https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 02:16:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-634924 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 16:31:04 +0000 googly-eyes 634924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I don't know why people think your body is off limits for discussion, but I would totally call them out on it with my sarcasm!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-633943 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 12:41:29 +0000 LindsayInNY 633943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@legallyheidi: Psssh, seriously?! You do not look like you're having twins! You look exactly as I would expect to look at your size. When you're short, there's only so many places baby can go ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-633879 Tue, 12 Mar 2013 12:25:57 +0000 jh524 633879@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hear ya! I have a lovely coworker who keeps asking me how the twins are... But she knows I'm just having one so is she just trying to be funny because its getting annoying!!! Don't they know not to mess with a pregnant lady!!!! Just let it slide, you've got bigger and better things to think about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-630166 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:50:53 +0000 legallyheidi 630166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>a friend's mother commented yesterday on my facebook page "are you sure you're not having twins? that is a good sized baby!" </p> <p>I'm 37 1/2 weeks pregnant lady! Of course I feel as big as a house (which one of my bosses said to me last week..."how are you feeling? You must be as big as a house!") though most people (bless my husbands heart, he's been wonderful) are pretty tasteful with comments and simply ask "how are you feeling" every. freakin'. time. they see me.</p> <p>I generally think a lot of people lack a sense of tact and politeness. Not sure why conversing with a pregnant woman makes them lose that filter but man, I wish I could slap people who make comments like that :|| </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-630153 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:45:31 +0000 Bookish 630153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pastemoo: I bet! My boss has been really awesome about just telling me how gorgeous and glowing I am every time she sees me, and it makes my day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-630081 Mon, 11 Mar 2013 09:17:35 +0000 pastemoo 630081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so frustrating!</p> <p>The worst part is after you have the baby and see someone gorgeously pregnant and you can't figure out what to say or how to say it because you know how hard it was... and how little the pregnant mama is able to appreciate her pregnant beauty, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-621814 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 17:21:39 +0000 Mrs. Blue 621814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Something about someone saying you "look ripe" gives me serious heebie jeebies. Eeew. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-621004 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 14:15:22 +0000 FauxBoho 621004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Oh barf, that is such a gross thing for a man to say to a pregnant lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620787 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 13:21:32 +0000 Meridian 620787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Nooooo!!! How can people be so f'ing rude!! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620380 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:42:23 +0000 heartonastring 620380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Ugh, I feel for you. I had the world's worst acne for the first two trimesters. Like terrible, painful, cystic acne like nothing I've ever experienced before. I cried about it so many times. I didn't even want to go out in public.</p> <p>I'm sorry that woman was such an idiot to you. People don't realize how insecure these things can make you and that it is not their place to say a thing about it.</p> <p>Not sure how far along you are, but my face has completely cleared up in the third tri. I've been left with some nasty hyperpigmentation on both my cheeks, but at least I can cover that up, and I plan to use a spot-lightening treatment after baby is born. I hope yours clears up for you as well...I know how difficult it can be :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620346 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:36:51 +0000 heartonastring 620346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I'm sorry this happened to you :(</p> <p>I had a few women at work make repeated comments to me (including one who made me cry in the middle of the office after making a "joke" about my pregnancy acne). I finally called them on their shit and have not heard a peep out of them since.</p> <p>I think being direct with people is really helpful in these situations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620343 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:36:09 +0000 Bookish 620343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katiew92081: LOL! Seriously... when people ask me about what kind of childbirth, breastfeeding, etc, I wonder if they realize they are asking about my vag &amp; boobs, cuz seriously. </p> <p>@grizz: OMG. That is horrible!!! I had the worst pregnancy acne for the first 16 or so weeks and I would have died if that happened. Woo for your husband sticking up for you!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620339 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:35:07 +0000 Grace 620339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Haha! No, I'm a lab tech. But maybe it helps, because I'm trained to look at things objectively? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620302 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:25:48 +0000 Dandelion 620302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL made a comment like this. We were out to dinner and she told me my booty was filling out nicely. When I gave her a weird look she just said, "What? it's a compliment! Women pay good money to have their butts get like that!" And then went on and on, trying to smooth it over. She has no filter, though. today she asked if I've lost my mucous plug, and I just asked her if she felt gross saying the word mucous plug, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620276 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:18:00 +0000 irene 620276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: OMG. I would have punched her in the face !!!!!! hahahahaha!! Yeah, I wouldn't need a makeover with you after my baby is born because my skin will be cleared because of that. </p> <p>Well, she is probably one of the "very unlucky" ones that got herself fired. I am glad the manager gave you guys a gift card!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620269 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:16:35 +0000 Happygal 620269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: are you by any chance a counselor? I have a bunch of counselor friends, and they always talk about the benefit of reframing things just like you did here. It really does help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620255 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:13:34 +0000 Boheme 620255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: Ahh, I forgot one! I had cheese pizza face for a few weeks at the beginning of my second trimester. I went to buy my usual makeup at the makeup counter where I've shopped forever. The lady who waited on me INSISTED I switch to the acne coverage formula, and when I told her I couldn't use it because I was pregnant, she said "Seriously?! Most women have beautiful glowing skin during pregnancy! You must've gotten just very unlucky because you're broken out everywhere." I didn't say anything, but when we were leaving she followed it up with "Make sure you come in for a complete makeover after the baby is born! We'll get that skin fixed!" </p> <p>Yep. I bawled in the parking lot while my angry husband talked to the manager...I never would have said anything! They were so shocked she said that to me they gave me a $50 giftcard to the department store I bought my makeup at, so I guess that helped. lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620220 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 11:08:00 +0000 MsLipGloss 620220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Seriously? What the what?! *augh* I can think of a few worse names for her and her inability to keep her comments to herself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620085 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:39:56 +0000 irene 620085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bookworm: I can't recall having mean comments about my body while I was pregnant and sorry you had to go through that! Maybe I just had a bad memory but people were very nice. My face broke out like a cheese pizza back then and I was so glad no one made a comment about that except me.</p> <p>Actually my very good girl friends did say, wow your belly is so big (corresponding to how many weeks I was at that time), but that didn't really bother me. It was OK because they were good friends.</p> <p>Next time when that person say you are carrying your baby in your hips, you should tell her, "yeah that's my excuse, what's yours?" </p> <p>:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620060 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:37:09 +0000 Boheme 620060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I had an older lady at church tell me I was being selfish and putting the baby in danger by wearing heels. They were maybe 2.5 inches tall! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620052 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:35:56 +0000 Boheme 620052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: hahaha! babylicious! </p> <p>Hugs. I've been struggling big time with this too. I tend to be a self conscious person anyway, so it didn't help that the week I announced my pregnancy, a coworker yelled across the room at the Christmas potluck (with about 200 people present) "Dang, being pregnant has made your boobs HUGE!!!" That's just one of the many, many comments I've gotten. The only two where I've actually responded have been when someone grabbed a can of soup out of my hand, telling me if I ate it I'd blow up even more...and the other time being when someone told me I was really starting to waddle. I straight up called them out on being rude. </p> <p>99% of the time, I just awkwardly smile and go the other direction. Sigh. I need to get some gumption and say something to these people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620039 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:32:53 +0000 MsLipGloss 620039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: There were a couple of people in my office that always commented on me wearing heels during my pregnancy (they were more amazed at first, and then were sometimes *betting* outloud when I would stop). I wore heels until the day I delivered, and of course I have worn them every day since I returned from maternity leave. But here's what they don't get . . . I *always* wear heels to the office - it's just part of how I *dress* for work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-620009 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:27:16 +0000 Anagram 620009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just started getting my first comments this week (I'm 21 weeks today and I have definitely "popped"), but so far I haven't been offended. Although one lady made me laugh a lot (in my head).</p> <p>There's a chinese (as in, from China) Math teacher at my school who in a 2 minute conversation managed to point out that my body has "changed a lot" (yeah. I think that's supposed to happen), that although my due date is after the other teacher who is pregnant I am bigger (yup. she was thinner than me before pregnancy, too, so it makes sense) and she "complimented" me that AT LEAST I had the good sense to wear flats (she'd come over behind my desk to inspect my shoes), unlike the other pregnant lady, who was wearing heels that day. So she managed to judge both of us in 30 seconds. Quite a feat!</p> <p>It was actually really hilarious.</p> <p>I also had the 23 year old Tech guy exclaim, "Wow, you're really poppin' out now". But I don't mind him, because he always offers to bring me snacks when he has to go buy tech equipment, which is awesome because I always take him up on it, and now I get to blame him for my fatness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619997 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:22:44 +0000 Bookish 619997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: right?? It's amazing how I instantly turned into a public entity. Drives me bananas. </p> <p>@sorrycharlie: I think I'm getting to the point where people are gonna get called out. I did a 'c'mon you guys' to them this morning, but if they make me feel like I'm gonna cry again, it's on. </p> <p>@Grace: Aw thanks! I'm sure you're right, I know they don't mean it to be rude, but it's soo hard not to take personally when I'm this hormonal and self-conscious! 4 more months of this, gah!</p> <p>Is it bad that in my head I'm like 'well jeez, my waist is still smaller than yours and I'm 6 months pregnant!' BAM. Mean? Don't care :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619959 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:15:28 +0000 meredithNYC 619959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't really get comments from women, but that might be down to living in NYC and people generally keeping to themselves. I'm sure if I were living in the Midwest, where I grew up, people would be more open with the comments.</p> <p>However, once when I was like, 7 months pregnant, I was leaving the office and one of the security guys yelled across the lobby, "WHOA! Is it twins?!" Nope, not twins. I completely ignored him and then I had to leave before I started crying right then and there. Damn hormones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619945 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 10:11:23 +0000 Smurfette 619945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has been such a shocker for me. I am amazed what woman will say to another during pregnancy. Don't they remember what it was like to feel huge and uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619870 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:47:20 +0000 sorrycharlie 619870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I blamed it on the hormones during pregnancy (but truth is, i'm just blunt, perhaps to a fault?) but I called people out on it ALL THE TIME. unless it was like, my grandmother. then i just let sleeping dogs lie.</p> <p>but really - if someone said something i felt was rude, I'd say "well that's not very nice!" or, "geez, rude!" in a somewhat nice manner, and they'd always be startled that I said something. To those co-workers, I'd probably say "hey now! I didn't start talking about your body, did I?" and let them be ashamed. If they didn't catch on..I'd probably just ask why it was okay to talk about my body now that I was pregnant, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619831 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:35:39 +0000 Grace 619831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I'm sorry they are getting to you. I imagine one reason they think it's ok, is that they probably aren't meaning to put you down. It sounds like when you hear it, you hear that you are unattractive. I doubt they think that way at all. The people I know that make comments about pregnant women looooooove pregnancy. They love looking and seeing how bodies are different. To them, wide hips and bigger boobs are beautiful. Even if you don't think so. </p> <p>And you probably are looking gorgeous, btw. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619821 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:32:32 +0000 Bookish 619821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: LOL!!! hhahaha I just died laughing at that, love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/morning-vent-pregnancy-body-and-rude-comments#post-619785 Thu, 07 Mar 2013 09:14:56 +0000 MsLipGloss 619785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep - I got a lot of comments about how tiny my bump was and how big my boobs were . . . they really were annoying--and inappropriate!--and I did what I could to deal with tham at the time. Please don't let the comments make you feel self-conscious or less glowy and beautiful! </p> <p>And yanno, I did respond to one person who commented on my boobs with a very Beyonce *I don't think you're ready for this jelly . . . my body's too babylicious for ya* :P </p>