https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 12:41:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1213560 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 13:19:12 +0000 irene 1213560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I just read this coming from your other (more recent) post. Hugs and I am sorry you felt neglected. I went to several mom groups before too, but you are right I always went with a friend or several friends. And the groups are usually better organized that the one you described, there is always someone leading so I wouldn't feel out of place.</p> <p>Even if you ended up in a similar situation next time, just tell yourself, I came here with my LO. My LO is my date and I am not alone. That's what I tell myself nowadays, and that's the truth! We are no longer alone anymore. Hopefully you'll feel better then!</p> <p>Big hugs!!! :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1210018 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 07:22:19 +0000 swurlygurl 1210018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is pretty rude - if I was there I would have come over to talk to you!! :)<br /> I don't blame you for not wanting to go back (and, for crying, I totally would have done the same!).<br /> I hope the next group is better!! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209950 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 05:26:59 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 1209950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I've been to a moms group similar- everyone knew each other already and they were not interested in new members. It's tough being a mom already- you should have at least got a friendly hello! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209927 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 02:37:52 +0000 illumina 1209927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry your experience wasn't great :( again, I wished we lived closer! It's tough if there aren't many other babies of a similar age to yours- because that helps me find things to chat about. Hopefully you'll have a better time at the other group- don't be put off from trying again... The support I've felt from having real life Mums to commiserate with has been great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209468 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 18:42:38 +0000 sorrycharlie 1209468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry! that is so rude that they ignored you. rotten women. (and men?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209430 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 18:23:34 +0000 Foodnerd81 1209430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: so there wasn't even any orange squash??</p> <p>Sorry, had to say it. But seriously that's so weird. I'm sorry it was so bad. I would have had the same reaction you did. I hope you can find a better group! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209424 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 18:17:39 +0000 shopaholic 1209424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you had such a bad experience! I think every mum feels awkward the first few times until you get to know each other. I find it's easiest to just start chatting with other mums about their babies age and name - that usually gets the ball rolling. I'd try a couple of different groups to see if you get along better with certain ones! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209403 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 18:06:07 +0000 maybebaby 1209403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness you poor thing. I would have had the same reaction--this made me want to cry just reading it!! Having babies the same age as you would mean that they are also as near to those excruciatingly hard early weeks--when I meet other new moms, I feel like I am meeting a fellow war veteran. I am sorry they were so unwelcoming. They missed out. I hope you find another group that you can join. Meeting local moms and babies while I am staying at home has been so good for my well being and I bet there is a better fit out there for you! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209378 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 17:42:51 +0000 Trailmix 1209378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've found that people tend to be awkward at these things in the beginning but after they see you a few times, conversations start to flow. I bet if you go back once or twice, you'll start to have a better experience.</p> <p>Also, I would've reacted similarly to how you did, just don't want you to give up on a mom's group bc I think they're really valuable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209290 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 16:59:10 +0000 Kemma 1209290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry that the group wasn't welcoming and didn't work out for you, that sucks!</p> <p>I always find new groups to be much easier when I go with a friend, strength in numbers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209205 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 16:11:56 +0000 MapleMoose 1209205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a weird group. Isn't interaction with others the whole point of mom's group? I wouldn't go back either after being snubbed like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209180 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 16:00:48 +0000 LomaLinda 1209180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to our library's baby story time and felt almost the exact same way. I didn't know what to do, no one talked to me, and I didn't know the words to the songs either. I tried striking up a conversation with a couple other moms but all they wanted to do was talk about how great their babies were...which I'm sure they are great, but I was not trying to compare, just talk about baby stuff... Anyway, the only real enjoyment I got out of the group was that my baby enjoyed sitting in my lap and looking at everyone. But... I haven't been back. I want to make other mom friends soooo badly, but none of the moms I run into seem very friendly. So sorry this happened to you :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209170 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:55:04 +0000 mrskc 1209170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I'm so sorry. I would have done the same thing! I hope you can find a better mom group. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209161 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:49:37 +0000 Freckles 1209161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, that's okay. It's understandable that you felt out of place. I always feel self conscious when i'm at library laptime. Maybe the next time you go, take a look around and see if there are any moms who are by themselves. They may be easier to approach and more friendly. Also, don't worry about not knowing the words! I'm sure all of them don't know the words as well.</p> <p>Big hug! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209159 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:48:26 +0000 Bookish 1209159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: I don't get it either. The moms on my street are not friendly at all to me (like to the extent of turning their heads when they see me) and I just don't understand! I never understood the mommy wars or not supporting your fellow mom... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209157 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:46:50 +0000 Cherrybee 1209157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for the reassurance, everyone. I feel very silly! There is one even nearer to my home I need to try, but next time I will go with a friend!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209143 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:42:47 +0000 tlcbaby 1209143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry sweetie! :( I can't believe people weren't more welcoming. I wouldn't want to go back, either. BUT, I would totally find another one and go on your time when you are prepared. Maybe find a friend to go, too? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209142 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:42:19 +0000 Lindsay05 1209142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't get it! I personally am so inviting and comforting to other moms because finally there is someone going through what i'm going through. I am sorry it was a bad experience. I go to a playgroup and LO is by far the youngest one there and I have to watch her get pushed and she can't interact with the other kids. Luckily the moms are pretty inviting and accepting that LO is kind of out of the loop with most activities. Hope you can find a different one, or even try and go back and give it another go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209131 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:38:01 +0000 MoonMoon 1209131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could see myself reacting just as you did-so sorry for this experience! People can be so clique-y :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209123 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:32:40 +0000 MamaBehr 1209123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh, that really sucks. I'm so sorry! If I had tried to meet a friends at our local library time, it would have gone like that. Maybe those weren't cool moms anyways, don't let this stop you trying to meet other moms! I can tell you that as your LO gets older it does get easier, because she will pick a little friend to follow and then you can talk to the mom! That is how DD and I met some really good friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209120 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:31:52 +0000 MrsKoala 1209120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! I know that I would have a really hard time with that situation as well because I'm an introvert and starting conversations can be really overwhelming for me. I wouldn't swear off the mum's group idea altogether though. Maybe this one just wasn't the atmosphere that you need and there might be another out there that might be a better fit for you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209115 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:31:17 +0000 ALV91711 1209115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry nobody talked to you. I wouldn't want to go back either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209114 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:31:14 +0000 Smurfette 1209114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry you had such a bad experience. I can't believe no one talked to you. </p> <p>And if it makes you feel better, I would have cried too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209113 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:31:01 +0000 Bookish 1209113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Oh hun!!! So many hugs!! I would have reacted the exact same way, honestly. I'm so sorry!! I've been having a lot of issues myself with moms being seemingly too good to talk to me.</p> <p>:( So sorry love, I wish it had gone better :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209106 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:28:27 +0000 DillonLion 1209106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, that was weird that no one interacted with you!! Sorry you had such a bad time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mums-group-fail#post-1209093 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 15:22:45 +0000 Cherrybee 1209093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone has been urging me to go to mum's groups so, today, I went to one. Well... that wasn't quite how it happened - I went to the local children's centre to have E weighed and the nurse said "the mum's and tot's group is on, there's still half an hour left, why don't you stay?" </p> <p>She led me into another room and left me at the door with another member of staff, who waved me into the room. There were about 15 mums there playing with little kids. There were two ladies with babies (around E's age) sat in one corner, cradling their babies and talking. The room was strewn with toys. I didn't really know what I was supposed to do! I turned to the girl who had waved me into the room and asked "so what would a 4 month old baby like to do here?". What I really meant was "what do I do now?". She gestured to the corner the two baby mums were sat in (on the floor - there were no chairs) and said "this is the baby area. We also have a sensory room". She then led me into a tiny room with some lights and stuff in. Then she walked away, leaving me there alone. ...</p> <p>I was frozen with fear. I don't know what came over me, my heart was racing and the sweat was building up on my neck and chest. I gave myself a stern talking to - I was here to join in, not to hide in another room - and I went out to the baby area and sat on the floor, next to the other baby mums. The baby mums carried on chatting and didn't even look at me. I reached for a toy and showed it to E but she didn't show much interest, really.... and nobody made any effort to talk to me or even smile in my direction. I didn't know what I was meant to be doing with E....</p> <p>I started to feel really upset and felt tears building up behind my eyes. I blinked them back desperately. Then one of the workers called "song time" and all the parents and kids came and sat on the carpet in a circle. I sat with E between my knees. Everyone started singing a song about winding a bobbin, complete with actions. I noticed that the other baby mums had left. I didn't know the song so I couldn't sing along and I started to feel really, really out of place. I took E's hands and tried to copy the actions but i felt so stupid and then I realised that tears were pouring down my face, while I waved a tiny baby's hands around. People were staring at me. I suddenly felt really, really panicked and got up and ran out of the room, holding E. I cried and cried, getting her into her pushchair. I couldn't stop. I've just never felt so stupid and so alone in my entire life. </p> <p>It was awful. I don't know what's happening to me - Im not normally a nut-job! I won't be going back..... </p>