https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 21:58:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550758 Tue, 17 May 2016 18:56:12 +0000 daniellemybelle 2550758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just talking to a friend about this today. She's a WOHM on maternity leave. She said her son literally did not touch the floor or really move his body in the mornings when he was going to daycare. They would go in, change him, get his clothes on, etc. all on his bed and take him straight to the car. He would have breakfast at school.</p> <p>We rarely rush in the AM because I SAH but anytime we have somewhere to be early that's pretty much what I do. My goal is to be done getting her ready before she really even knows what is happening to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550713 Tue, 17 May 2016 17:31:52 +0000 PinkElephant 2550713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: if it's commiseration you want, I'm right there with you - you're definitely not alone :happy: .I don't WOH, but DD does have preschool 3x a week, and other days we have doctor appointments, errands, etc. that we need to get out the door for in a timely manner. DD1 (almost 4) hates getting up in the AM. She burries herself in her bed, hides in my bed, refuses to pee, refuses to put on clothes, pays with toys instead, runs away, puts on dress shoes when I said sneakers, doesn't wear a coat, cries because she wants to bring a doll, etc.</p> <p>The main takeaways I'm getting from the parents of the kids who are 10 mins and out the door is (1) they mostly don't eat at home and (2) the kids generally don't leave their bedroom/bathroom. I've definitely found getting my kids dressed before breakfast saves time, but then they often end up messy. in general I think morning routines are pretty deeply ingrained and (at least for us) will take time and a lot of effort to change. But boy would getting out the doir in 10 mins be worth it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550688 Tue, 17 May 2016 16:19:27 +0000 shabang 2550688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We cannot wake my 3yo up or she's a terror. And she won't go to bed earlier either. I don't have anything that always works, but we're lucky in that she really likes breakfast, so we have a rule that she has to be dressed and teeth brushed before breakfast. We don't go downstairs until that's the case - baby gate is closed. Clothes are laid out from the night before. If she wakes up late, breakfast is in the car. We get started on the morning really early and make lots of noise so she gets up on her own. And we have to give her a lot of space on the mornings when she's tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550668 Tue, 17 May 2016 15:58:37 +0000 Chillybear 2550668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine is beast in the morning and i'm solo as hubs leaves the house before i'm even awake. Usually i'll get up at 6 take a shower and on my way to get dressed i'll turn the hall light on and open her door, call her name. get some clothes on and nudge her to wake up. more clothes and i start tickling her, singing to her, do my hair, go back and turn the lights on/open her shades. at this point she usually yells to turn the light off and get out of her room. I'm dressed and ready to go and my last line of defense is to send our dog in for kisses. usually by this point i've managed to get her moving. of course then we have to get clothes on, brush teeth, shoes, head down stairs, put the dog out/in, take out/prep dinner, grab lunches, grab a snack for the car, and actually get out the door. good days we leave at 7:30 bad days closer to 8. I have no idea how i'm going to do all this with an infant in less than a year.</p> <p>A couple of mornings i've had to put her in the car seat almost naked just to get her to cooperate and go back inside to put clothes on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550651 Tue, 17 May 2016 15:43:55 +0000 avivoca 2550651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, if she's not feeling it and fighting me in the mornings, I force her to do stuff. She doesn't want to brush her teeth? Fine, then I'll hold her down and brush them. She doesn't want to have her hair brushed? Cool, I'll sit her on the ground and lock my legs around her so she can't get away. Same goes for clothes. I'll force the shirt over her head if I have to. I can't be late because she's throwing a tantrum.</p> <p>Most mornings aren't like this, especially if she wakes up on her own. It's the mornings where I have to get her up or if she wakes up super early for some reason that she's a pill. My husband will try to reason with her, but she's two. There is no reasoning during a tantrum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550644 Tue, 17 May 2016 15:34:04 +0000 looch 2550644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: about 15 minutes to wake up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550561 Tue, 17 May 2016 13:45:10 +0000 Truth Bombs 2550561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Yeah I think trying to just rush through the process in 15 minutes is your best bet. Whether my LO gets a lot of sleep or a little, she is SO much more pleasant when she wakes up naturally. Since it seems like 7:30 is the latest your LO wakes up naturally anyway, and you can let her go up until 7:15 if you condense the morning routine and still get out the door on time, I would try for that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550519 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:59:04 +0000 smocks 2550519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah I will say I don't start the clock on my 10-15 minutes until I'm physically in the room with her. I open her door, turn on the light and tell her it's time to get up and go potty. Then I go get DS ready (10 months). Sometimes she gets up while I'm getting him ready, sometimes she doesn't and then we have to really get moving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550515 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:54:36 +0000 mediagirl 2550515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: we rub her back, turn on a side lamp, give her time to moan and groan. How long do you give him to wake up?<br /> @Silva: we tried it twice over the weekend. The one day we didn't try it, I forgot she was napping (because she never naps anymore) and she napped for 3 hours, until 5:30 when I went to wake her up. Sigh.<br /> @Truth Bombs: I do drop off and have to be at work by 8:30 so I can leave at 5. I really don't want to leave later so we have some QT at home after work. Mornings are not quality time... she will wake up anytime between 6:30 and 7:30 on weekends.<br /> @babynumber1: @Smurfette: I might try this 15 minutes thing....I think I may start by letting her sleep 5 minutes longer with a side lamp on and then start waking her up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550514 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:53:57 +0000 ShootingStar 2550514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D usually wakes up in a good mood, but it also takes FOREVER to get him through all the steps to get him out of the house. We're still working on potty training and he's in overnight diapers, which most days he ends up pooping in. It's always an argument to let me change it. Either he says he wants to go potty (which he obviously can't when he's covered in poop) or he just flat refuses. Some days I have to bribe him to let me clean him up :bummed: .</p> <p>Then he takes forever to pee, probably because he peed in his diaper. But I feel like I can't put underwear on him until he's peed. And with all the poop I don't think we're ready for no overnight diaper. Some days after several minutes I give up and we go downstairs bottomless. Then he runs away because he wants to play instead of eating breakfast. For a while I was dressing him in his learning tower while he ate. But now he's not interested in breakfast, and I have to chase him down and convince or force him to get dressed. </p> <p>I'd love it if the morning routine were only 10 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550502 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:45:06 +0000 babynumber1 2550502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: We are in the 15 minutes camp. She gets a 10 minute warning for wake up time at 7:20- 7:30 time to get up. I manhandle her into her clothes. time to pee and brush teeth. Straight to the kitchen for a snack and to do her her. If she gets up early she gets to watch tv, so she does occasionally wake up to get to watch tv. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550494 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:41:11 +0000 Truth Bombs 2550494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What time does she wake up on the weekend if left to her own devices? And is there anything that can be done to shorten the morning routine or shift your or your husband's work schedule so she can wake up at that time during the week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550479 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:35:06 +0000 regberadaisy 2550479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>🙋🏻 M can be a real pill some mornings. She often wakes up on the wrong side of the bed. She gets that from me. 🙈 I'm so not a morning person! It doesn't have anything to do with us giving an inch or it not being routine. She's been in daycare since 7 weeks old! And we are pretty damn strict, stricter than most. She is just a grump in the mornings. The other morning she refused to get out of bed. DH had to manhandle her and get her dressed while she was screaming. She did not have time for breakfast at home. Was upset because of this. She has lost tv all freaking week because of rough mornings. She knows the routine. </p> <p>So yeah. You're not alone. :)</p> <p>But then some mornings like this one she will move along, immediately say yes mommy. Who knows what makes the difference. Total overnight sleep makes no diff in how she wakes up. Late bedtime definitely creates a morning monster. But I can't force her to sleep. She's in her room and if she's being quiet and laying in bed...there's not much more we can do.</p> <p>One thing we do do is open her door when we wake up as we go do other things. I think having the morning household noises wake her up helps. If we have to physically wake her it's almost always a bad morning. If she wakes up by herself it is usually a good morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550475 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:33:36 +0000 smocks 2550475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: LOL well behaved.</p> <p>@Adira: Yep! That's it. Manhandled. I will pick her sleeping self out of the bed, place her on the toilet, and basically herd her along until we're ready to get out the door. Like I said, it's not optional, I'm not about to be 30 minutes late to work bc she was feeling a little sleepy. And I agree with what @runnerd said, the more time I give her the worse it is. She will just putz along until I start my normal herding process. Like today, she laid on the floor next to her brother's bed and lazily played with his toy. Fine for any other time of the day, but not in the morning rush! I'm sure I don't have the best process, but I get us where we need to be (mostly) on time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550471 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:28:27 +0000 Silva 2550471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: how long did you try early bedtime for? It can take awhile for sleep patterns to change, and if she isn't getting enough sleep it could be a big part of the problem (says the person who puts her three year old to bed at 6:30 when she skips naps....) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550459 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:22:16 +0000 looch 2550459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How are you waking her up? It takes us a few minutes to get our son up (he's got to be awake at 6 am to leave in 15 minutes), and we basically have to lie with him, and he'll wake up naturally and in a decent mood. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550451 Tue, 17 May 2016 12:16:31 +0000 Canoli 2550451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: mornings can be rough in our household. Our 4 year old is pretty good but the 2 year old is a wild card. Some days are good and others everything is a tantrum! However, my husband primarily has been doing mornings solo since we have a newborn as well and it has been going better since he hasn't given them extra time to mess around and pretty much manhandles if necessary. There may have been a few days that our 2 year old went to daycare in his PJ shirt😉 Some days you win some and some days you lose some! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550391 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:49:09 +0000 Adira 2550391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: What time does she normally wake up on her own? Xander goes to bed at 8 and is usually asleep by 8:30. He wakes up around 7 on his own usually (sometimes earlier, sometimes later), but waking up at 7 is early enough for us to get out the door on time. Maybe if you gave her another 15 minutes of sleep, she'd be more agreeable??? Though I'm guessing you've tried that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550386 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:45:16 +0000 mediagirl 2550386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: 4 in June.<br /> @Smurfette: YES! I'm sure she's tired. We tried the earlier bedtime (starting bedtime at 6:30) and she didn't fall asleep until 9..... She regularly will fall asleep at 8:30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550385 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:44:55 +0000 Adira 2550385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: haha, yeah, rough mornings are hard! And I'm lucky - usually Hubs does mornings. But I'll hear about it later. When I pick up Xander, he'll tell me "Dada was fustated!" And then I'm all "Oh really? Who was he frustrated at? You or Logan??" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550382 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:43:36 +0000 Smurfette 2550382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Is she just tired? I know she won't go to bed till later now. I also find saying 1.....2.....really helps. She knows 3 is trouble. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550381 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:43:31 +0000 Adira 2550381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I forget - how old is your little one? Xander's 3 (39m). Is yours older? Maybe we just haven't hit that stage yet and I'll be asking you for advice soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550380 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:43:24 +0000 dagret 2550380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: when L really, really doesn't want to get out of bed, I turn on the cartoons and let him watch while I get his breakfast ready </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550379 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:43:17 +0000 mediagirl 2550379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: okay. So that sounds more like some of our mornings. Ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550378 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:43:15 +0000 runnerd 2550378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same as @Adira: he gets manhandled :) I find the more time I give him, the worse it goes. I try to get him up with about 10-15min before he has to get dressed, but then we get dressed whether he wants to or not, and a small snack/milk. My goal is to only need about another 15min to get out door after he's dressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550377 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:42:19 +0000 Adira 2550377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Oh, I wouldn't stay that Xander is always easy or agreeable, but I know if you give an inch, he'll take a mile. There's definitely been times where he's just fighting me and crying through the whole morning, but I just pick him up, get him dressed, bring him downstairs, offer him a waffle or pouch (which he'll refuse if he's in a bad mood), drag him into the bathroom, hold him down to brush his teeth, put his shoes and jacket on for him, and then manhandle him into the car. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550376 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:42:10 +0000 mediagirl 2550376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: ours is a routine, as well. She tells us when we forget on weekends that we have to brush teeth before going downstairs. :) She's just become a real pill to get up in the morning and bribes/taking things away don't work well with her. Sigh. I thought this didn't happen until grade school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550373 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:40:03 +0000 Smurfette 2550373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Far from it. I think it is routine. If Dad is gone she has to get up and go with Mom. The other morning took longer cause she didn't want sunscreen and she said she wanted to burn. That isn't an option, so I have to force it. I also will tell her she can't have TV time that night if she doesn't move it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550372 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:39:41 +0000 mediagirl 2550372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: well it doesn't take a full 45 minutes, I just wake her up that early to get moving. It's when she won't get out of bed and goes into beast mode so she doesn't have to get her teeth brushed first thing that we struggle with. </p> <p>There has GOT to be another parent on this freaking board that has a kid that doesn't ALWAYS obey their parents in the morning when you have to go to work and your kid doesn't want to get out of bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mornings#post-2550366 Tue, 17 May 2016 11:37:30 +0000 Adira 2550366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: What's causing it to take so long? When Xander's grumpy (or Logan, usually it's one or the other), they just get man-handled through all the steps and given a waffle to eat in the car if they won't eat prior. </p>