https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 19:44:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1980551 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 13:33:14 +0000 Pirouette 1980551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: haha oh i had the same delusions! my LO slept through the night from 2 weeks old until 4.5 months! not only am i not a sleep genius, i apparently know how to turn a good sleeper into a devil child :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1977477 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 16:48:29 +0000 lizzywiz 1977477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: well, if this is encouraging, it might help to know it was a steady decrease from 3-4ish wake-ups at 1 year to 2ish at 18 months and then 0 at 24 months.<br /> So,. hopefully at least the amount of wake-ups will decrease soon ;-)</p> <p>and on a side note, my LO fooled us by sleeping through at 4-5 months. I remember thinking I was secretly a sleep genius. Then at 5 1/2 months hell began again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976793 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 11:09:41 +0000 Pirouette 1976793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lizzywiz: i love everything you said here. I think we've all been where she's at in thinking we're doing something wrong and what you wrote is so true. except for your bad news, which made me want to die...my LO is almost 1, i may have to wait another year?!?! :silly: </p> <p>@tillma: HUGE HUGS!! my LO is a year, and we have been through many of the ups and downs you describe. a few good nights and then a bad one. a few bad weeks and then a good one. teething, reverse cycling, colds, separation, milestones, tummy trouble....SO much going on and it's impossible to get any consistency. you are a stellar mom, and just remember that we will all get through this. The babies that slept through consistently are no better at life than the babies that don't, and the same goes for the parents. Different babies have different needs, and some take longer to walk, some take longer to talk, and some take longer to develop good sleep habits. Hang in there momma! you are NOT alone :) and tell anyone with advice like "have you tried _____?" to shove it! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976756 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 10:56:59 +0000 tillma 1976756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh thank you so much. I honestly have tears in my eyes reading this. Hearing that some of you have had the same problems and nothing helped makes me feel so much better. When people grill me I guess it makes me feel inadequate like I havent tried hard enough or if I just try one more thing that is the one thing that will work. I feel frustrated by it too. Believe me I would LOVE to sleep! I guess we will keep gently trying things in the hopes that he will eventually be ready. At his point we have tried everything we know of and have done it fully and consistently and yet he refuses to give in and go to sleep. Thank you guys so much. You really made me feel better and I needed it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976710 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 10:25:59 +0000 ShootingStar 1976710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe try a sleep consultant? Also, I know you said you tried CIO, is it possible you didn't give it long enough to work? And that's not said to grill you! I just ask because when we sleep trained at 6.5m it took a good 3 weeks for it to work consistently. And then he kind of regressed and needed the pacifier again. </p> <p>It sounds like you guys have tried a ton of stuff. We were doing the same thing too before we sleep trained. But my advice is to pick a routine and stick to it, and CIO again. If he's still eating at night I would try to increase his daytime food and reduce what he gets at night gradually. </p> <p>Once he starts increasing his sleep times, make the latest time his "do not rescue before" time. So if one night he sleeps until 2am, that's the cut off. The next night if he wakes at 1, either CIO or wait at least 10 minutes before going in. Then do everything you can to soothe without feeding or picking up. If the next day he sleeps until 4am, then that becomes the next cut off, and so on. Make sense? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976594 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 09:14:54 +0000 Mamasig 1976594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not a bad mom! Some kids are just not good sleepers. I do think eventually they grow out of it. My older son has never been a good sleeper. We started cosleeping at around 7 months so that we could all get rest. He is still in our bed and he's 2. But hey, at least we get sleep. Little brother is a really good sleeper and I didn't do anything different. Totally depends on the kid!</p> <p>Try not to let others make you feel bad and do what you have to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976582 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 09:09:15 +0000 lizzywiz 1976582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YOU ARE A STELLAR MOM. Seriously.</p> <p>We are on the other side. LO is 2.5 and sleeps through. But she didn't sleep through until 2.</p> <p>The bad news: she didn't sleep through until 2. Nothing her over-educated parents did changed anything.</p> <p>The good news:Nothing her over-educated parents did changed anything. It is NOT your fault.</p> <p>If you, your husband and your Dr. (plus a lot of Dr. google, I imagine) haven't found something, then you probably just got the crap end of the stick when it comes to baby sleep.</p> <p>And it will, quite literally, drive you crazy. Do whatever you have to do to get some sleep. Even if you think you are normal now, you will look back and see how crazy you were with sleep deprivation.</p> <p>People who have not had a bad sleeper will never believe that there isn't a trick for some kids, so they will keep spouting advice- just try to ignore them. </p> <p>.It's the worst. Hang in there. Survival mode is the perfect name for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976401 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 01:41:10 +0000 Zbug 1976401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are NOT a failure. We are in a similar boat at 14 mo. Have you looked at Dr Jay Gordon's night weaning method? Apparently, it's optimal at 18 mo but can start as early as 12 mo. If you think your LO might be high needs, dr Sears has some helpful info on that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976384 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 00:34:14 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1976384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tillma: hugs. No advice here - just solidarity. Not five minutes ago I asked DH to please just take LO downstairs because she WILL. NOT. SLEEP (he doesn't work Tuesdays and was just playing a video game so he didn't mind). It's 12:30 and she wants to jump all over the bed. Is there a "shoot me" emoticon? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976379 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 00:25:06 +0000 Emsmems 1976379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I feel for you! DS is 11 months and we have always struggled with night time sleep! He was getting better after doing some CIO (Ferber with checks), then we went to visit my parents for a week and sleeping in the same room was disastrous for us. He was waking up every 1.5 hours. We have just decided to do CIO again. We are doing it gradually by saying "ok, if he wakes up before midnight he has to cry" then by 2, by 4, etc. That's how we did it before and he was sleeping pretty much through the night, maybe waking up around 5 or 6 for a nursing and then back to sleep until 7:30 ish. </p> <p>I really hate having him cry but I know it works and he is happier if he sleeps better at night, and at some point I just can't take all the wake ups anymore. </p> <p>I guess my only advice is to be consistent. If you decide on some method, stick to it and don't give in too early!</p> <p>Good luck, sleep issues suck so bad, and I feel like there is no simple answer since everyone (and LO) is different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976377 Tue, 09 Dec 2014 00:24:17 +0000 Woolly Mammoth 1976377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started cosleeping at 4 months because I couldn't keep getting up all the time. LO is 15 months now and goes through good phases (1 early morning wakeup) and bad phases (nursing constantly all night). We have no idea how to get him to sleep anywhere else.</p> <p>It's frustrating to hear other parents talk about their (usually younger) babies going to bed on their own and sleeping through the night, but there are lots of parents in our situations as well. I hope it helps to hear that you're not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976367 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 23:56:49 +0000 BabyTsMom 1976367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tillma: Bumping in the hopes that someone will have some advice for you! I'm so sorry you're having a hard time. You stated he fell asleep easily in your arms but woke easily, so has he ever been able to put himself to sleep (even when he was sttn?)<br /> I ended up using the Ferber method to sleep train my LO but I also found the sleepeasy solution book to be helpful as well.... I hope someone else can help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-child-has-crappy-sleep#post-1976003 Mon, 08 Dec 2014 17:49:51 +0000 tillma 1976003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been on these boards in awhile because life has become a survival situation at our house and we are doing what ever we can to get by. You ladies have always been so kind with your advice so I am coming to you now to see if anyone knows of anything else we can try.<br /> A little background DS slept through the night almost immediately as a newborn but has always had crappy napping skills. He was the baby that would fall asleep in your arms but woke so easily if you moved. We eventually found success getting him to sleep in his rock and play but I swear the kid could sense if you walked away and would wake up and cry. He doesn't like to be alone and this has been apparent from day one.<br /> Around four months his sleep began to take a dive. It always seemed to be something. One week it was a growth spurt and hunger that woke him the next it was a cold and the one after that it was teething. In between his sleep would get better only to get worse again when something else hit. Things have gone from one to two times a night back then to four to seven times a night now at 13 months. Along the way we have tried everything we could think of, changing sleep areas, changing outfits and mattresses, making dad go to him, rocking instead of nursing, white noise machine, heartburn medicine, trading down and crying it out. Nothing has worked and we are now to the point where DH is on the couch and I am in bed with LO because at least there I can get SOME sleep instead of NO sleep. I feel like a failure. I am tired. I am stressed. I am not at my best. I have stopped talking about it because of this and because whenever I do I get grilled (by probably well intentioned people) about what I am doing and have I tried this and you have to do something because this is no way to live! And then I feel even worse. My question is this is this just our situation and we are going to have to live with it and hope he outgrows it or do we keep trying? Any suggestions on the less than common/obvious reasons why we are having these issues? I'm feeling like a less than stellar mom and need some hope...:( </p>