https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 06:57:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884567 Wed, 15 May 2019 07:09:10 +0000 Andrea 2884567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When your kids are teeny, the responsibility falls on your husband to do something for you. I know it's only a day and is it too much to ask for your husband to do the laundry, clean, make dinner, get a card etc? Yes, I guess it is for some ... </p> <p>I've always been sad on Mother's Day because I end up reflecting on all the flaws in my own mother-daughter relationship. I could get the world from my husband and kids on this day, but the sadness is still there. </p> <p>Mother's Day means something different for everyone and it's best to figure out how to make the day work for you.</p> <p>And I think it will be more hurtful if my kids don't do anything for me when they are older. I've heard from moms of older kids who don't even get a "Happy Mother's Day" anymore.</p> <p>Right now I'm in a wonderful spot with 2 kids in elementary school so they make beautiful things for me with their teachers. I expect this may stop in middle school so I have another year with my oldest! So thank you to the teachers who do this! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884563 Wed, 15 May 2019 04:36:17 +0000 erinbaderin 2884563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Iced Tea: This is wonderful - I love the idea that you just decided what you wanted the day to be and figured out how to make it happen for yourself. It seems like you let go of expectations for the day but also for yourself (don’t worry about chores, don’t feel like you have to entertain them 24/7) and that’s so hard to do - I love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884548 Tue, 14 May 2019 21:25:19 +0000 Iced Tea 2884548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On expecting little:</p> <p>I was expecting basically nothing, since my husband was unexpectedly out of the country all week (his dad got sick), and my kids are only 4 and almost 2. When I write this all down, though, I guess I kind of planned my own ideal Mother's Day. My SO usually doesn't take my request for a quiet day seriously and makes us go out to eat (I HATE going out when restaurants are crowded; why can't he get that?!). </p> <p>I decided the only thing I wanted was to minimize stress over the weekend, that's it! While the LO napped on Friday, I batch cooked for the weekend, so I wouldn't have to think about meals (I don't often do this but should start). I decided to stay home all weekend. The kids played outside (God bless the makers of the fully fenced yard), we watched a couple of movies, and I snoozed while my older one commanded the remote; she probably bought several new episodes of awful kids shows, but hey I was unconscious, so who cares. I went back and forth between letting them entertain themselves and spending quality time with them (I consciously made all home tasks come second, but I still did some of them). </p> <p>I drank lots of coffee. And a little wine. We ate the precooked food. We ate carbs. We played and enjoyed the springtime. My daughter painted something for me. It was simple and lovely. I'd like something similar next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884499 Tue, 14 May 2019 15:14:43 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2884499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We almost got into a fender bender, which blew up into a huge argument with DH on Sat. That night DD came down with a 104° fever and we were all literal zombies on Mother's Day 😪</p> <p>And the garden fair I've been looking forward to all year was a total fail. Only half of the normal vendors came and no food stalls or bouncy castle that they advertised! :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884447 Tue, 14 May 2019 11:51:16 +0000 Mrsbells 2884447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I saw a post on social media that said lower your mother's day expectations way down and I tried to do that. The one thing I really wanted was sleep but my kiddos and DH thought it would be cute to wake me up earlier than usual just to say happy mother's day </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884381 Tue, 14 May 2019 07:40:33 +0000 Mrs. Train 2884381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: @Chuckles: Grilled cheese or pizza that is not my responsibility to plan or order sounds great!! As long as I don't have to do it that's all I care about. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails/page/2#post-2884308 Mon, 13 May 2019 18:22:47 +0000 Chuckles 2884308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: that's how I feel about mothers day and fathers day. DH isn't my father, but I want to show him that I appreciate what a good dad he is, so I try to make the day nice for him and buy him something small. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884303 Mon, 13 May 2019 17:36:57 +0000 nwm 2884303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @muffinsmuffins: really interesting question, because my DH takes a similar approach. he let me sleep in yesterday morning, and bought a card that he got our 3 year old to sign, and also helped the 3yo make a little picture for me (10 month old got her name signed to the card too : ). but otherwise we pretty much spent the day celebrating our mothers. of course, that meant he made lunch for his family and ours, so that was super nice, and then we went over to my parents and ordered in. so overall i definitely felt like, relatively speaking i get to take it easy, but he doesn't get me a card, flowers, or anything like that from himself, and has been explicit yesterday and on previous mother's days that since i'm not his mother, he doesn't really feel like it's appropriate for him to do much beyond facilitating our kids doing age appropriate things for me. sometimes i feel like others either get or expect more from their partners, but i like this approach (also it takes the pressure off of father's day which i appreciate cause i'm terrible at selecting and executing gifts!). i had a super nice day even though i think others might be disappointed that DH didn't do as much to celebrate me specifically. but it's interesting how it has transformed that way. also it feels like mother's day has amped up in expectations since i was little? maybe this is a social media thing?</p> <p>@rattles: omg ewwwwwwwwww! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884300 Mon, 13 May 2019 16:16:20 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2884300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: this actually came up on our Facebook moms group! Someone said ‘oh I’m not my husbands mom so why should he go all out for me?!’ And the consensus was that because kids are little and not capable of planning on their own, it’s up to the partners to instil from a young age that it’s a special day for recognizing all that moms do so when they are older it becomes more the kids responsibility. Plus, if it weren’t for the wives, husbands wouldn’t be dads :silly: it’s also just about respecting and valuing your partner who happens to be the mother of your children (which hopefully happens every day instead of 1 day a year) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884299 Mon, 13 May 2019 16:07:27 +0000 rattles 2884299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister organized a lovely brunch at an upscale restaurant for our parents, her and her fiancé and my family. It was wonderful until a roach bumped into her lip while she was drinking her coffee! We had all been served from the same carafe. Mother’s day brunch fail! 🤢</p> <p>My kids and DH were awesome, so no complaints otherwise. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884297 Mon, 13 May 2019 16:03:05 +0000 josina 2884297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I told DH the same, that dinner was on him, and he asked what I wanted. I said I don't care - I don't even want to THINK about it. He ordered pizza, lol. Perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884293 Mon, 13 May 2019 15:00:04 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2884293@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yes, I agree. I obviously didn't expect anything from my LO since she has no idea lol I also feel for the single moms out there. It's the same for Fathers day though, I will do something for DH since LO can't do it herself. But I will involve her, get a card and have her color on it or something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884292 Mon, 13 May 2019 14:58:51 +0000 IRunForFun 2884292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine wasn't exactly a fail, but I did end up getting called to a birth (as a doula) which obviously isn't what I'd have planned. We were able to go to brunch first and DH and DD gave me a thoughtful card and gifts, so that was nice, but the rest of the day was supposed to be "me time" of napping and shopping. Oh well, DH said I can take a rain check on my "me time." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884289 Mon, 13 May 2019 14:53:44 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2884289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Any one notice or just me that a main component of Mother’s Day fails involves husbands? I read an article about how Mother’s Day is really for wives. My fail had to do with plans I made (spend the day solo with my LO) that did not turn out the way I expected and to a large extent I controlled because my LO can’t plan/ execute an activity or gift something on his own. I feel for all the single moms who have zero or very low expectations for the holiday because of their circumstance and children’s ages. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884283 Mon, 13 May 2019 14:42:13 +0000 Chuckles 2884283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Train: Yes! I did have a great Mother's Day weekend, but I tried to do a bunch of laundry on Saturday so that I wouldn't have to do it on Sunday. My only fail, which was tiny, was that I told DH that I didn't want to have to deal with dinner on Sunday. So around 3:00, I asked him what he thought the plans should be for dinner. And he was like, well what do we have in the house? And I said, the point is that I don't even want to have to think about it. You can go look in the fridge and cabinets. - And he did! We had grilled cheese, but at least I didn't have to think about it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884281 Mon, 13 May 2019 14:34:13 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2884281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My day was normal. My dh isn't great at holidays... We went to a wedding Saturday so we were both a bit hung over yesterday. LO stayed the night at Grammy and Papa's house and didn't sleep, so I went over and got her earlier than I had planned. I picked up breakfast &amp; dinner (breakfast was at lunch time lol) and I did laundry. So...yeah. I try to have no expectations but I was still a little bummed. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884259 Mon, 13 May 2019 10:49:47 +0000 graceandjoy 2884259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a pretty normal day; I didn't ask for anything special. I had to get the girls ready for church and was soaked getting them in and out of cars because it poured all day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884256 Mon, 13 May 2019 10:46:08 +0000 Mrs. Train 2884256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been super busy and I am so far behind on laundry we basically have a pile the size of Mount Everest that needs to be folded. I walked past and changed a load and said oh man look at all this laundry, who is going to do it all? My kids said you mom. My husband said "not today, it's mother's day.... It'll get done another day." Made me laugh but also the truth is a little painful. I spend the day after mothers day running around doing all the stuff I would have normally done. I should have just done it yesterday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884238 Mon, 13 May 2019 09:02:51 +0000 Autumnmama79 2884238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I usually leave it up to DH. Which makes my mind swirl with hopes of a pampered day at the spa, fancy brunches thoughtful gifts. I’m always disappointed as DH is not a planner or big into spoiling me. This year things are tough btwn us so I threw all expectations out the window and just hoped for quality time with my dd and DS. It was actually WAY nicer this way! 3 yo DS suggested a date at Starbucks so we did that and then we went to watch my nephews baseball game in the sunshine and had ice cream with them after. It was my favourite mother’s day yet :happy: I still did laundry in between and still had to referee the kids here and there so in a lot of ways it was a normal day. </p> <p>Long story short, DH did not plan anything, I did not plan anything. We just kind of went with the flow and had a really nice Sunday together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884228 Mon, 13 May 2019 08:26:46 +0000 DesertDreams88 2884228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: so sorry to hear, that really sucks! Hope you guys get a "re-do " next weekend.</p> <p>@Becky: that is definitely a lot of event! It sucks that delegating still involves giving so many directions. DH is pretty good at getting the kids ready for always forgets 2-3 things and when those get discovered, he gets grumbly.</p> <p>@erinbaderin: aw sounds so nice.</p> <p>@SweetCaroline: :heart: :heart: </p> <p>@catgirl: bummer! Will he be home next weekend? Time to reschedule mother's day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884225 Mon, 13 May 2019 08:23:44 +0000 Ms.Mermaid 2884225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws asked if they could come stay at the last minute which made our brunch reservation stressful - fortunately the place was able to accommodate us, so it wasn’t too squeezy, but it poured so instead of the nice walk to brunch, we had to drive and parking sucked so we ended up in the garage and one of their exits was broken so by the time my husband and FIL went to leave their tickets had expired and overall it was 40 minutes for them to leave while my MIL and I waited in the rain. But then we came home and I got some time to myself to craft and my in-laws played with the kids and my husband did laundry. He didn’t bother with a dinner plan so we had sandwiches which annoyed me. But it was overall a decent day and I finished two projects. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884223 Mon, 13 May 2019 08:18:37 +0000 DesertDreams88 2884223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So ya'll, with the talk of low expectations or no expectations, what do you think of my list? Low medium or high? </p> <p>Fwiw we did everything except replaced the campfore smores with cinnamon rolls at church; and I asked DH to get the leafblowing done since it was put off all week. </p> [attach=5393/19/prg2b1.450x600.20190510_200409.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884222 Mon, 13 May 2019 08:16:20 +0000 periwinklebee 2884222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had zero expectations, but ended up being able to take a couple of naps (after DS got up at 4am two days in a row - ugh, I hope this is not a two month long regression :sad: ) So calling it a win </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884221 Mon, 13 May 2019 08:14:30 +0000 DesertDreams88 2884221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePeony: hahaha smart girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884217 Mon, 13 May 2019 07:51:32 +0000 Becky 2884217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh every year I say I won’t have expectations but somehow so many holidays end up being stressful. Saturday we had soccer at 8:30am, a bday party 12:30-2:30pm, a dance recital 3:30-7:45pm (WHY do they do them on mother’s day weekend?!) and then an after party 8-9pm. It was a lot of running around and I wanted to sleep in Sunday so I even went down to the basement to sleep but of course DH never wakes up with the kids so I got woken up at 6:50am (technically sleeping in 2 extra hours but still). All I wanted was for DH not to be on his phone, and to not have to tell him what needed to be done (to get the kids ready on time on his own) but neither of those happened. Of course the busy weekend bled into a miserable Monday morning with fights all around. I bought myself a steam mop though so pretty pumped about that 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884213 Mon, 13 May 2019 07:05:06 +0000 erinbaderin 2884213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my husband last week what I wanted - I wanted to sleep in, get homemade cards, have some time to myself, and to not have to do the grocery shopping or cook dinner. Plus I made reservations for brunch. And it was a great day! The only "fail" was that both boys wanted to climb in bed to snuggle with me and talk about how they'd bought me flowers at 6am, but that's hard to be upset about. We had a lovely brunch, my husband took my older son to the grocery store while my younger son napped so I got to take a nap and read a book, I drank rose all afternoon, and while I did end up making dinner it was because I wanted to. Plus my husband went above and beyond by taking the boys to pick out flowers and doing all the laundry on Saturday while I was out so I came home to everything clean and folded. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884212 Mon, 13 May 2019 06:50:56 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2884212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My plan was to take my son to baseball practice then go to this amazing outdoor playground that had a carousel. Well, it was too hot and I had to cut the playground part short. My back up plan was to check out an indoor playground that I follow on Instagram and has been on a few “best of” local reviews. We show up and it’s closed. Even though by this point it was naptime LO was not trying to take a nap because I promised tons of fun and play. I suggested he close his eyes for a quick car nap. :crying: I drove around for another hour so he could have a bit of a decent nap since transferring him would ruin his nap altogether. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884209 Mon, 13 May 2019 06:41:45 +0000 SweetCaroline 2884209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like others, I had zero expectations and it was nice. We slept in too late, got ready slow so the wait at my favorite brunch spot was too long. So, we ended up eating day old donuts :grin: </p> <p>Lots of playing this weekend with my little family. The worst/hardest part is that I was supposed to be pregnant but had a loss. 2nd Mother's Day in a row where we're just not making strides toward completing our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884197 Mon, 13 May 2019 00:06:14 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2884197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: Aw I'm sorry!!! I haven't had that happen to me on mothers day (yet anyway) but I have ended up in the ER one year and pretty sick the following year! Those were definite fails, lol. I laugh, because it's been a few years!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-fails#post-2884196 Sun, 12 May 2019 23:48:14 +0000 crazydoglady 2884196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Autumnmama79: Does that mean you dont plan anything, just leave it up to your SO, or...? </p>