https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 02:54:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-740002 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:51:29 +0000 runsyellowlites 740002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I'm amazed at how not getting out of bed has helped me feel so much more rested!!! The only thing I would change is I would've done it from the beginning, or atleast earlier, because at a year old P was just so intrigued &amp; excited with her new freedom of space and bedtime took FOREVER the first two nights! She just kept crawling around smiling &amp; squealing, which was super adorable but not very good for getting to bed at a decent time for her. Lol Last night went much better &amp; she was down in 15ish minutes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-739937 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:32:03 +0000 bunnylove08 739937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I was thinking about doing the same configuration. I'm going to talk to DH about this. We end up cosleeping with her when she does her 2-3am wake up. this would make life so much easier </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-739900 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:20:30 +0000 runsyellowlites 739900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I've always responded as soon as I hear P. We actually just changed our set up to have a sidecar to our bed so we now basically have a big family bed! So far it's been working really well. </p> <p>We're looking at continuing this through the next year due to space. </p> [attach=1400/13/mlruy7.600x440.bedroom.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-739873 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 13:11:54 +0000 bunnylove08 739873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Thanks for telling me what you do. I think I might try it with LO on the weekend when DH and I dont have to go to work. Sometimes I let her cry but it just gets louder and louder and then she's just up. Its hard to hear her cry when we share a bedroom. Crossing my fingers. We gave her a lovey (jellycat bunny) and sometimes the bunny works and some times it doesnt. Usually the paci is better at putting her right to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-739777 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 12:38:39 +0000 mrs. wagon 739777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: we typically waited 5 minutes, or if she's not crying hard, 10. Usually she'd just fuss on and off. If it was clear she was just escalating we'd go in before 5 minutes. LMW didn't take a paci but she did take to a lovey and now she just screams until she wakes up enough to look around and find her lovey. Then she rubs her face in it and falls back asleep. Magical.</p> <p>Waiting and listening to the cries is awful :( I couldn't do it sometimes so I'd put a pillow over my head and have Wagon Sr. monitor the situation and give me updates. When your baby is screaming, 5 minutes is eternity :( but so worth it for us. She hasn't needed us at night at ALL unless she's sick. She falls asleep completely on her own for all naps and bedtime now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-739059 Wed, 24 Apr 2013 09:35:46 +0000 bunnylove08 739059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Questions for you non sleep training moms, how long to you let LO cry or fuss before you go in to put back in the paci? </p> <p>When DD makes a peep DH and I are up and running. I was wondering if we should let her cry/fuss for a bit then go and aid her. Thoughts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-696772 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 20:19:38 +0000 bunnylove08 696772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So a small update. I had dd go to bed at 630 and she had less wakings I hope it lasts. I will not have a lot of time with her when I come home from work but at least I will get some sleep. I guess it's true, sleep begets sleep </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-696586 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 17:35:25 +0000 MsMamaBear 696586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We coslept until she was maybe 10 or 11 months, from birth. She started to sleep for long stretches at 3 or 4 months. We coslept b/c we both work full time and there was no way I was about to be up all night, so her sleeping with us worked. She is in her toddler bed now and likes it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal/page/2#post-696501 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 15:53:58 +0000 littlebittyhouse 696501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: I did some non CIO sleep work when he was 6 mo old and my supply TANKED. we started cosleeping in part for the night feedings and I haven't had a supply issue since. I WOH and pump three times a day. Without the cosleeping I prob would have to supplement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-695761 Sat, 06 Apr 2013 07:24:00 +0000 hilsy85 695761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We also failed at sleep training...it was traumatic for me and so now I"m committed to just waiting it out until he STTN on his own. The only positive is that he goes back to sleep relatively quickly after using the paci or nursing him. And I really do think it's developmentally related--his sleep has been really bad the last month and a half, but he is doing SO many new things--rolling both ways, vocalizing, starting to sit up. Co-sleeping is also not really an option for us, as DH and I don't sleep well with him in our bed. I wish we could do it though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-695628 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 23:34:20 +0000 leelee 695628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We failed at sleep training. DD would cry for hours! What I highly recommend is that if you plan on sleep training to do it before they are mobile. DD can now crawl and pull herself up on the crib so she stands there crying sometimes and falls. Her sleep has definitely gotten better just with age (wakes up 1-2 times a night and we just restart her mobile and she falls back asleep) But oh boy would i LOVE 1 night of uninterrupted sleep! Goodluck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-695593 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 22:32:29 +0000 sarac 695593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Cosleeping. And then putting her in her own room, which truly did help her sleep better. But it sucked. We kept trying to send daddy down instead of me nursing, and at 13 months it finally worked. She doesn't always STTN at 18 months, but she's night weaned. It sucked, for sure. I'm sorry you're struggling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-695560 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 22:09:21 +0000 bunnylove08 695560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: @runsyellowlites: oh I hope this boosts my supply! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694851 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 15:23:27 +0000 runsyellowlites 694851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: That's great &amp; so true! Prolactin triggers are more "concentrated" so to speak at night so night nursing is wonderful for supply! I've actually talked to moms that night weaned to sleep train &amp; then were unable to keep their supply up through nursing strikes. I know for us, I have always been able to "fall back" on our night sessions. Glad to hear your pedi is supportive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694831 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 15:17:50 +0000 littlebittyhouse 694831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: Such a good way to think about it - just because they are 'able' doesn't mean that it is time for them! My new pedi actually complimented the cosleeping saying that babes in his age group are so distracted during the day that the night feedings are great for both milk suppy and baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694745 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:54:36 +0000 sorrycharlie 694745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: @bunnylove08: haha i do the same, i sort the loose (non wubbanub) ones in a teething ring! spits it out as soon as she's asleep, sometimes even before she's totally out..but for some reason when she wakes in the middle of the night, the pacifier (or nursing) is the only thing to calm her down :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694738 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:47:18 +0000 runsyellowlites 694738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: Yep! The way I see it, just because P is in the age range to be "able" to crawl doesn't mean she's ready so why would I try &amp; force her to learn?... Same for self soothing &amp; sttn. Plus I believe, from the research I've done, night wakings are biologically &amp; physiologically normal... It's our cultural schedule norms that are the "problem".</p> <p>@bunnylove08: Yes, there is an end. Tbh I was expecting it to be much later, but I promise they don't always wake through the night or need to sleep close. G is almost 9 &amp; he sleeps just fine in his own bed &amp; has for many many years. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694682 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:29:27 +0000 bunnylove08 694682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: If it falls out of her mouth i stick it in the corner and I use one of her stacking rings so its easier to find. I guess I should pluck it out and see if that works.Thanks! I keep three in the crib and some how they all get lost LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694657 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:24:13 +0000 MamaMoose 694657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: @sorrycharlie: Just a follow up on pacis. I actually find that LO sleeps better if I wait until she's in a deep sleep and then I pluck the paci out and move it to the corner of the crib in case we need it later. That way she doesn't smack it out of her mouth and startle herself and she doesn't drop it right by her face and then roll on it. When I pluck it out she doesn't wake up looking for it nearly as often. Just something to try. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694653 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:22:57 +0000 mrsjyw 694653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've used a paci and/or lovey rub across his face (did not leave with him crib as he is too young still) and that usually gets him back down in a few minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694648 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 14:21:55 +0000 sorrycharlie 694648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: we have two wubbanubs :( it ends up getting tangled in her blanket, or she isn't sure where in the crib it is (I assume) cause she pulls it out in her sleep and it ends up wherever. lol I always have to check the monitor before going in so I know where to find it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694569 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 13:53:11 +0000 bunnylove08 694569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: there is an end! I'm so glad you posted and said that your LO figured it out on her own. We sometimes let her co sleep with us depending on my exhaustion. </p> <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I feel your pain about memory loss. I feel like my work is really suffering from my lack of sleep and I'm so lucky to have a boss that understands but I dont want to take advantage of the situation.</p> <p>@sorrycharlie: honeybee suggested I get a wubbanub, I just bought one on amazon. I'll tell you how it goes if it works for me, maybe you can give one to LO too so hopefully she can put it back in her mouth on her own since its a little easier to locate. </p> <p>@MamaMoose: I think we we move room it will be us leaving the room since DD goes to bed at 7pm and even though we dont stay up much longer DH likes to watch TV sometimes and we only have one TV in the apt. I'll talk to DH and see if this might work for us. If it doesnt we can all just share one bed :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694450 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 13:28:06 +0000 MamaMoose 694450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My pedi told me to get the baby out of our room to help with sleep and it has truly made a difference for us. CIO will never work if you are in the same room as them. And they are also unlikely to self soothe if they are in the same room (and not the same bed). Basically your LO can see and smell you which makes her want to be with you... but when she's in a different room she can't. My husband is also much more effective at soothing her now that she's in her own room because she doesn't see me she just sees him. Can you move your LO's crib to the living room to see if it helps? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694420 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 13:21:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 694420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we're in the same boat. LO is 6 months. honestly, i'm so sick of friends telling me to 'let her scream!' ...ok, get back to me when you have kids, thanks! OY!</p> <p>with her, there is usually a reason - like @mrskc said, she has gas or something. and if I go in to give her the pacifier, she's back out within minutes. I'm not going to just let her cry when it's not her fault she can't see to locate the pacifier again :( once she can get around the crib, then maybe...but she can't roll back to front yet so she's kind of stranded, lol.</p> <p>I think she's about to do something - get a tooth or roll, or who knows, cause last night she was up literally every 30m-1h screaming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694232 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:19:38 +0000 littlebittyhouse 694232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: nope. someday we will miss the snuggles and be BEGGING them to get out of bed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694215 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:13:17 +0000 MsLipGloss 694215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: We are pretty much in the same boat . . . it works for us, even though it is not ideal. I know it won't last forever. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694207 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:09:10 +0000 littlebittyhouse 694207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: i truly believe that they will do it when ready. at 9mo he either dream feeds 1x or sttn and has started to put himself back to sleep sometimes. makes me feel better about our decision not to CIO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694199 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:04:55 +0000 teamjse 694199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: DS will whine for me if he sees me, if he doesn't, he is happy about getting his soothing and comforting from DH. Plus it really gives you a mental and physical break. We made it a point from the beginning to share night feedings (we always give LO a bottle at his night feeding) so LO is use to having DH up with him at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694198 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:04:47 +0000 mrskc 694198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing b/c we're in the same boat! I feel for you! DH and I got into an argument last night too over DS's sleep. DH just wants to let him cry and I don't. I just can't let him cry especially like last night, when I think he was having gas pains. I really don't want to sleep train and I refuse to do CIO. I just keep hoping he'll just eventually grow out of it on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moms-who-did-not-sleep-train-how-did-you-deal#post-694191 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 12:01:51 +0000 runsyellowlites 694191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bed-share after her first waking. Her and I spend the rest of the night snuggling &amp; dream feeding side-lying. She just recently started sttn most nights (just shy of 1 year). </p> <p>sidenote: We are a non-cio home &amp; P learned to self sooth completely on her own time when she was ready. If/when she wakes I promptly go in &amp; nurse her back to sleep.... she's never needed to fuss/cry to learn to self-soothe, &amp; she's begun putting herself back to sleep most wakings without issue. </p>