https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 08:37:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1965581 Mon, 01 Dec 2014 12:18:37 +0000 fussygal 1965581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@math.nerd: Thanks! Great to hear that things are going well for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1965373 Mon, 01 Dec 2014 11:00:55 +0000 math.nerd 1965373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@fussygal: Hi there - here's an update. A week or so after I wrote the post, I just decided that I was ready to let him cry a bit. So I determined that I would do a dream feed before I went to bed (about 3 hours after he went down) and then I would NOT go in to his room until a specific time. If he cried, he cried. I told myself that I would stick to this plan for at least three nights and if it wasn't getting any better after three nights, I could scrap the whole thing.<br /> The general plan was bedtime at about 630. Dream feed at 10 and then I would only go in after 4am. </p> <p>The first night he was up once or twice and cried for a total of 15 minutes or so over an hour (I don't remember exactly). But he never really ramped up the tears or screaming, as I had feared he would. And after three nights he only woke up one time, let out a little yowl and just plopped back down to sleep.</p> <p>Now, two months later, things are going really well. He still goes down like a rock star and sleeps great through the dream feed. I was setting an alarm and feeding him at about 430 (just to keep him from waking up for the day at 530!) and that was working really well. However, I've slipped a bit and now he's waking up on his own often at about 330 or so. My next goal is to wean him from that early morning feed, but it's a process.</p> <p>The main thing I learned from this stage was that he was totally ready to sleep better - it was me that needed the training! I was so scared of hearing him cry, that I didn't let him just work it out of his system. He never really screamed and wailed and carried on like I thought he would. </p> <p>The only advice I offer up to any moms these days is "do whatever feels right to you in that moment". Until I wrote the original post, I thought I "should" be only feeding him once a night. But it wasn't until I WANTED to change the situation, that I was able to do it. The time and energy wasted on feeling guilty about what I thought I should be doing was making me exhausted too!</p> <p>Ok. Enough rambling. Good luck to all of you! I'm interested in any of your updates too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1963597 Sat, 29 Nov 2014 00:19:38 +0000 fussygal 1963597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@math.nerd: Curious how things are working out for you? I could have typed your original post word for word! We did some light sleep training and she can go to sleep beautifully, but those dang wakeups!! My DD has always Been a frequent eater and seems hungry for most of her night wakings, but I feel like we need to drop at least one (we're at 3 At 8 mos.). </p> <p>@BabyBoecksMom: Hope things are going better for you, too! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908946 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 11:18:35 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1908946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no advice but I can commiserate. DD2 is waking every 2 hours, and she is *hungry* each wakeup. It doesn't matter if my husband goes in or me - she'll still want food. I'm hoping she grows out of it soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908904 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 10:49:17 +0000 gotkimchi 1908904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@math.nerd: it depends, for the earlier night she would usually stay laying down, maybe roll around and whine/cry. If it's in the morning like 1 or 2 she'll stand up and alternate between crying and playing! I definitely think the standing and new skills keeps them up. I usually turn the volume off on the monitor and just watch to make sure she is ok and doesn't fall down. It is definitely tough to have the crying in the middle of the night but we try to be consistent. I also give dh the monitor if possible. I agree, if I new shed drop her last feeding in a few weeks id stick it out but I'm tired!! And she didn't drop any feedings very willingly </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908890 Tue, 21 Oct 2014 10:39:16 +0000 math.nerd 1908890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all SO MUCH for the feedback. If I knew for sure that in the next month or so he would self-wean down to one feeding a night, then I could totally hang with it - but I just don't know for sure. </p> <p>@Seattlemom: I think you're exactly right - it's totally time to night wean and he knows exactly what I'll do if he cries. And I've read the sleep easy solution - I think I should probably re-read the night weaning section.</p> <p>@Tidybee: When your husband would go in, did he rub her back until she settled down? Or did he just go in for a short check in and left while she was still crying? How long did it take for her to sleep through that wake up?</p> <p>@gotkimchi: I think we'll end up trying something like this. What kind of crying did she do for those first few minutes? My son will wake up and whine a bit so I think he's just half asleep still and tired. But if I don't got in, he really ramps it up and stands up in the crib. That's the part that's harder for me to ignore. I worry that he's just working himself up more. Was your LO crying heavily at wake ups? Or more like a sleepy, confused whine?</p> <p>Thanks everyone for your help! It's nice to hear from other parents who have had a similar situation and survived! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908466 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 23:41:46 +0000 lady grey 1908466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@math.nerd: sounds like its probably time to night wean, or just nurse once at night. Your LO probably just wants you for comfort and knows that you will come in and nurse as soon as he starts to fussy. </p> <p>Def consider CIO at night again. Have DH help you since listening to the crying in the middle of the night is so so hard.</p> <p>You also could try doing dream feeds. We used Sleep Easy Solution book for sleep training and they have info about dream feeds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908379 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 20:32:54 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1908379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tidybee: we still have one MOTN waking at 13 months &amp; she usually nurses. She will skip it or STTN once or twice a week so I'm thinking of starting to send DH in. I'm tired of incomplete sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908329 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 19:42:06 +0000 QBbride 1908329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@math.nerd: I had the exact same problem. I just rolled with it and eventually DS night weaned on his own around 11 months. I don't have much advice but hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908263 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 18:41:57 +0000 Tidybee 1908263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Beginning around 6 months, I could tell DD just wasn't truly hungry until about 4:30am. She would fall asleep within seconds of being on the boob. I started sending DH in during all of those wakeups and he would just rub her on the back and once she realized she wasn't getting boob, she'd go back to sleep and she started sleeping longe stretches. And I got to get even with DH for all of those MOTN feeds in the first few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908252 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 18:35:39 +0000 gotkimchi 1908252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this same problem! I was hoping bedtime would fix the night but it didn't. What we had good success with is waiting at least 10 min when she wakes up. Most of the time she'll be back asleep in this time. That had her down to about 2 wakeups per night. For the first I nursed a min less every few nights until 3 or 4 min at which point we just ignored again and in 10-15 min she was asleep. I still feed her once around 3-4am but am planning to cut that one out soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908250 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 18:33:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 1908250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in a similar situation- c could fall asleep on her own but woke up at least once or twice a night to nurse back to sleep. I tried the nursing for shorter amounts of time and it was a total fail- crying on and off, with soothing, for two hours until I fed her again. After two nights of that I accepted that it was way easier to just nurse until she was done. She often nursed back to sleep but could fall asleep after I put her down, if she didn't fall asleep on the boob. </p> <p>Eventually, she dropped the night feed on her own at 9 months. I thought she never would after the total fail, but she did. Good luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/motn-sleep-training-advise-all-welcome#post-1908243 Mon, 20 Oct 2014 18:19:26 +0000 math.nerd 1908243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am obsessed with my 9 month old's sleep! I'm curious to see if any of you bees have any a similar situation and could offer up some strategies:</p> <p>My little guy is a champ at going down for the night. We have a really good, solid bedtime routine and I put him down awake and he rolls over and falls asleep. Sometimes he'll putter around in the crib for a while first, but tears are quite rare.</p> <p>However, he's still waking up every few hours over night. I usually just go in and feed him (he's still breastfeeding) since that usually does the trick in ten minutes or less and we all go back to bed. But I can't remember the last time I got a stretch of sleep longer than 3 or 4 hours!</p> <p>I really don't think he's hungry - I think he just hasn't learned to soothe himself back to sleep once he's woken up. We've tried letting him cry it out, but it's too hard for me to handle in the middle of the night. I've also started to try to feed him shorter and shorter and try not to let him fall completely back to sleep before I put him back down. If he's not totally asleep, he does cry for a few minutes, but then falls asleep.</p> <p>I had hoped that once he knew how to go to bed by himself, he'd be able to put himself back to sleep if he woke in the middle of the night! Any advice would be appreciated - success stories too please! </p>