https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 01:23:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22266 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 19:53:20 +0000 ecogirl 22266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone. My husband thought I was silly to get so upset but he is one of those that doesn't care what others think. I'm more sensitive when someone I know and consider a friend hurts me like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22260 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 19:03:12 +0000 Panda 22260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's sad that people feel the need to one-up other mothers about their children... instead of saying how much "better" her child is she could at least sympathize a little.</p> <p>That said, I think there are children that go through a "perfect" stage, some lasting different lengths than others. My mom, relatives, and other people that knew me as a baby said I was really well behaved, only once threw a tantrum in public, and I learned to walk without ever crawling. But I was also cursed with the worst ear infections ever during my first year so I probably never stopped crying and my mom was at the doctor's every other week. Kids are all different, and I'm sorry people are making this into a competition :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22243 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 18:09:07 +0000 Rubies 22243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl: OMG! That's terrible! I would have cried, too. On the spot!</p> <p>I think having a good baby is a true blessing and I love hearing about all the wonderful milestones my friends' babies go through. It's just that tone that is used...Or, the one upping, or the showing off. </p> <p>Motherhood is so hard! We need support, not competition, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22239 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 17:30:13 +0000 Killer b 22239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you mean? My baby is the best at EVERYTHING! Ha ha, yeah right. They do seem to have good phases at something at one point or another. Like, this week my 3 month old slept for over 7 hours (9 one night!) for the past 3 nights in a row. I feel like shouting from the rooftops about what a great sleeper she is. Lets just forget that two weeks ago she reverted back to waking every 2-3 hours for over a week. I'd like to glaze over that in my mind ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22199 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 14:44:12 +0000 cyndistar3 22199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally stretching the truth at least. No baby is 100% perfect all the time. Sure, some babies are easier than others but BABIES AREN'T PERFECt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22187 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:45:16 +0000 looch 22187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl: I probably would have laughed in her face. I am not good with quick, witty replies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22185 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:44:44 +0000 ohapostrophe 22185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl- that is terrible! Sometimes people just really do not think before opening their mouths.</p> <p>@looch- I agree you have a responsibility to be honest, but I definitely do not feel obligated to blog about everything- blogging is only a glimpse into someone's life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22184 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:42:18 +0000 MsMamaBear 22184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl: How rude! She needs a swift kick! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22176 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:22:38 +0000 ecogirl 22176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is a woman in my playdate group that actually said that my little Liam is probably ADD because he was running around like a normal little 3 year old! I was so angry I could barely see. Even if he did have ADD is that something you would point out to the mother in such a negative way? I actually cried when I got home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22172 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:20:24 +0000 looch 22172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you (general) have a responsibility to be honest, especially if you're blogging about it. If it's for your own personal record keeping, go ahead and be cupcakes and rainbows, but I believe once you open the gates for the world to read, you should tell it like it is, otherwise the skeptics don't believe you. Nobody has a perfect life and the more people say how wonderful it is, the more I think there is something they are hiding. That's why I don't blog! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22142 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 11:57:20 +0000 anewme 22142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also agree that babies can have perfect phases. My little button was really a great sleeper, eater, all around pleasant baby, never really cries. But yes, there are days when everything hits the fan and I want to pull my hair out! I do believe there are easier to handle children, but not perfect. </p> <p>I've been around both types of moms and it doesn't bother me either way whether they are raving or ranting about their child. I believe they aren't always doing it to thrw it in your face, just that being a mom is a totally proud experience. Everyone should be able to brag about their child...every once in awhile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22137 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 11:29:02 +0000 Rubies 22137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ohapostrophe: I think the difference between you and my friend (and mommy competitors) is that you're a great writer (love your blog!) and you document your son's life well. My friend brags, gloats, or does not empathize with me at all when I tell her about my struggles. </p> <p>I'm also very lucky to have a healthy baby but the stress I experience is so real that I HAVE to blog about the hard stuff to let my readers (all two of them!) know that it *isn't* all rainbows and butterflies. But I agree, it's all about balance, which I try to achieve, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22124 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 10:11:50 +0000 ohapostrophe 22124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with this while blogging. I really want to document and remember (for myself!) the good stuff, and try not to complain too much about the struggles because I feel so very very lucky to have a healthy baby in the first place. But then I worry that by not blogging the hard stuff I'm not being honest enough. I try to keep a balance, but honestly I'd rather not read a complaint-filled baby post so I try not to write them either! I don't think perfect babies exist, but I do think there are a lot of happy moms that choose to dwell on the perfect-er parts of parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22049 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 00:48:18 +0000 Red 22049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely full of crap, lol. I think babies can have perfect phases but those phases definitely do not stay. I had a perfect sleeper up 'til 3 months, then she went away for a few months, now she's back to being a good sleeper. Things change....a lot.</p> <p>Facebook is evil in that it makes you think that everybody else's lives/babies are perfect or at least better than yours. That said, I am guilty of posting my share of proud baby moments on FB.....cause let's face it, who wants to see me post "LO is 6 months and is still not rolling over."</p> <p>I had a "toxic" mommy friend that I quickly distanced myself from 'cause being a mom is hard enough without all that toxic competitive energy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-22036 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 00:06:46 +0000 StbHisMrs 22036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom has always said those with perfect babies and children who do no wrong have hell to pay in their teenage years, lol.<br /> My son had extreme colic for 9 months, and he's been a very hard headed stubborn child to raise. Our baby was a perfect baby for 2 weeks, cried when hungry or tired, then things got a little harder. She's still good, but I would never brag, like a pp I'm afraid of it biting me in the butt later on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21970 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 20:02:59 +0000 808love 21970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it just depends on what kind of news you are wanting to hear at the moment. Some people enjoy celebrating and dwelling on the positive, others like to ponder and commiserate in the negative. Others can create a balance. It's also easier to be positive when the babe is only 3 months, not doing much and a good sleeper (mine isn't). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21901 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 14:50:36 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 21901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never encountered this. One of my close friends who has two children is really honest about the struggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21871 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 13:37:06 +0000 Rubies 21871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Seriously, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21839 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 11:55:20 +0000 chopsuey 21839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HAHAHA your friend is such a gIj. I think there definitely are "perfect" babies.. but eh. Sometimes those perfect babies turn into monster toddlers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21826 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 10:10:37 +0000 MamaMoose 21826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think there are a few babies that are actually like this. My mom always said I was the perfect infant. Happy, quiet, slept and ate great (although she always follows this up by informing me that it all went to hell once I learned to walk and talk). But what I don't get is why your friend needs to act like that. First of all, if your friend is struggling you empathize with her, you don't try to make her feel worse by talking about how great things are for you. And secondly, why brag? It's not like this women did something to make her child the perfect napper.. she just got lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21822 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 09:47:28 +0000 Rubies 21822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: HAHAHAHA "eat a cheeseburger" - love it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21816 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 09:05:38 +0000 heffalump 21816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a friend like that who always posts everything on facebook. Including a picture of herself in a sports bra and her cut off shorts less than a week after giving birth. It's always "yay, my baby loves baths, she'd stay in it all day if she could!" (meanwhile we finally just had our first no tears bath at 4 months, before she screamed the whole time), "yay, my baby is so great at so and so," etc. etc. </p> <p>That's not a good way to make mommy friends! People actually finally started writing comments like "shut up" and "eat a cheeseburger" when she posted about getting back to her prebaby weight so quickly. </p> <p>I think that maybe your friends baby is a good napper, but she has to have some other problems. No baby is perfect! Just like my baby is a good sleeper at night, she sleeps 12 hours every night. But that's probably the only thing I can brag about, nothing else is coming easy at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21814 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 08:57:11 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 21814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For one I had a "perfect" newborn until about 3 months. He slept through the night at 6 weeks, never cried unless he was hungry, was a great latcher... basically I never said anything to anyone because I knew they would think I was bullshitting. </p> <p>But then, after 3 months things get a little tougher, baby cries, doesn't want to breastfeed and wants to wean, has his wakeful period, then you sleep train, you lose your patience because he don't know what your baby wants, etc.</p> <p>Parenting is hard, and I think there are moments when this mother doesn't have it so good. I've had crying sessions and "mom, I need you" so honestly, don't worry about it. </p> <p>Mothers tend to become overally competitive... and no baby is the same. My son didn't crawl until he was almost 10 months, but walked at 12. He's 16 months and doesn't speak yet. </p> <p>People like bragging. Let them be. It will bite them in the ass eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21812 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 08:53:54 +0000 autumnlove 21812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby hasn't arrived yet but I see this a lot with my friends...perfect eaters, perfect nappers, etc. Also, we have a friend that always talks about what a bad parent she is and how horrible her kid is. In reality, she has a great 2 year old and is constantly looking for reassurance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21810 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 08:47:47 +0000 owlmom 21810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Grrrr, indeed. I wish women could all agree to stop doing this to each other. It's hard enough being a mama without someone making me feel inadequate. I love to witness when something they claim they're LO never does actually happens, though. Karma is a bitch ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21809 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 08:45:04 +0000 Rubies 21809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's just so crazy to me because if anything, I tell my friends all the bad things about my LO (I'm turning into my mother!!!) - I was raised never to show-off or brag about anything just in case it comes to bite me in the butt sometime down the road.</p> <p>I hate mommy competitions, too. It just makes everyone feel bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21804 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 06:42:03 +0000 SAHM0811 21804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is common in most parenting blogs too. I don't read much on other kids' monthly development updates... I think they tend to exaggerate milestones and leave out any struggles. I think moms like this tend to do it unconsciously too. Like @zippylef said, I believe it stems from women feeling that they need their kids to be perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21803 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 06:41:08 +0000 Andrea 21803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is most definitely full of crap. I know some of my friends hold back the truth but everyone has complained about SOMETHING at one time or another. I wouldn't be friends with this person anymore. Haha - joke!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21799 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 05:30:04 +0000 loveisstrange 21799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's probably full of crap. I've noticed a certain kind of superiority thing with women and bragging about their kids. I also think that there are women who feel pressure for their kids to be perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mothers-with-their-perfect-little-babies#post-21795 Fri, 25 Nov 2011 03:33:58 +0000 looch 21795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha ha, I've written this before, but I think those moms are probably stretching the truth. Things change, so just because you have an awesome sleeper at 3 months (which I did), doesn't mean you will have a perfect sleeper at 1 year!</p> <p>I hate "mommy competition." My LO is a better sleeper, eater, etc. We all have our struggles. </p>