https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 15:25:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2890520 Wed, 10 Jul 2019 05:12:11 +0000 pachamama 2890520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: glad to see a good update. I feel like once a kid is trained so well like you have done 💪 they can deal with change. Also, your movers didn't know to take the feet off the couch??? Boneheads. Glad you figured it out. Sometimes I think I would love to move and get a fresh start in a new house 😄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889531 Sun, 30 Jun 2019 11:39:32 +0000 SweetiePie 2889531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>An update in case anyone is stressed about moves in the future and wants some reassurance. </p> <p>While having an active and “sassy” 16mo was challenging in a move situation, he himself did totally fine.<br /> Moving day DH took him to the empty house where we had previously set up a temporary sleep situation, dropped off the hook on highchair, food etc. He ate lunch there and burned a lot of energy crawling around the empty house and mastering the stairs. He took a 2 hour nap...because our movers took 3-4 hours longer than they quoted. So napping ended up being a nonissue since the house was empty.<br /> Bedtime got hairy. They didn’t get to the house with our stuff till almost 5:30pm. Fed the baby dinner and gave him a bath while the movers kept working.<br /> Put him to bed at 7 and he was hysterical because the movers were still so loud. He fell asleep on me and once I put him down he slept through the final hour of the move, despite tons of banging and yelling, and the rest of the night till 6am. I’ll take it!<br /> Sleep for him has been fine since then. Great 2+ hour naps every day and sleeping through the night. Last night he woke up though a few times and I truly think it’s because his room was freezing, I had to put in a sweatshirt the 2nd time I went in. Our new AC is very strong and it’s only controlled by floor (old apt was room by room and it was heaven). I might have to dress him for winter for bedtime! But otherwise he’s doing so well and is obsessed with stairs (after apartment living his whole life, he’s never seen them!)</p> <p>Actually worst part of the move ended up being totally not kid related. Very behind schedule, our sectional didn’t fit through the doorway to the family room/basement so that sat unassembled in our upstairs livingroom for 24 hours and it felt so disappointing. First world problems but I cried and cried since it was such a long day and felt like it ended in disappointment. We had nowhere to sit and hang out and felt like we were going to have to sell the sectional and have no furniture for weeks when all I wanted was to be settled. Ended up getting a handyman to install baby gates yesterday and he took the feet off of the couch and got it downstairs for us.<br /> The last 24 hours things are really shaping up and I have both boys rooms 90% done along with the basement/family/playroom. My 4.75yo will come home today to his new house for the first time and I cannot wait! After baby is in bed DH, DS1 and I will have a movie night with popcorn and ice cream and I’m literally counting the minutes.<br /> After big boy is in bed I’ll try to bang out the kitchen once and for all.<br /> Our room will be last since we can handle the disarray a little better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889414 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 19:53:19 +0000 ChitownRo 2889414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved when our kids were about the same ages as yours and with strict schedules. It worked just fine. The packing day I just left their sound machines and bedding until the very last minute. They had (short) car naps on the actual moving day. I unpacked their room stuff first. Only took an hour or so for the essentials</p> <p>Though, we temporarily lost both of their favorite lovies on moving day (one at the nearby park, our friends found it). I blame that nanny though. She was specially in charge of that. (If you can hire child care help on moving day, do it! I had her work moving day and the day after. I was SO productive w unpacking that day) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889403 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 16:21:10 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2889403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: ugh I will not give you hope because DD2 switched to one nap at 18 months and went from 2, 2 hour naps to 1, 1 hour/hour and a half nap. Total bummer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889346 Fri, 28 Jun 2019 10:05:39 +0000 psw27 2889346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Congrats on the move and hopefully the nap situation all worked out. We just moved to the suburbs so it's definitely a mixed feelings situation. :heart: </p> <p>When we went down to 1 nap, DS2 usually will sleep between 1.5-3 hours depending on what time we get him down, what time he woke up, how tired he is, etc. At daycare it is usually 2 hours. At home he will nap even longer if we let him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889253 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 13:41:00 +0000 catgirl 2889253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: DD moved to one nap a little after 18 months. When she was doing two naps a day they were both two hours. When she moved to one nap it was 2.5-3 to start and then stayed solidly at 3 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889252 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 13:35:09 +0000 SweetiePie 2889252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: well that will be effing amazing if he settles into a solid 2.5-3 hrs. He just woke up at the 2.75 hour mark. 🙌🏼<br /> My older one will be at camp this summer and full day school again in September so I’ll have such a nice chunk of time to myself in the afternoon. Ahhhhhhhh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889251 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 13:24:53 +0000 MenagerieMama 2889251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Thats how long my littlest slept when she went to one nap. A little shorter now that she’s 2 but I definitely remember being bewildered at the 3 hr mark and making sure she was alive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889248 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 13:17:08 +0000 SweetiePie 2889248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: @MenagerieMama: @Mrs. Pajamas: since you gals are fellow nap lunatics, I’m going to thread jack my own thread. Because I’m lazy. </p> <p>How long are/were naps once you transitioned to 1 nap a day? My older son hasn’t napped in 1.5 years (he’s about to turn 5) and I kinda can’t remember! Is it normal for 2.5-3 hours? My guy, despite all of my fears about today, has been napping for 2.5 hours as of right now 😂😂😂 and I’m like 🤔 am I supposed to wake him? His two naps are usually 1.5hrs each (though afternoon could have been longer but I always had to wake for big brothers school pickup). So maybe 2.5-3 will be normal for him? I kinda think that’s what my older son did too but it’s been so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889240 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 12:13:05 +0000 JJ2626 2889240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: wow you’re leaving the city!! I grew up in westchester and it’s a great place to grow up. I’m sure you’ll love it but definitely a big change! What town? Or maybe you don’t want to tell the whole internet that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889239 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 12:04:31 +0000 SweetiePie 2889239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: And yes, leaving the city 😢 we are moving to Westchester. Very very mixed feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889238 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 11:53:51 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2889238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Great news!! So glad it worked out better than you thought. I'm totally the same--prepare for the worst and hope to be pleasantly surprised. Sounds like it all worked out really well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889235 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 11:46:05 +0000 SweetiePie 2889235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pajamas: I think you’re right, moving in general is stressful and it’s been bubbling up as fear of not napping because it’s something I usually have total control over. </p> <p>Well the good news is that they showed up 2 hours early, which at the time was annoying but now - they are already done packing! 3.5 hours and done. So the baby didn’t take an AM nap but that’s sort of normal at this point - some days he does and some he doesn’t.<br /> Our building has a playroom so we kept him down there for a couple of hours and fed him lunch down there. Brought him up 11:30 and they were done in his room. Small hiccups with them packing some stuff we needed but we got creative. went down at 11:45 no problem in his bare bones dark room. He may wake up earlier than normal because he went down earlier than normal but it’s totally doable and we’ll do a super early bedtime.<br /> So day 1 was a little stressful but overall manageable.<br /> Tomorrow actually had me less stressed than today did so I feel like we are sorta home free. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889229 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 11:10:10 +0000 Mrs. Pajamas 2889229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Woah big news! Where are you moving? Out of the city? I'm 100% with you--nap/sleep schedule ninja. I love the trash bag set up. I would do that too for sure. In fact just made my husband do that last weekend when we were at my mom's house because I wanted to make sure DD2 could nap for a decent amount of time so I could enjoy sitting outside with a glass of rose! Priorities! It totally worked. Do what you need to do to get through the move. BTW it's no the nap that's freaking you out it's the move! So stressful. But it'll be great. and over soon. Hugs mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889213 Thu, 27 Jun 2019 08:35:30 +0000 periwinklebee 2889213@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved when my son was 16 months. I wasn't concerned about naps per se, during the week he naps at daycare, but there were a lot of other changes and I didn't know how they might affect his behavior more generally. We moved from a small condo to large house, he had his own room for the first time, completely different commute. He seemed completely unaffected by all the changes and has slept great during the month since we moved. </p> <p>A couple of weeks ago, they all switched cold turkey from crib + sleepsack to nap mats + blankets in the main classroom for naps at daycare, and every kid in the class did beautifully from the first day onwards. Just to say, kids are pretty robust to changes! Even in nap routines! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889202 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 22:59:19 +0000 MenagerieMama 2889202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are super anal about naps but moved across the country with 2 kids (13 mo and 3.5 yr at the time) and stayed in an Airbnb that was very spartan until we closed on our house. I went a little insane with the lack of structure/control but it all worked out great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889201 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 22:42:41 +0000 LadyDi 2889201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my son was 14 months we traveled to visit friends for a weekend and only got car/stroller naps for 20 minutes or so and he was fine when we got home. It might have taken a day or two to completely get back to normal but I don’t remember being traumatized, which leads me to believe it was fine. I’m not super strict about schedule but missing naps does stress me out. You guys will be fine though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889193 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 21:34:25 +0000 skiierchck99 2889193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It will probably suck a little bit, but aim for early bedtimes. We agreed to take a day trip to Nantucket next weekend and I’m regretting that since she also hasn’t stroller napped in like a year but I know we will get through it. Wishing you the best luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889192 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 21:32:27 +0000 JJ2626 2889192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It will be fine for him to skip naps a couple of days! My LO (also 16 mos) never naps when we fly and she just goes to bed early and it’s fine. She won’t nap in the car or stroller and we are about to fly again during naptime for a long weekend so I’m just accepting that those days will be off. She’s also skipped them when she was transitioning to 1 nap and fighting naps and again with early bedtime was fine. We are also strict on schedule but a couple of days is ok! We also moved when she was 13 mos and had her nap in a pack n play in our empty apartment which worked because we were only moving 5 minutes away. Good luck with the move!! It will be ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889190 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 21:05:16 +0000 catgirl 2889190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: When she was younger if we messed with her nap she had a rough night sleep but as soon as the nap schedule was back on track, night was fine too. I think there is something to be said for the strict schedule providing comfort in a way. So I would be prepared for those couple of days to possibly suck but I really think it will be okay after. </p> <p>Also, not at all crazy to have his new space prepared! I would have totally done the same.</p> <p>And I always overthink DD's schedule. Whenever I see your sleep posts I feel like you're in my mind, so I totally get your concerns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889189 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 21:03:02 +0000 SweetiePie 2889189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: thank you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻<br /> I was thinking about asking them to pack the baby room first when they arrive because he will be fresh off of his AM nap or he’ll skip the AM and I’m ok with that because he’s slowly transitioning to 1 nap anyway. That way when they are done he can take his nap at noon/1 as usual and do everything else while he sleeps. I also tried to pack as much as I could by his bedtime tonight so they don’t have much to do. </p> <p>Then Friday they can take apart his crib first thing and move it all out. Husband will take him in the AM to new house with some toys and food. Entertain him till 12/1 and then he’ll nap in his pack n play as long as he can. Might not happen because the movers will arrive around 1 or 2 but maybe he’ll get a little in. </p> <p>Does anyone else give this this much thought??? 😂 my husband is pretty like minded with schedule but he thinks I am seriously overthinking this. I probably am. But I literally can’t help it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889188 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:57:41 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2889188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved when my son was 19 months old. I put him for a nap later than usual by the time his crib was moved, and he slept through everything. </p> <p>In Your situation, I would just get everything out of his room but the bed and let him nap, and then the next day get his crib set up first and get some sound going and hope he naps. </p> <p>Having said that, I was pretty rigid with naps and by the third kid I’m like whatever, and he always bounces back if we have a couple messed up days because of travel or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889187 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:57:25 +0000 SweetiePie 2889187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: Whew thank you. I’ve heard this too, that contrary to what many think, strictly scheduled kids actually do better with changes in schedule.<br /> So I am crazy and I already had my husband go to the new house and tape black garbage bags up on the windows and set up a pack n play with sleep sack, lovey, and sound machine. 😂😂😂<br /> So when he gets there he’s set up for his afternoon nap. The movers will arrive probably halfway into it so I might just ask them to do the baby’s room last. </p> <p>We’ve traveled and he’s barely napped on our travel days and he’s been fine. But I don’t know why this 2 days in a row thing is freaking me out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889185 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:48:59 +0000 catgirl 2889185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are super strict about sleep schedules, DD is 4.5 and still naps every day. We very rarely mess with our schedule. But the few times we have had to, it's been okay. I think the fact that we are so strict and have a very specific routine made it easy for her to adjust back after. Just get back to your routine as soon as possible in the new house. When we moved last year the very first thing we did was hang DD's blackout curtains and set up her sound machine. </p> <p>Do you have a pack n' play that you could set up in a bathroom? Or a friend who could have him nap at their place? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889183 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:34:23 +0000 SweetiePie 2889183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: thank you!<br /> He will fall asleep in the car so I know that at least on the drive to the new house he will snooze for 30 mins or so. But that’s just Friday AM. We live in NYC so car naps aren’t really possible unless we are making a trek somewhere.<br /> Maybe I will try a stroller nap. He hasn’t done it since he was maybe 4 months old. So like a year 😬 But if he’s tired enough maybe??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889182 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:30:29 +0000 Becky 2889182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You’ll be fine! We’ve never broken a sweat about skipping naps for special occasions and have lived to tell the tale. Also DD2 only naps for my mom these days (she babysits twice a week), and even if my mom hasn’t babysat for a week, the following week DD2 falls right back into her routine—so that’s a full WEEK with no naps, and she goes right back to it. Also, don’t be afraid of stroller naps and car naps and whatever you need to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/moving-anxiety-with-2-kids#post-2889181 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 20:20:52 +0000 SweetiePie 2889181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So the rational side of my brain knows that a day or two of bad naps because of a move won’t be the death of anyone. </p> <p>But the super anxious, sleep-training maniac side of my brain is freaking out that my 16mo might not nap much, if at all, for the two days of our move (one day with movers packing us and one day of actual move). </p> <p>Literally just need some moms (ideally like minded in the naps/schedule/routine department) to tell me that it will be ok and you lived to tell the tale and if I am regimented and consistent when we get to the new place he will fall back into routine. </p> <p>I’m trying to make this ridiculous plan on how to get my son to nap while movers are here for two days but I almost think I’ll drive myself crazier by doing this.</p> <p>FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING HOLY SOMEONE TELL ME THAT ITS OK TO LET NAPS JUST NOT HAPPEN FOR TWO DAYS 😂😂😂 </p>