https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 15:01:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151572 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 17:15:26 +0000 Foodnerd81 1151572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm following this too even though C is only 2.5 months. Her night time sleep once she is asleep is ok but it takes forever to get her to sleep and naps are totally unpredictable. I need to master drowsy but awake but I just don't have any idea how. </p> <p>Will check out te weisbluth book. I'm also not opposed to a little CIO but think c is still too young. My nips can't take this much comfort nursing to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151537 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 16:51:23 +0000 meredithNYC 1151537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read Weissbluth, too, and found it super helpful. Not a thrilling read by any stretch of the imagination, but it did the trick in our household. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151527 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 16:43:48 +0000 Boheme 1151527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@heartonastring: I'm totally cool with taking myself (and my boobs) out of the bedtime equation because I feel like I (and the boobs) are the ultimate sleep crutch for him. My husband is actually going to switch shifts for 3 months to see if we can get this sleep business figured out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151482 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 16:11:34 +0000 heartonastring 1151482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I won't pretend like we have sleep all figured out! Getting her to sleep both at bedtime and MOTN isn't an issue for us though and I think it really did all come together when we finally achieved drowsy but awake. The key in our case is that DH does bedtime so I'm not part of the equation and neither are the boobs! She gets a bottle if expressed milk, but I know that doesn't work for everyone. But it was the key for us. Once DH got her good at putting herself to sleep I started being able to do bedtime again :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151475 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 16:05:16 +0000 Boheme 1151475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@heartonastring: We co-bed out of desperation sometimes. He goes down for his first stretch in the crib, and he naps in the crib. He ends up in the bed when I'm too tired to deal with rocking him to sleep anymore. I'm so happy to hear you were able to accomplish drowsy but awake without CIO. I know so many people have success with CIO, but it kills me to hear him cry. I don't think I have it in me to do CIO sleep training! I'm going to go stalk all your sleep threads now lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151395 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 15:20:21 +0000 heartonastring 1151395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I agree with PPs who said it sounds like a sleep association/object permanence issue. Time to work on putting him down awake...the elusive drowsy but awake. I know, much easier said than done. If it's any consolation, teaching my DD to go down awake only took about a week and we didn't do CIO for that (not to say there weren't any tears, but not CIO).</p> <p>Do I remember correctly that you co-bed? Are you open to moving him into his own bed (can still be in your room if you want)? Might help eliminate the nursing to sleep association. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151248 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 14:09:06 +0000 plantains 1151248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Exactly! It was definitely true for us that once DD figured out how to fall asleep, she stayed asleep. Like your DS, she woke up once at night to nurse and then right back down. She eventually dropped the middle of the night feed too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151226 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 14:00:12 +0000 Boheme 1151226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@knittylady: He hasn't slept more than 3.5 hours since July 22nd, according to BabyConnect. So sorry you guys are going through the same thing! It stinks! </p> <p>@yellowbird: He does at random times! Sometimes I'll be holding him at church while talking to a friend, or stick him in the swing long enough to change out the laundry, and I look down and he's fast asleep! ]</p> <p>@JoJoGirl: Thank you so much! And HUGS! I hope we both get some sleep soon :) And our LOs too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151114 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 13:27:25 +0000 hilsy85 1151114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: this! We had to break all sleep associations and let him learn to fall asleep on his own in his crib. It took about 3 nights, and since then he has fallen asleep perfectly (of course, he still woke up at least once a night until now, but he put himself back to sleep after nursing and lengthened his sleep stretches!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1151104 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 13:25:26 +0000 Crisark 1151104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our biggest help is using the boppy pillow for her to fall asleep in and we turn on a box fan for 'white noise' it works wonders.<br /> She doesn't like being held to go to sleep and doesn't go to sleep in her swing or chair or anything. She likes to put herself to sleep in the boppy and then sleeps fine in her crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150978 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 12:45:45 +0000 brady80 1150978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Merlin's magic sleep suit! My LO was waking every hour last week. Last night in the shit she slept for 6 hours, fed and then slept another 4.5! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150878 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 12:14:27 +0000 Freckles 1150878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does he sleep in your room? It's around the 4-5 month mark that they are more aware of their surroundings. I would try having him sleep in the nursery (not in your room), and add white noise and blackout blinds. Seriously, the white noise and blackout blinds did wonders for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150870 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 12:12:35 +0000 knittylady 1150870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No advice, just commiserating. From one June mama to another. I thought we were going through the 4 month regression early at 2.5-3 months, but it's just been going on since then really. I'll be following this thread for tips too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150838 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 12:00:30 +0000 plantains 1150838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does he fall asleep on his own? I had this issue with DD at this age (I was nursing to sleep) and the only thing that worked for us was to break that habit and put her down awake. We did CIO, worked like a dream. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150831 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:57:18 +0000 twinmama 1150831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sleep Sense program, specifically the stay in the room method was the only method that worked for us. And since, the kids have been amazing sleepers. I highly recommend. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150823 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:52:13 +0000 ShootingStar 1150823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Is there any way you can try and replicate what the sitter does? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150670 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:04:51 +0000 JoJoGirl 1150670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh! That sucks!! From one " my baby's sleep sucks" mom to another :) </p> <p>And yes - troublesometots.com has been REALLY helpful, and I've watched basically every single Isis sleep webinar (both free). Agree with others, your LO sounds like he's waking up between every sleep cycle and surprised to find his sleep association gone (nursing/rocking/etc). May be time to help him learn to sleep on his own (drowsy but awake, yadda yadda). Again troublesometots has really awesome posts about how to do that, why it's important, etc. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150657 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 11:00:11 +0000 illumina 1150657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: I probably don't have any useful advice for you since I've only 4 weeks experience, but I can commiserate on the other people getting better naps thing because if Dh puts her down she naps fine, but for me? no chance of even getting a nap!! The only thing that works every time for me is either wearing her in the ergo or taking her in the pram! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150643 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:56:43 +0000 yellowbird 1150643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can he fall asleep on his own at all?</p> <p>Sounds like you're in the thick of the 4 month regression. It was horrible! !! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150637 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:54:05 +0000 sandy 1150637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Online course from momsoncall.com...summarized what almost all the sleep books said (healthy sleep habits happy child, secrets of the baby whisperer, babywise). I loved it and it changed my life. So easy bc you can just view online </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150628 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:51:05 +0000 Mrsbells 1150628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>white noise helped us a lot, we would play rainfall sounds and that really helped </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150595 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:42:36 +0000 immabeetoo 1150595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: If he's waking every 45, it sounds like he is relying on however you're getting him to fall asleep, to fall back asleep. I've read good things about Isis on trading down sleep associations, and as you know, we liked the no cry sleep solution which helped my LO fall asleep on his own. It was reassuring to have a plan - I decided what I was going to do, when, and that I'd stick to it for at least 4 days to see changes (it's so easy to feel like going back to'old ways' in the middle of the night!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150587 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:40:29 +0000 looch 1150587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That book was a game changer in my attitude towards sleep...not necessarily my son's actual sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150568 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:34:44 +0000 Boheme 1150568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I ordered it from Amazon over the weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150567 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:34:24 +0000 Boheme 1150567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@heartonastring: Daytime sleep depends on the caregiver. He goes down like a dream for our sitter, sleeping 1.5-3 hours in the a.m., and 1.5-2 in the pm. For my husband, he does two 1.5 hour naps. For me, he fights like the devil and will usually give me an hour in his crib or PNP. He'll sleep for 2+ hours each nap if I hold him. He goes to bed around 7:30-8 pm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150562 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:32:56 +0000 looch 1150562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you read Weissbluth yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150556 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:30:50 +0000 heartonastring 1150556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eek! I love the Baby Sleep Site and Troublesome Tots. What time does he go to bed? And how much daytime sleep does he get? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-45-mo-is-killing-me-spam-me-with-your-sleep-resources#post-1150551 Tue, 15 Oct 2013 10:29:25 +0000 Boheme 1150551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is officially the worst sleeper of all times. He used to give me a 3 hour 'long' stretch before getting up every hour...now its been replaced by a 27-45 minute stretch. He then wakes every 45 minutes to an hour the rest of the night - whether he's in my room or in his room. Did I mention I'm solo at night 27 days out of the month?</p> <p>What are your favorite sleep resources/websites, sleep books, sleep cues, sleep tricks, sleep ANYTHING? </p>