https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 16:08:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1258920 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 11:42:12 +0000 littlebittyhouse 1258920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd leave it alone - i put a sticky on my door that says 'just a minute please!' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1258622 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 10:38:53 +0000 erwoo 1258622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have just said, "I'm pumping milk for my baby!" ;) I'd leave it alone and move on. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1258604 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 10:35:45 +0000 MamaMoose 1258604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I think an easy solution would probably be to just write "occupied" on a piece of paper and stick it on the door to the room. I think people have the right to be uncomfortable talking about breastfeeding. Especially a young guy who has no experience with it. He'll learn some day... Or maybe he won't if he never has children or if he and his partner choose to formula feed. But either way my perspective is other people's knowledge/comfort has nothing to do with me as long as it doesn't affect my ability to feed my baby the way I choose. At this point, that's the issue you have but I think a sign will fix that problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1258130 Wed, 04 Dec 2013 08:15:14 +0000 Anagram 1258130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: haha! First time I've been "accused" of being breastfeeding militant! I definitely do not fall into the "militant about breastfeeding" camp. but I do fall into the "why pretend I'm not doing something I'm legally entitled to do, when it means various people are going to keep trying to walk in on me" camp. Tech guys and janitors and various teachers have keys to every room in the building. </p> <p>But I'm also trying to keep in mind that some people, like my Tech friend, may be embarassed about it.</p> <p>I should add, he regularly offers me things like chocolate, and when I say I'm not eating dairy he'll ask why. And I'll say because my baby is allergic. And then he'll be like, "but what does that have to do with you?" And I just say thing like..."I'm gonna let you have a couple of minutes to see if you can figure that one out". And then he's like, "Ew, gross!". I mean. WTF, he asked. I don't think BFing is necessary for all babies, but I also think it's silly if people think it's gross. I'm not going to tiptoe around coworkers thinking it's weird...my baby is not even 5 months yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256906 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:04:50 +0000 MamaMoose 1256906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it alone. But then I again I'm one of those who finds people who are militant about breastfeeding to be just as bad as people who are anti breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256896 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 16:00:41 +0000 MapleMoose 1256896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LOL at him covering his ears :wink: At least he didn't see the goods! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256667 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 15:03:50 +0000 Anagram 1256667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: that's a good idea, maybe I should. But in my school, there's a lot of gossip if you don't fully explain things. So I feel like if I shoot off an email like that, certain people (honestly, one of the male coaches comes to mind) will immediately start the gossip train about what I might be doing that gives me "extra" time off that he doesn't get. So I'd rather just tell them straight out I'm pumping (and dare them to say a word about that). </p> <p>But then it seems weird to send out an email stating my pumping habits.</p> <p>I would absolutely have sent an email before, but last year I got accepted onto a fairly prestigous book committee which got my school thousands of dollars. My principal happily gave me the days off from work to go to the committee meetings but told me I'd have to pay for transportation there myself since the school's "professional development" funds were frozen during budget cutbacks. When I went to the committee, apparently SEVERAL coworkers banded together and appraoched the principal in outrage that I was allowed to go to these things when the district wasn't paying for them to attend professional development ops.</p> <p>When the principal explained that the district was paying nothing for me, and that I paid my own transportation AND got our school thousands of dollars of books, they got over it. </p> <p>But it was a big ugly scene first. Like...get angry first, ask questions later type of thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256628 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:54:38 +0000 swedishfish 1256628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I definitely sent an email out at the beginning of the school year saying "my office would be closed during 5th period everyday until further notice. Thanks for understanding". A tech guy (maybe it's a tech guy thing?) still walked in on me. But definitely send an email for everyone else. You don't have to announce what you're doing but just let them know that room is off limits during these periods. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256487 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:09:41 +0000 Anagram 1256487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess. You guys are so nice! I kind of feel like it's my duty to spread the word on these issues just in the slight chance one day, someone I talk to will be in a position of power over another woman trying to pump at work.</p> <p>But I might be a little crazy about that type of thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256482 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:08:19 +0000 blackbird 1256482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ha, let it go. Don't force the knowledge on him or you'll traumatize the poor guy! </p> <p>Hell, even my husband doesn't want to hear about other women doing their breastfeeding/pumping things and he's 30! With a wife and child! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256481 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 14:08:10 +0000 looch 1256481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd let it go too, he knows what you were doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256467 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:57:19 +0000 Adira 1256467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG! That's a close call!!!</p> <p>But I would just let it go. He's a young guy and doesn't want to know what you're doing. He'll learn all about it eventually (maybe) and I don't think you need to force the issue. I just wouldn't bring it up again unless he does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256465 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:56:23 +0000 autumnlove 1256465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let it go! Sounds like he won't be hanging around that room anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/more-pumping-at-work-embarassment#post-1256458 Tue, 03 Dec 2013 13:54:05 +0000 Anagram 1256458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I'm NOT embarassed by this, but my coworker seems embarassed. I work in a middle school. There is nowhere truly "private" to pump that isn't a bathroom, so I pump in a little room off the library that is supposed to be a professional library but that isn't really used much. The bad part is that is has a HUGE window into the library that is covered with blinds. But, you can still see through the blinds that lights are on in the little room (ie. that someone, like ME might be in there).</p> <p>My principal knows I pump and most of the female teachers know (just because they are all nosy and they've all asked how I'm feeding my baby), but I definitely didn't send out a PSA to the whole faculty about where I'm pumping and when.</p> <p>Anyway, I'm sitting there with just the hands-free on, when I hear a KEY go into the locked door. So I jump up and am like, "Occupied! This room is occupied!" and I hear the tech guy's voice go, "What are you doing in there? Are you sleeping?"</p> <p>I just shouted "No!" and left it at that.</p> <p>I tried to go explain to him afterward what I'm doing in there during 1st and 6th (my lunch time) periods, but he literally put his hands over his ears and said he "didn't want to know".</p> <p>He seems so embarassed. LOL. he's like...a 24 year old kid, btw. I kind of feel like I should force him to listen as an educating moment so he knows what to expect should he ever have a partner/wife/child/etc.</p> <p>But should I let it go? We're friends, btw. Like...coworker friends, not outside-of-work friends. </p>