? I guess I think of therapy as something you engage in to address behavior patterns). It seems to me that even those who are doing all the right things to manage their mood will likely still yell at their kids once in a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851604 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:37:27 +0000 Dandelion 1851604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a common occurrence while parenting:</p> <p>Kid is doing something obnoxious.<br /> Mom asks kid nicely to stop.<br /> Kid doesn't stop. Kid keeps on as if they didn't hear you. But, they did.<br /> Mom says, "I said, please stop."<br /> Kid argues about why they need to stop. At the same time NOT stopping.<br /> Mom says, "stop now." still calm, not yelling.<br /> Kid begins to whine. DOESN'T STOP.<br /> Mom: STOP NOW!!!!!!<br /> Kid erupts in tears and howling, and acts as if you told them Christmas is forever cancelled. Kid runs to room and slams door.</p> <p>Seriously, it's enough to make anyone crazy. Kids are just selfish people, who don't know how to appreciate their parents. It's nothing new and it won't ever end. Parents don't need counseling. Just maybe some scotch, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851594 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:11:15 +0000 .twist. 1851594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Greentea: I don't think Silva meant any offence. I think your comment kind of sounds like you're suggesting the article writer needs therapy, or to be more conscious of her moods. It's not always that easy and while she may manage her stress and mood the majority of the time, the point is that, with all that, we can still have a shitty day and snap. That doesn't mean we can't manage our moods or need therapy.</p> <p>ETA: I'm not trying to stir the pot, I just want to give a little clarity. Whether your comment suggested how I interpreted it or not, that is how I read it. It's no biggie though, we all are entitled to our own thoughts on the matter. I just don't want anyone getting into arguments over wording. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851588 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 11:01:39 +0000 Andrea 1851588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, my 4.5 year old can make me soooooo mad. Babies and toddlers aren't capable of pushing your buttons at that level. It's hard to hold it together every minute of every day. I'm sure this blogger doesn't lose her shit all the time, but yeah, of course it can happen here and there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851557 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 10:00:37 +0000 Greentea 1851557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: not a single thing I said was judgemental. In fact, I assumed she was in a bad mood that particular morning. When we manage our mood we are better able to deal with how hard parenting is. I have no illusions. I said parenting was hard. I think happier people are coping better by managing the difficulty, by managing their mood- not that some people have it easier. This is true for me. By suggesting she manage her mood, I personally find that helpful, because humans react poorly when in a poor mood. Everyone has yelled, we are human, but I personally find myself handling things better when I have an improved mood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851424 Sat, 06 Sep 2014 01:14:26 +0000 StbHisMrs 1851424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Well put. </p> <p> I lose it more often then I'd like to admit, my 12 year knows exactly what buttons to push and when. It sucks, but it happens. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851402 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 23:00:31 +0000 .twist. 1851402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: Who wants to admit that they lost their cool and yelled at their kid? I don't. But it totally happens. It doesn't mean I need therapy, or anger management. It means that I'm human. Parenting IS hard. That's why we should not have to feel guilt or shame because we lose it from time to time. If it's an every day, all day, thing. Then I can understand possibly needing some stress management. Otherwise, we are just human and it will happen. Our kids are going to test our boundaries. Maybe not now, maybe they will be angels until they're 16. Maybe they'll be angels until they're 25. But at some point they will push you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851297 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 20:14:51 +0000 Smurfette 1851297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: couldn't agree more </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851295 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 20:09:36 +0000 Crisark 1851295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it humorous that some would critize her for this. Her post is real life. When you get to the point where you have a few kids and they are older and start to rebel you can't stop that. It's going to happen no matter how 'perfect ' you think you will be at parenting. I'm living it and it's totally real what she wrote about.<br /> Seriously, wait until you have more than one child who is older than toddler size and come back and readdress this article. You'll relate on so many levels.<br /> I feel for her. No one is perfect. And I'm sure she's an awesome mom who is simply human. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851291 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 20:05:44 +0000 T-Mom 1851291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think we have all been there. It is somehow way more easy to become enraged at a child who is old enough to "know better" than a baby or toddler who obviously still does not know. I will have weeks to by where I am doing great and so patient and all it takes is one bad day and I will snap. I feel horribly guilty but at the same time have to forgive myself and move on. It's the only way to cope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851253 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 19:23:41 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1851253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: great response - I agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851240 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 18:59:08 +0000 blackbird 1851240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Silva: agreed. I think this rings like a true situation for every mom at some point </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851226 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 18:30:31 +0000 Silva 1851226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: @Greentea: I would argue that if this particular morning was note-worthy, something she felt guilty about, and something she clearly ruminated on, that it is likely not a common place event.<br /> I agree that her language was scary, and I'm sure it was an awful experience for her children, but to extrapolate that this one event is indicative of her entire approach to parenting is judgmental and not helpful. </p> <p>We romanticize motherhood beyond realism. Its gone on for ever, but now it saturates our culture even more thanks to media/ social media and capitalism (there is money to be made in selling shit that makes you a "good mom"). We ALL will have at least one bad, horrible moment. It might not look like this, but it will look like something else. Its easy to tell ourselves that we would NEVER do something like that. My best friend's mother slapped her once. I can say I would never, ever hit my kid. But you know what, if my 15 year old (adopted) daughter said to me "you aren't even my real mom!" in the middle of a fight, I can't promise you that I wouldn't react similarly.<br /> I've worked with abusive mothers before. They don't write about what they do and put it on the internet for everyone to see. They don't talk about it. And quite frankly, I think the lack of HONEST conversation about how difficult parenting can be sets up people to feel isolated and guilty. Sure, there are hilarious anecdotal pieces about how difficult toddlers are or how little sleep you've gotten. But the raw, painful truth about parenthood is rarely discussed. And the reason its rarely discussed is because when people actually speak it, they are shamed for not controlling themselves, scaring their children, and being BAD MOTHERS. Which, if our culture has taught us anything, is the worst thing a woman can be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851218 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 18:11:27 +0000 blackbird 1851218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: yep exactly. Everyone will have one of these days at some point. And be horrified it happened to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851156 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:43:28 +0000 lilteacherbee 1851156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: YES! My LO is only 9.5 months old, so not there yet, but my 4-5 year old students. Omg. I really do have a massive amount of patience, but even so, I have my moments. Like today, my kids were not listening (hello, second week of school) and I'd heard my name called a million and a half times, complete with little fingers poking me to get my attention. I looked at my TA and said "I'm going to take a potty break" and then I retreated to the bathroom for a minute of silence. </p> <p>I like to think that this will help prepare me for when I have older kids. My mom was/is a yeller and I promised myself I wouldn't be like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851155 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:39:56 +0000 Greentea 1851155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Parenting is hard. In every.way. I think if she is in that poor of a mood however, that she should take steps to manage it. (Sleep, exercise, therapy, whatever.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851151 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 16:32:12 +0000 sarac 1851151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes, no. Never. I really feel for her children, hearing their mom say that she's going to kill one of them? Wow. How scary for them. It sounds like she does a lot of power struggling with her kids - no wonder they rebel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1851098 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 15:41:54 +0000 Lindsay05 1851098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Oh the repeating. That irritates me to no end. I've had to pull out the mom line "i'm not going to tell you again". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850911 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:51:40 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1850911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: hahaha, yes! I teach primary and young kids are te same. I've had a few that I could just read the "F you!" in their faces. Plus, you can't chase anyone or swear! So, I turned to wine at the end of the day :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850908 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:50:08 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1850908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I have felt like this and yelled and threatened (not cussing) my son before after he wears me down over and over again. Its awful and I feel guilty and apologetic afterwards and we talk and hug but it's hard too. They push and test and you break sometimes. Its hard not to at times </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850904 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:49:07 +0000 Anagram 1850904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my friends posted this a while back on FB and I responded that my JOB is more like this post than my home life, since my LO is only a year.</p> <p>But yeah, middle schoolers....sometimes they are just one, big F you. Still love my job tho! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850894 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:44:27 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 1850894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kid isn't that old yet, but I know that feeling of being completely drained of patience. Honestly, I first felt it when we were raising our puppy! I would just boil over about little things. In so glad we had our dog first because I'm better about taking care of my emotions now. I know those moments are inevitable, but I'm hopeful I can mitigate them so there aren't as many. </p> <p>I know my mom felt this way about us. She would yell sometimes, but I understand why now. She felt so under appreciated and devalued that she even moved out for several weeks when I was in high school. It was miserable and I'm so glad she did it - for herself &amp; for us! We got a huge wake-up call in our family about respect &amp; gratitude. I'm just sorry it got to that point and I'm going to work to make sure it never will for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850879 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:28:46 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1850879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fairy: yes. My mom yelled. Never often but I was scared of making her mad (also, part of it is my personality, being yelled at really breaks me). But there are days when my 1 year old is whining &amp; whining for no freaking reason &amp; I'll yell "Stop!" &amp; I always feel so bad after doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850846 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:08:06 +0000 Mamaof2 1850846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not to proud to admit it but that is what I tell DH all the time "I can only take so much and then I lose it!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-of-older-kids-do-you-have-days-like-this#post-1850832 Fri, 05 Sep 2014 13:01:18 +0000 .twist. 1850832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my god. It's really refreshing to hear/read about parents who aren't perfect. I think she hit the nail on the head. You can be an almost perfect parent 90% of the time, and then one day, one thing will just send you off the deep end. This has happened to me more times than I'd like to admit. </p> <p>Kids push you to your breaking point. </p>