https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 03:53:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age/page/2#post-365290 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 19:04:54 +0000 wheres_c 365290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My FIL is 63 and he's married to a 33 year old. It's very very bizarre. They're been trying for a baby but not having any luck.<br /> She's really nice and fun but. Don't understand what she sees in him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age/page/2#post-365261 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 18:50:11 +0000 Penny Lane 365261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is 11 years older than me. And because I'm the oldest in a very young family (my grandparents are barely 65) and he is the youngest, his oldest sister is my mums age and his parents are older than all my grandparents. </p> <p>On the other hand, one of my fathers ex girlfriends was a year younger than me! They've since broken up, thank goodness! And my paternal grandfather recently got remarried to someone younger than his youngest child </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365255 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 18:47:11 +0000 anonysquire 365255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husbands mom is 55 and marrying someone 27. Me and her finally have 1 thing in common, we will be married to people in their late 20's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365238 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 18:30:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 365238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.B: I had no idea you were the same age as me!! I imagined you much older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365221 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 18:06:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 365221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: oh my goodness!! that is sincerely awful. Wow. I could never live with myself if I did that... </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: oh yes I knew that :) I know several couples IRL who are about 10 years apart. But honestly until now the couples 20 years apart was only something I saw on TV. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365212 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 18:00:18 +0000 Mrs.B 365212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is 16 years older then I am. He is 39 and I am 23. We are perfect for each other and it's not weird at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365163 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 17:14:51 +0000 mediagirl 365163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Sil is 20 years younger than her husband. He is closer to her Dad's age than hers. Looking at them, you never would question it. They're perfect together. It's not creepy at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365115 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 16:23:58 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 365115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, My uncle's fiance is my age, but that's only an 11 year gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365113 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 16:22:06 +0000 HLK208 365113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: ugh, yes! It wouldn't have been a huge deal if a) she didn't work for him b) he ended his marriage before hooking up with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365112 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 16:21:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 365112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mr jacks is 11 years younger than me... But we're perfect for each other. I try not to get too hung up on the numbers. It's more about whether two peoples' personalities are right for each other. I have a relative who second married someone decades younger than him. They seem dearly happy, though I'm not thrilled with the way the relationship came about. Years later I can overlook that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365100 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 16:12:29 +0000 rachiecakes 365100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is 16 years older than me, we started dating when I was 19 and he was 35. We've been together almost 13 years :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365085 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 15:51:25 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 365085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: I am appalled by that! Uh! How skankalicious of both the guy and "the nanny" ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365081 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 15:46:03 +0000 marionberry 365081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lawbee11: I totally get it. My dad, when I first told him, said well I always knew you needed someone as mature as you...I just don't think he thought someone his own age, lol. My friends have really come to love DH just as much as I do and I too, don't think they would be able to see me with someone else now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-365068 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 15:33:13 +0000 cyndistar3 365068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my grandma (mid 60's) got remarried to a guy who is in his early 80's it is kinda creepy because he was the one to dedicate her when she was a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364980 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 13:19:04 +0000 cheesetomywhine 364980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mum and dad were 28 years apart. They were married 23 years (would still be together but my dad passed away). My daddy was older than my mum's parents! To me it isn't strange since I grew up in that environment. They were soul mates :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364974 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 13:02:22 +0000 lawbee11 364974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I totally understand. I was really self-conscious when DH and I started dating because I was worried about what my friends would think. But, they were nothing but supportive and never questioned me (even though I am sure they thought it was weird). Now they say they can't imagine me with anyone my age! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364939 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:28:11 +0000 marionberry 364939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is 51 and I am 27...so I definitely am who you're talking about. My DH and I have an amazing marriage but it certainly has its own issues that a younger marriage would not. Both our families support us and even our pastor in marriage counseling said we were better than most couples he had seen. DH has two daughters, one who is older than me and just had a child. So I'm a grandma lol. I get that it may seem weird to others but love is love no matter your age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364938 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:27:36 +0000 lovehoneybee 364938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFF's mom was 30 years younger than her dad. Her dad's in his 80s now, and she has half-siblings old enough to be her parents. Sadly her mom died if cancer a few years ago, but they always seemed happy together.</p> <p>And my uncle married a woman 20 years younger. He used to be her Sunday School teacher (and she was in the same SS class as my older brothers). She's only a few years older than his daughters. It's kind of weird because she's the spitting image of his ex-wife. They seem happy now, but it was rough for several years...his daughters weren't okay with having a stepmom their age, he waited until after the wedding to decide he didn't want anymore kids....but my cousin just had a baby so she gets to love on a baby now, lol.</p> <p>ETA: And a friend married a guy 17 years older than her...she filed for divorce after only a few months. That guy was a serious creep, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364937 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:26:38 +0000 HLK208 364937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>An old friend of mine married a guy when she was 19...he was 38. He started buying her expensive jewelry and a new range rover only a few months into their relationship, which I thought was odd. They've been married 7 years.</p> <p>The reason why I stopped being friends with her is because she was their nanny, the dad cheated on his wife with my friend and his marriage was done with. She started referring to herself as mommy before they got married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364906 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 12:06:44 +0000 Mrs. Pen 364906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lolabee: aw that is hard!!! </p> <p>@lawbee11: oh wow!!! that's so interesting :) no judgment here- I just admit it's weird to see a girl my age (my friend) dating someone just a few years younger than my dad.</p> <p>This happened to my DH - his uncle married a lady younger than HIM!! hahah it's totally weird for DH that his aunt is 1-2 years younger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364900 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:59:52 +0000 lolabee 364900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do agree that most times age is just a number! I do have a friend who is dating a guy that is almost 25 years older than her. They have been together for almost 6 years now, they seem very happy. </p> <p>My only concern in this instance is, he has children from a previous marriage, one who is only a couple of years younger than her. Before he came along she wanted to eventually get married and have children. He does not want to start over with the raising children and marriage portion of a relationship. She has just accepted this and seemingly changed her views on children. My worry is she is conforming to what he desires in the relationship...I just don't want her to wake up one day and realize the time (child bearing years) has now passed her by. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364882 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:44:20 +0000 SugarplumsMom 364882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Asian living in a pretty homogeneous county with relatively few immigrants. There are other Asians here but more often then not, they're from the motherland and married to someone older. By older I mean much older -- 30+ years older! I've never seen this before and still find it kind of shocking. It makes interaction very difficult because not only do we not have much in common, it would be really uncomfortable for my DH to hang out with guys that are older than his dad! </p> <p>On the other hand, my grandfather had recently remarried a much, much younger woman. The whole family was shocked. It totally didn't work out, which was expected. He's heartbroken now, but he really should have known ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364870 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:30:54 +0000 lomom 364870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 29. I had just turned 18 a few days before. I think you should live and let live. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364862 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:25:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 364862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: yup. 22 and 42 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364856 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:22:53 +0000 heffalump 364856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's good friend recently married an older guy. He has a kid who's pretty much our age, just a few years younger. How weird for her, her step mom is just a couple years older than her. We don't really know him because he doesn't hang out with us, if she hangs out it's always solo. We assume it's because he doesn't have much in common with us due to age...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364852 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:21:13 +0000 Dapple Grey 364852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a family member who is married to a man the same age as her parents! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364837 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 11:09:01 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 364837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a good friend who is 27 and her baby daddy is 55!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364829 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 10:59:33 +0000 yoursilverlining 364829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is 16 years older than me; we've been together for over 6 years now. I don't think its weird or a big deal when both people are adults going into the relationships - especially when both people are over 25 and self sufficient with somewhat equal life experiences. Honestly, I was never interested in dating guys my age. Too much immaturity across the board, haha. My husband and I have just "fit" from day 1 - and everyone we know supports our relationship. My parents were in their 30's when they had me; so they are not anywhere near to my husband's age.</p> <p>I do worry sometimes about much younger women with much older men (or vice versa) because often there is an unequal balance of power in those relationships. You have someone with very little life experience and someone with a lot of life experience. I think, in a lot of May-December relationships where one party is very young (like, under 20 especially) there is a dynamic of power and control. </p> <p>Doug and Courtney are fame-whores and of course won't work out - she's a teenager; maybe 1 in a million teens are ready to a lifetime commitment. Considering the way she behaves; she isn't that 1 in a million mature teen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364812 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 10:35:49 +0000 lawbee11 364812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: No, not at all! We joke about that all the time. Luckily no one has actually ever asked us if he's my dad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-friend-is-engaged-to-a-guy-twice-her-age#post-364811 Sun, 28 Oct 2012 10:34:03 +0000 Foodnerd81 364811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older sister's husband is about 11 years old than her, which really sin't that big of a gap, but it's enough that he is closer to my parents' age than our youngest sister. But my older sister was almost mid 30s when they got married, so it wasn't a big deal.<br /> DH is 2 days older than me, so its not exactly scandalous. :) </p>