https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 13:24:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if/page/2#post-1628786 Mon, 12 May 2014 11:12:51 +0000 MrsTal 1628786@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: My mom posted that on Saturday and I teared up a bit.</p> <p>My mother's day was suprisingly good. I took the day off social media and spent it with my husband which was really wonderful. He also gave me a beautiful Coach purse that I had been eyeing for months and told me it was for my birthday/mother's day for everything I have been doing to give us a child. It was really sweet and made me cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if/page/2#post-1628659 Mon, 12 May 2014 10:39:56 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1628659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: it was surprisingly hard. </p> <p>At the beginning of church they played a video about moms, which was really sweet. It made me a tiny but sad, but wasn't too bad. At the end of church the pastor said a prayer for moms that included those who have experienced loss and those with infertility. It was a beautiful prayer and it made me cry, which was embarrassing! </p> <p>Later in the day I called my mom and found out that my brothers, who live in the same town, weren't going over to see her. That made me upset and I wish I could have spent the day with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if/page/2#post-1628653 Mon, 12 May 2014 10:37:38 +0000 BSB 1628653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two of my friends posted this on their timelines. :heart: </p> [attach=147/14/n5gwqq.600x415.10291697_10101006523216432_4301991969540306566_n.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1628629 Mon, 12 May 2014 10:29:59 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1628629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw some lovely inclusive things on social media yesterday, praising the "women who've helped us raise our children" if even for a short time, etc. It was a nice thought. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1628541 Mon, 12 May 2014 10:05:32 +0000 BSB 1628541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So how was mother's day for you all?</p> <p>I signed out of social media and did some yardwork on Sunday so it was okay. We did go out of town with our two dogs to a beach town in Oregon, so it was nice to sit out on the beach on Saturday. It would have been so nice to do that on Sunday, too. Oh, well. Hope this will be my last Mother's day without a baby. </p> <p>I logged into today and saw that two FB friends posted on my wall messages. It was so sweet of them. Also, I got two texts yesterday, too. :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1615484 Tue, 06 May 2014 08:43:00 +0000 Happygal 1615484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twoofeverything: I really love your story. Makes me want to go climb a mountain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1615398 Tue, 06 May 2014 08:22:27 +0000 alohaorchid 1615398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Aww that's so sweet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1615265 Tue, 06 May 2014 07:32:10 +0000 MrsTal 1615265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: this is a great way to put it! That's how I feel exactly.</p> <p>@mrs. tictactoe: that's an awesome idea!</p> <p>@Sunshine1810: @bluestriped bee: I'm sorry we are in the same boat! I really hope this is my last Mother's Day without a baby or being pregnant.</p> <p>@twoofeverything: I love that! I should figure out something awesome to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1615089 Tue, 06 May 2014 03:31:43 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 1615089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTal: I think the hardest part for me if that last year on Mothers Day I really felt like I would be a mom or atleast pregnant by this Mothers Day. Holidays are the hardest for me. The way I am getting through this year is just by not going to church. I know it sounds bad but last year they had all the moms stand up to pray for them (which was wonderful) but it also hurt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1614982 Mon, 05 May 2014 23:36:21 +0000 twoofeverything 1614982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope it's okay to come at this from the other side...hopefully it helps...<br /> I had four Mother's Day's of TTC and miscarried on Mother's Day 2009. The ONLY way I could get through it was to do something I was really proud of...something that would inspire me and help me remember that anything is possible. One year, DH and I hiked to the top of Bandera Mountain (near Snoqualmie, just east of Seattle) It was a hike that I had previously failed at, and it was one freakin' hard climb, (I'm SO not a hiker!). Anyway, we took tons of pictures at the summit and they're now hanging in our twins' nursery.<br /> I looked at those pictures a lot during our IVF cycles, reminding myself that I was more capable than I ever thought.<br /> HUGS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1614498 Mon, 05 May 2014 19:07:45 +0000 FaithFertility 1614498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: That is so sweet :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1614215 Mon, 05 May 2014 17:07:30 +0000 Happygal 1614215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I gave my husband a card last year and crossed out "are" and wrote "will be" so it read "You will be a great dad." He's kept it under his keyboard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1614208 Mon, 05 May 2014 17:02:24 +0000 BSB 1614208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alohaorchid: I feel horrible for saying this but I didn't think about Father's Day til just now. I need to ask DH if he feels sad after every passing of Father's Day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1614152 Mon, 05 May 2014 16:33:26 +0000 alohaorchid 1614152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For some reason, it's Father's Day that really gets to me. This year will also be our third Mother's Day/Father's DayTTC </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1613958 Mon, 05 May 2014 15:14:14 +0000 Sprite 1613958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband said he will be making me breakfast in bed and we can stay in bed and hide all day, which is so nice of him. He's been taking care of me a lot this past month while we try to heal after our m/c. I have a feeling it's going to be an especially hard day this year, since we'd been planning to announce the pregnancy on Mother's Day, and no one in our families know we're even planning on kids. It will be sad to pretend it is a happy day, but at least we only have to deal with phone calls, and not celebrate with our moms in person.</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: &lt;3 that so much, I know Mother's Day will be all about survival for me this year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1613722 Mon, 05 May 2014 14:00:01 +0000 Sunshine1810 1613722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I hope so!!!! Hugs to you both too!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1613627 Mon, 05 May 2014 13:26:40 +0000 BSB 1613627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sunshine1810: @MrsTal: This is my 3rd Mother's day, too, at TTC. Hugs to us. Hope this will be our last Mother's day without a child. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1612817 Mon, 05 May 2014 09:37:19 +0000 Sunshine1810 1612817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like @MRSTAL, this is my third Mother's Day trying to get pregnant. We usually go out to brunch with MIL and have dinner with mine. I have a harder time with FB so I usually stay off FB for the day. Honestly, I think I had a harder time last year than I will this year. After my last failed IUI I started to have an easier time keeping it together (after getting all my emotions out for a few weeks). I am not sure why. It doesn't hurt any less...I don't know how to explain it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1612106 Sun, 04 May 2014 19:25:44 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1612106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not sure how to handle Mothers' day since my mom doesn't know we are TTC. While I wish you ladies didn't have to go through this, it's really nice to hear other people saying the same things that are in my head. I also like the idea of not going on facebook and doing things that would be much harder with a child. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1612090 Sun, 04 May 2014 19:07:05 +0000 Aqualov 1612090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DHs family always goes out to eat to celebrate and I usually join, but I'm now the only one who's not a mom yet. I thought we'd be there by now, and with that along with losing my own mom not too long ago, it just seems like too much this year. I don't want fake being happy again. I'm thinking of skipping out on celebrations this year and instead taking the day to go visit my mom's grave at our family plot- planting some flowers, doing some clean-up etc. It's about an 1.5 hour drive through the middle of nowhere and I often find it relaxing to take the trip alone. Sounds much better to me that 'celebrating'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1611635 Sun, 04 May 2014 11:15:38 +0000 FaithFertility 1611635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1611562 Sun, 04 May 2014 10:32:09 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1611562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I love this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1611496 Sun, 04 May 2014 09:46:02 +0000 LalaYes 1611496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@faithfertility that sounds like a fun theme for a day, I'll have to tell DH about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1611494 Sun, 04 May 2014 09:44:30 +0000 LalaYes 1611494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@doxilove I thought the same thing last Mother's Day, I can't believe, here I am, still not pregnent. </p> <p>I do feel self concious on that day, I feel like it reminds people that I still don't have kids. However, I have a really understanding family who is supportive, I'm really greatful. My MIL always gets me a gift anyway, I love her for that. We are inviting both our moms over for dinner this year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1611370 Sun, 04 May 2014 08:18:43 +0000 BSB 1611370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my FB IF group posted this. </p> [attach=147/14/n51wz8.600x600.image.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1608922 Fri, 02 May 2014 12:44:29 +0000 doxielove 1608922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Last mother's day I was <b>certain</b> I would have a baby by now. Or, at the very least, be pregnant. I'm more than happy to celebrate my mom on mother's day, but I do still get a bit blue wondering if I'll ever be celebrated. My one tip/trick is to avoid a negative trigger. For me, that's DH's whole family. Most years they do cookouts on mother's day (they did last year). They have no filter when it comes to hounding for babies so I will definitely be avoiding any mother's day gatherings with them this year!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1608771 Fri, 02 May 2014 12:10:00 +0000 BSB 1608771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: Oh, I like that idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1607323 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:29:10 +0000 Crystal 1607323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am completely dreading this. I don't want to go. And since neither my mom or my mil have any clue what's going on, I can't just hide without offending them. And even if they knew, they'd probably be offended by my not going anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1607282 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:05:05 +0000 owlteach 1607282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been at this for just over a year. Last year, Mother's Day was so full of hope, I just knew that I would have either a baby or be pregnant at this mother's day. My heart is crushed, I wish that I could hide for the day. However, I will be at work all day, surrounded by hundreds of people. That weekend is out local livestock show, and I have 20 students showing. There are plenty of special nods to mothers too. </p> <p>My own mother will be out of town, visiting my brother. I don't think it has even occurred to her that the day will be hard for me. It's probably better that she will be with him, because I wouldn't want to hurt her with my bitterness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-day-for-those-with-if#post-1607268 Thu, 01 May 2014 22:00:05 +0000 seabsher 1607268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have the same feelings too. I always feel worse when I go to church on those days because they recognize mothers. In the past, I have made it through some how. However, this year I am planning to do the same thing, and hibernate. </p>