https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 16:10:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753225 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 21:11:10 +0000 catomd00 2753225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Go and pump when you get uncomfortable if you aren't ready to wean. I've been there, everyone will be fine for a weekend. You need it, they need it because you need it. Enjoy! Sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753222 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 21:02:39 +0000 Revel 2753222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went away for 8 nights from my 23 month old who still nursed a fair amount, although she can't have been getting much milk - I didn't pump and hoped the trip would wean her but she still asked to nurse when I got back, and we weaned a few months later. So I bet LO will still want to nurse when you get back after 3 nights. I did bring a pump on the trip just in case but didn't need to use it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753194 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 19:30:02 +0000 nana87 2753194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read all the responses but I'd just go and don't pump and see what happens! That's what I did-- lo1 was 21 months when I had a week long work trip. I figured that was when we'd wean so I only brought a manual pump for when I felt engorged, and I didn't save the milk. It was a long week so I thought that would be it but the first thing she said when she saw me was "nurse!" Lol. We kept nursing for a month after that before wearing for real</p> <p>Eta she was fine for dh while I was gone </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753186 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 19:04:30 +0000 MsMini 2753186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you been away overnight before? I am a nurse who works day and night shifts and I really stressed about going back to work when my DS was 1 because he only wanted me at night ... my DH showed him I was gone on my first shifts back and he was TOTALLY fine! After a bunch of nights away at work he didn't even wake for me anymore. I think it could go better than you think! I vote go and skip pumping. Enjoy yourself and see what happens when you get back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753183 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 18:47:03 +0000 hitchhiker 2753183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: I did exactly what you're proposing at 18 months. 3 day girls trip, hand pumped about once a day when I felt engorged. She was fine and returned to morning/evening breastfeeding easily when I returned. Enjoy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753179 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 18:35:52 +0000 LulaBee 2753179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will be gone for 3 nights. I think I will take my pump and do it once a day or if I feel engorged (but even when I quit pumping at 12 months I was hardly getting anything) and hopefully she will want to pick up nursing when I return! I don't want to wean, so I won't. I do want to drop any middle of the night sessions though. So tired. Thanks ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753171 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 18:08:04 +0000 Foodnerd81 2753171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: hearing that you missed a day or two when you were down to once a day and she still nursed after that is really nice to hear. I both want to be done and am not at all ready to be done, but I definitely am ready to have a night away when someone else puts her to bed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753170 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 18:05:58 +0000 Foodnerd81 2753170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: I have the same feelings about weaning in general. G only nurses once a day at bedtime now. I'm sort of ready to be done but she's my last baby and I will never nurse again after this and that makes me sad. In your situation, I would try to night wean before the trip- just having your husband go in for night wake ups and stand your ground, maybe. But I would definitely bring a hand pump for your own comfort. G just dropped from twice a day to once a day feedings and the first few days I was actually in pain by the time she nursed at bedtime. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753169 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 18:00:05 +0000 MrsADS 2753169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have gone on a few nights away from my 22 month old (only 1 night at a time, but more I would likely do the same thing). I brought my pump and pumped AM and PM. I am nursing him a few times a day. I am making enough milk still that I would be super uncomfortable if I went like 24+ hours without expressing some. It is a hassle but it was like, I don't want to deal with boob pain on my trip.</p> <p>My son is similar with the nursing, but when I've been away, he's been fine without it with my husband. It's like "out of sight, out of mind." He drinks milk anyway. </p> <p>BUT if you wanted to wean, it could be a good opportunity to do so. My son just picked right up nursing and acting like nothing had happened when I left, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753168 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 17:54:30 +0000 MrsBucky 2753168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went on a similar trip in January. I was ready to wean and was ok if that was the result, but it wasn't. We continued to nurse for another 5 months and just finally stopped two-ish weeks ago. So, I'd go, not pump, and assume you'll pick it back up when you get back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753166 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 17:46:40 +0000 birdofafeather 2753166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I weaned both my girls around 18-20 months based on trips I was taking 4 day trips at that time. (and the fact that I was happy with our nursing journey and ready for a break) each time we were down to once a day, every other day so I haven't had to worry about supply/engorgement as it was pretty much gone. DD1 was over it after I got back, but DD2 would have been happy to keep going. I just stood my ground and gave her a cup of milk instead. </p> <p>Don't worry about your husband. It's always easier when you're gone for them than when you're there! Go on the trip! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753159 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 17:23:53 +0000 PurplePeony 2753159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went away for a few work trips when DD was a toddler and she just picked nursing right back up when I got home. I was a little bummed because I actually wanted to wean her but she wasn't having it. I didn't pump after she was about 15 months and the first trip, my boobs felt full and a bit sore, but the other times I felt fine (I don't think she was getting much by then anyway). If you have a hand pump, bring it along just in case. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753147 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:27:41 +0000 PawPrints 2753147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yeah, to clarify - we ended up doing SEVERAL 1- and 2-nighters away from DD and she still picked up nursing 1x-day after we got back. It wasn't like the decision to wean was made for me. I got to decide. And I didn't pump at all for any of those occasions. I put that pump COMPLETELY away when she turned 12 months, no way I was hooking myself back up to that thing again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753146 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 16:25:29 +0000 PawPrints 2753146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had some stress over pretty much this exact question. Not for a girl's weekend, but for several possible overnights (when ILs wanted to take her for a weekend so we could pack/unpack as we moved; a getaway for me and DH for my bday/mother's day, and then two work trips). I voted just do it and see what happens. Maybe cut down the nursing to just 1-2x/day beforehand though. That's the path I followed, and it was totally fine. Turns out when I wasn't around, DD understood she wasn't going to get to nurse and was okay with that. </p> <p>The first time I was gone for a full two days, my boobs were really full and uncomfortable, so do be prepared for that, and I assume my supply probably dropped afterward (I couldn't tell, DD was nursing either way 1x/day). </p> <p>Finally when I was gone for 4 days on a work trip, I decided we were done. I got back and told DD "nursing is all gone" and she understood, and patted my boobs night-night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753135 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:58:21 +0000 Coral 2753135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: Sorry if others have said the same thing but I think it all depends on whether or not you are ready to wean. If you aren't, than definitely bring the pump with you and pump when you feel full/to keep your supply. If you want to wean, I would start trying to cut out some of the feeds now (particularly the night one.) I would still bring the pump but only express to relieve pressure (you could also just bring a hand pump for that.) Ultimately, I think it depends on what you want long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753104 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 15:21:31 +0000 gingerbebe 2753104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd go and I would definitely wean. Your kid will be 21 months by then - that seems like a plenty long time to have nursed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753092 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:48:00 +0000 Truth Bombs 2753092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No chance I'm missing a girl's weekend to nurse my 19 month old. Go on the trip! </p> <p>If you want to wean, go, and don't pump. When you get back your supply will likely have plummeted enough that if you let her try she won't get much and she'll lose interest. This is what I did with my son when he was about 15 months old. I went away for 3 nights and he didn't give my a husband a hard time while I was gone, I let him try to nurse a couple times when I got back and there was no milk and he got over it.</p> <p>If you don't want to wean, go and pump morning and night to keep up your supply and otherwise enjoy yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753084 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:37:53 +0000 LulaBee 2753084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bushelandapeck: this gives me HOPE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753078 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:32:04 +0000 bushelandapeck 2753078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go and bring a pump just in case, knowing you probably won't need to use it. I left DD while she was still nursing when she was 16 mos and she did just fine and we picked back up when I got home. I did pump but not a whole lot came out. It was the first two nights she had STTN ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753074 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:21:01 +0000 LulaBee 2753074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: I've done most of the wakings (and with my oldest, now 4.5) but my husband has been getting up with the youngest the past few months when she won't sleep and laying on the couch with her... but even then, sometimes she gets so worked up I have to get her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753071 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:15:24 +0000 LBee 2753071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would doubt that she is still getting much milk during these night sessions (or even the day). I would go, sleep through the night, pump maybe twice during the day (hand pump and only for like 5 minutes each side), and have a blast! </p> <p>Also, I'm guessing you've done every night waking since she's been born since she requires nursing? I would try to remember that when you are feeling bad for your husband if (and that's a big IF) she's a hot mess a few nights. It might even have the benefit of night weaning her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753070 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:13:03 +0000 LulaBee 2753070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: that sounds like the easy option, lol.</p> <p>@Freckles: I think she will probably cry for me in general when I'm gone, but not specifically my milk (since she does drink cow milk in a bottle).And no, I don't think I have much milk at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753069 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:12:04 +0000 tequiero21 2753069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: I think it was harder for me than him lol. When we left, he didn't seem to care that I was gone. I was sad to be weaning even though I wanted to wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753068 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:11:24 +0000 Freckles 2753068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With both kids i went away for work around the 20-22 month mark. That was my opportunity to wean cold turkey. They were only nursing for comfort at that point. I can't imagine you having too much milk? Neither one cried for the boob while i was gone.</p> <p>I don't think it's necessary for you to do a gradual wean. I would go on the trip and enjoy the time away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753067 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:10:45 +0000 Adira 2753067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LulaBee: Well, I would probably still go and pump, but I'd only pump a couple times and call it good enough. It's just for a couple days. But I wouldn't want to NOT pump since it might get uncomfortable if you really are still producing a decent amount of milk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753066 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:09:51 +0000 LulaBee 2753066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: was it hard? My oldest weaned pretty easily but she was older and I was pregnant and it hurt, so I had more incentive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753065 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:09:12 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2753065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wait and see. If you leave and your supply drops then so be it. If not then keep going! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753063 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:08:11 +0000 tequiero21 2753063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my third, I weaned a few days before we took a family trip without him. we went almost 18 months. That's longer than I planned so I voted wean. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753062 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:07:58 +0000 LulaBee 2753062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: on work/school days I nurse in am, sometimes when we get home, before bed, and usually once in middle of the night. Yeah, I don't think I want to wean. I mean, NIGHT WEAN, sure.... :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/much-neededwanted-getaway-vs-nursing-toddler#post-2753058 Wed, 28 Jun 2017 14:04:46 +0000 Adira 2753058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How often are you nursing her?</p> <p>I wouldn't worry about how she is when you are gone. I know my kids, who would nurse to sleep, never had an issue when I wasn't there. Out of sight, out of mind, I guess!</p> <p>If you're only nursing a couple times a day, I'd probably go and take the pump (or even just a hand pump) and just try to pump a couple times (maybe before going out and then in the morning?). I wouldn't wean before I was ready. But I'd still go on the trip! </p>