https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 22:59:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320376 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 08:11:08 +0000 swedishfish 1320376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: same. The idea of having MS again is not pleasant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320330 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 05:08:36 +0000 tequiero21 1320330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm definitely more nervous with this 2nd pregnancy. I remember thinking I never wanted to feel the deep chill again, like I was dying or something, after my csec. I had yucky morning sickness so I'm not looking forward to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320269 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 01:49:07 +0000 mamimami 1320269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was more nervous the second time by far! Because I knew what to expect. The fact that I started watching random birth videos one night on YouTube didn't help and I don't recommend that to anyone!! But in the end it was all good, better than the first time in many ways!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320232 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 00:27:17 +0000 lemondrop 1320232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no- </p> <p>I am more CONFIDENT this time around that I can do it. The baby can only get so big before my water breaks and he has to come out. I wasn't convinced that C would be able to fit coming out, they had me scared of a 10 pound baby from the ultrasounds- he was just tall. </p> <p>I'm scared of how fast it can be- last time was a run away train, I couldn't wrap my mind around it until it was over. But it can only last for so long. </p> <p>I'm scared of getting someone to watch our son until my parents or IL's can arrive, thankfully our neighbors have already offered to help out however we need. I love them!</p> <p>I'm scared of recovery- that was NOT fun, especially now with a toddler to chase. We are setting up for family to stay with us during that time. </p> <p>I'm nervous about having to do the NICU again, especially with a kid at home that I hate to leave. I can't imagine being torn between my two boys and having to choose where to be. Last time turned out to be a very positive experience, but I would love to not have to go "visit" my baby. </p> <p>Really, the pain is the least of my worries this time around, and while I'm not looking forward to labor, I am excited to meet our boy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320217 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 00:01:50 +0000 googly-eyes 1320217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Weagle: exactly! Plus there are hormones to help us forget l&amp;d..yay for those. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320213 Sun, 05 Jan 2014 00:00:17 +0000 googly-eyes 1320213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I wouldn't want to either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320096 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 22:09:36 +0000 Ree723 1320096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am and I'm not. I had a wonderful birth experience with DD, complete with an amazing epidural that made birth an enjoyable experience. I didn't feel anything but was able to push well with the use of a mirror, and didn't feel any of the stitches for my second degree tear (a major fear of mine before going into labour). Recovery was easy peasy and it was just a pleasant experience all around.</p> <p>I am petrified it won't be that easy again - can I really get that lucky twice?!? If I knew my birth experience would be the same, I'd have no fear at all but since no two births are the same.... Who knows?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320018 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 21:00:04 +0000 Bao 1320018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really nervous for how hard pushing was for me. The pressure was much more than I imagined it could be. I was puking and crying and shaking and screaming. I mean, I know it's "labor" but trying to get her out was the worst part. I'm also nervous for tearing again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1320009 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 20:56:43 +0000 Andrea 1320009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe a little since I wanted a med free birth with my 2nd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319983 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 20:43:13 +0000 MapleMoose 1319983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HLK208: I was induced and completely agree about the Pitocin. It was intense pain. I fear next time I will need to be induced again except I know what is coming pain-wise. Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319759 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:45:35 +0000 HLK208 1319759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't worried because I'm pretty sure adrenaline helped me get through the pain with my first so I was confident I could do it again. I was induced with my second so the surprise was taken out of it (and replaced with pitocin haha). It was bad. Just bad. I didn't handle the pitocin well. However, I know I'll get an epi right away if I have to do pitocin again so I'm not nervous this time around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319756 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:44:56 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1319756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm undecided. </p> <p>On one hand, I know what to expect. On the other hand, *i know what to expect*. I really shouldn't have asked my sister (a nurse) how they perform a c-section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319746 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:37:16 +0000 chopsuey 1319746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wasn't nervous about labor since I knew what to expect.<br /> I was anxious about what to do with DD while we were away though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319712 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 18:12:54 +0000 Lindsay05 1319712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I do remember the pain and when I am feeling uncomfortable now, I just think of how much worse the pain gets. I went in the first time thinking 'oh how bad could it be?'. Now this time I know how bad it could be! Maybe that's a good thing? I don't know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319664 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 17:38:05 +0000 sorrycharlie 1319664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: seriously. my mom had me the same way that we did our firsts, she got to the hospital 6p and I was born 615! with my brother her doctor insisted on inducing so she wouldn't deliver at home lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319643 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 17:27:08 +0000 Cherrybee 1319643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im already terrified of giving birth again and we haven't even started thinking about number 2 yet!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319581 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 16:54:06 +0000 LomaLinda 1319581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the one hand, my first birth experience was empowering, because I was dreading giving birth and didn't think I could do it, but I did it! On the other hand, now I know how it really is, so I dread giving birth again (not pregnant now)! I think what I try to focus on is that surely the second baby won't take 3 hours to push out or cause as bad of tearing, so it'll be a better experience! Right? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319532 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 16:12:18 +0000 AprilFool 1319532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is one of my fears about a 2nd baby. I have to give birth </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319528 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 16:11:01 +0000 matador84 1319528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Navy_Mommy: I had a rare precipitous birth with my first and nearly ruptured my cervix--I was super close to having an emergency c-section, and ended up with an episiotomy and DS being vacuum delivered.</p> <p>I had a nightmare last night my water broke but I couldn't push him out and the nurses and doctors were all getting mad at me and threatening me with a c-section because it had been 24 hours since my water broke!</p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I can COMPLETELY relate. We had very similar births. My ob says I'll probably deliver this one faster, and I am so scared I'm going to start laboring at work or somewhere crazy before I can get to the hospital...and with DS in tow I have tons of anxiety surrounding that! I've contemplated being induced, but I'd really just rather not.</p> <p>@farmwifegina I'll look into the book! Getting over the mental block is the hardest part, I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319504 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:45:25 +0000 Dandelion 1319504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: yep. S' s shoulders got stuck. We're not risking that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319503 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:45:18 +0000 Mrsjets 1319503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: :heart: </p> <p>I'm more scared this time too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319501 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:34:29 +0000 Weagle 1319501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: When I was in the midst of the worst part of my morning sickness (which was pretty darn bad) my well-meaning neighbor told me, "Sweetie, you won't remember anything bad about the delivery, but you'll never forgot how horrible morning sickness is." So far, she's been right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319495 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:31:32 +0000 googly-eyes 1319495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: same here, I loved having the epi!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319494 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:30:39 +0000 googly-eyes 1319494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: will you still get a c section if/when you go into labor if it happens before the scheduled one? You are still in my thoughts and prayers. &lt;3</p> <p>I am not pregnant but I am dreading morning sickness much more than L&amp;D for the next time around! Ask me again when in past m/s next time! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319474 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:08:17 +0000 sorrycharlie 1319474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FarmWifeGina: I was pretty glad it was so fast and then over! Especially since they let me have an epidural and then labor down for a little bit...it totally helped my mood, LOL. pushing was actually enjoyable because I wasn't as stressed/in pain/ etc. I wouldn't mind doing that again if I knew I'd get an epi before pushing. For some reason I just have zerrrroooo interest in feeling the birth. lol. I felt enough in the weeks afterward! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319467 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 15:05:12 +0000 FarmWifeGina 1319467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: Just so you know, I am super jealous of people who have labors like that! I'd take the furious part of fast and furious if it meant I got to pushing faster. But then, the longest I've ever pushed (after 24+ hours of labor all 3 times), was 8 minutes, soooo, yeah... Easiest, most "fun" part for me. But having drawn-out labors probably makes me a better doula in the long run, so I guess it's ok. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319458 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:59:09 +0000 Dandelion 1319458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. But not because of the pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319453 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:55:01 +0000 septca 1319453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not pregnant yet, but I already know that I will be that situation. With DD, I was confident and excited about birth. I had a very long, intense labor - I don't remember much pain (even though I went med free), but I was EXHAUSTED and pushed for more than 4 hours. Because I know what to expect next time (although everyone tells me it will be easier the second time), I think I will be much more scared! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319441 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:49:58 +0000 sorrycharlie 1319441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not pregnant but super nervous. My labor was so unexpected, fast and furious with #1 that I am terrified I'll end up delivering at home or in the car! No offense to anyone who did that, it's just NOT my thing...I want an epidural stat. I barely got one last time! (literally, full dilated and trying not to bear down) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-nervous-about-2nd-birth-than-1st#post-1319410 Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:37:34 +0000 FarmWifeGina 1319410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: Yes, because I knew what I was in for. I don't like pain and discomfort, lol. But I had hopes that it would be faster and easier the second time around. It was and it wasn't.<br /> I was even more nervous about my third since my hopes for a less painful second birth hadn't really panned out. To the point where I even dreaded it and had to do some mental work to feel even halfway prepared. I didn't feel ready to go through it again until I was several days past my EDD, lol. Thankfully, my head was in a better place than I thought and I was able to power through by staying in the moment and focusing on one thing at a time and it was most definitely my easiest, most comfortable birth. Not painless by any means, but I don't feel traumatized by the memory of the pain. Now, obviously, part of this was due to it being my third birth, but staying in the moment and not frealing out about how much worse it was going to get and voicing how I was feeling to my support team made a huge difference for my mentality through labor. </p> <p>You'll be fine. You're strong and you did once, you can certainly do it again. :) If you feel like you might need a little extra help preparing mentally for this birth, I highly recommend the book 'Birthing From Within' by Pam England. Very, very good. </p>