https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:06:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886066 Thu, 30 May 2019 11:34:41 +0000 MenagerieMama 2886066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2 year old always answers “watey milk” when I ask if she wants water or milk to drink. If I try and ask one at a time she will say yes and no, and when I pick one to bring she gives an exasperated wail and asks for the other one. But still generally drinks what I bring. It drives me bonkers! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886058 Thu, 30 May 2019 11:11:16 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2886058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Commiseration. DD is 3 and this is my life right now :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886044 Thu, 30 May 2019 09:24:22 +0000 erinbaderin 2886044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I’m going to hold onto this. “Being a monster is developmentally appropriate.” It’s my new mantra. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886036 Thu, 30 May 2019 08:56:07 +0000 graceandjoy 2886036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhh I feel like I get this both from my 4.5 AND 2.5 year old lol. One just left the 3's and one is entering 3's soon :silly: </p> <p>Honestly I have no idea if I do it right. If it's an easy/small thing I guess I don't really sweat it... I mean I change my mind all the time too! But if it's a bigger thing or something I can't undo (ex. I cut up the banana like you asked and now you want it whole), then I let them know and they will tantrum/cry and that's that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886031 Thu, 30 May 2019 07:46:22 +0000 Chuckles 2886031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: so true. To keep my sanity, I just kept reminding myself that it was developmentally appropriate for him to be crazy :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886029 Thu, 30 May 2019 07:35:23 +0000 tinyperson 2886029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, 3. My 3yo cried for 15 minutes non stop because she wanted the granola bar that was on the table in front of her. If I moved it toward her, she pushed it away and then cried that she wanted it. It's a hard age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886025 Thu, 30 May 2019 07:30:19 +0000 pachamama 2886025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son does this all the time, it's infuriating. 3y5m. Essentially what they're doing is taking control of their environment and making you do what they want. He was so sweet when he was two! 😭😭 Basically we just bribe and threaten. I suck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886024 Thu, 30 May 2019 07:27:03 +0000 skinnycow 2886024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, sounds like this is a common 3 year old problem.</p> <p>Mine will say sentences like "I want chicken nuggets but I don't want chicken nuggets." What am I supposed to do with that?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886013 Wed, 29 May 2019 23:40:18 +0000 Sams Mom 2886013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the midst of this too. Usually I just tell him "you made your choice" and double down on him. But I have also given in on occasion just to make it stop. It drives me absolutely batshit. 🤦🏼‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886012 Wed, 29 May 2019 22:26:14 +0000 thepicklemonster 2886012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2.5 year old son does this all day long and especially with food. It’s maddening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886011 Wed, 29 May 2019 22:16:41 +0000 misolee 2886011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>same. with my 3 year old. all day, all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886008 Wed, 29 May 2019 21:15:31 +0000 Ali-oop 2886008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time. 3 is not my sons best year. I’ll ask him something and he’ll literally say “Yes...but no.” 🙄 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886005 Wed, 29 May 2019 20:31:29 +0000 Hypatia 2886005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had many, many talks about how we mean what we say. If a person says something and then immediately contradicts it, it’s a form of lying and manipulation, and that’s not allowed in our house. I ask once and they answer once. That’s it. (In theory.) Tantrums about it were either ignored or disciplined, depending on the circumstances, and we tried really hard to follow through and not give in to stop the hysterics.</p> <p>It sucks, though. At that age, they’re often looking for a reason to be upset and there’s not much you can do. Aside from what I already mentioned, my only advice would be to eliminate choices wherever you can. If they don’t know there’s a choice, they won’t get upset about not having x instead of y. Choices are great for ages 4+, I’m just not sure they’re productive at age three, at least it wasn’t for us. I think three year olds like being comforted by a concrete routine rather than being able to handle decisions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2886001 Wed, 29 May 2019 20:05:40 +0000 bhbee 2886001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>THREE. Seriously it is a long year. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2885996 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:37:10 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2885996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good god my son did this and it was maddening. I started giving him whatever he said first no matter what (because usually he would say the opposite of what he wanted) and he learned to stop. He still will do it sometimes now. “Yes I want to go. NO i dont. I DO!” 🥴 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2885995 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:34:23 +0000 meadow 2885995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice but commiseration. Same exact boat.....kids turn 3 on friday........</p> <p>My DD just learned the phrase "I changed my mind" and the sentiment kills me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-3-year-old-keeps-changing-his-mind#post-2885994 Wed, 29 May 2019 18:32:21 +0000 erinbaderin 2885994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know he’s testing us. I know occasionally letting him get away with it is a mistake. I’m mostly just looking for sympathy, although I really do welcome advice. </p> <p>My three year old keeps changing his mind, and it’s making me insane. For example, bedtime. We read one book and then I asked him to pick a second. He said he didn’t want a second. “So you want to go right to bed?” “Yes.” “Ok. I’m going to ask you again. If you say no we will read another book. If you say yes you are going right to bed. You cannot change your mind. Do you want to go right to bed?” “Yes.” So I turned out the light and he burst into tears and wailed “NOOOOOO I want another boooook!!!”</p> <p>That’s just a sample. He then went on to say he didn’t want hugs and kisses, but when I left without giving them he threw a tantrum. He said he didn’t want a nightlight but when I turned it off he flipped out. He’s currently crying because he said he didn’t want his water bottle and threw it out of the room and now he wants it back. I’m at my wits end, he is making me CRAZY. </p>