https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 11:02:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532922 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 21:08:41 +0000 prettylizy 532922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amelieisme: it has worked for DH and I at least three different times, and neith of us has ever paid more than $60 into the jar!! And now I no longer have to hang his coats up, or pick up his keys off the counter, and I've stopped stealing his tshirts to wear to bed/go to the gym in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532916 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 21:07:12 +0000 MrsRcCar 532916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amelieisme: Have you considered leash training your dog. By this I mean while the dog is in the house , it remains on a very short leash at your side and you continue on your day as normal. This way you can keep a close eye on the dog. This leads to being able to get the dog outside faster in terms of bathroom needs. Also I would recommend getting Oder Ban. I works a lot better then Natures Miracle. The leash techique worked when my dog was a puppy/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532895 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 21:01:33 +0000 Amelieisme 532895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: my dog is a small breed and its not a UTI. He's had one before so I recognize the difference, although its a good thought. Its definitely marking behavior (visiting the same spots, a few drops on the corner of the coffee table, etc.) I do have Nature's miracle. A trainer is a good thought. We haven't done that yet so I will look into it</p> <p>@mrbee: he's a mini dachshund</p> <p>@MamaMoose: @Bluebonnet: Thing is, he often IS the one who cleans it up. The problem for me is that it isn't EVER really clean. I have tried lots of products (Bissel spot vac, deodorizing powders, nature's miracle) and I can always still smell it. I can't stand it! DH definitely gets annoyed at the dog, but it doesn't bother him to the level it does me. And he's a softie and feels bad for the dog later when I crate him, etc. </p> <p>@prettylizy: haha! that's actually a pretty good idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532772 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 20:32:32 +0000 prettylizy 532772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amelieisme: I would have a chat with DH, explain one last time how incredibly important this is, then make a 'forgot it' jar. Everytime he forgets to re-diaper the dog, or leaves the gate open, he puts $20 in the jar. He will either pay for the new rug/carpet cleaner guy to come in, or he will quickly start remembering to do those things! lol!</p> <p> Seriously though, make sure it's a big amount like $20 each time, it has to be enough that it will quickly become more annoying than forgetting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532757 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 20:28:11 +0000 MrsH 532757@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with seeing a vet to make sure it isn't something else. We adopted a cat and our male dog started marking plants in the house - thankfully it was only plants and we cold just move/remove them.</p> <p>Have you tried odor neutralizer if the dog pees in the same area? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532413 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 17:36:31 +0000 Bluebonnet 532413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Talk to your vet and rule out any medical issues. You may also want to consult a dog trainer to help with this transition. </p> <p>Does your husband clean the carpets after the dog has an accident because DH left the gate open, etc? If not, he should be so he understands the importance of the closing gates and supervising the dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532405 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 17:33:41 +0000 MamaMoose 532405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you should have an agreement that if the dog marks on your husband's watch then your husband needs to clean it up. I would think he would learn pretty quickly if he had to be responsible for his actions.</p> <p>Also... Is the dog neutered? If not that would be my first step. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532400 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 17:32:46 +0000 mrbee 532400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Amelieisme: what kind of dog do you have? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532390 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 17:27:17 +0000 Foodnerd81 532390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: I agree on the working with a trainer and the Nature's Miracle. It really sucks to be dealing with this! Assuming you did clear it with the vet, I think a trainer could offer you good solutions AND reinforce to your husband that it needs to be both of you and needs to be consistent. My parents' dog has a lot of behavioral issues and they had a personal trainer for the dog, but my mom follows everything and my dad doesn't, so she never learns what is and isn't OK. </p> <p>I hope you can find a solution. That sounds SO frustrating! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-532377 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 17:20:20 +0000 Happygal 532377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very frustrating. And gross. I'm sorry this is a situation you have to handle right now.</p> <p>@MrBee: where are you with your good relationship advice? You always seem to have a good book recommendation. I believe we're both fans of John Gottman. I would say when things are cool that it's time to have a "come to Jesus" talk and lay it all out there. I think other members here will have good ideas for you on how to do so in a constructive manner.</p> <p>As for your dog, have you ruled out this being a medical issue? 9 years is older for bigger breeds. When my dog starting peeing in the house, it turned out to be a UTI. If you have and you're certain it is behavioral, I would recommend working with a trainer. Not only might that person have good ideas for you, but it could be an outside neutral party to offer advice and drive home the need for everyone being on board with the plan. Also, make sure you're using something like Nature's Miracle to clean!</p> <p>Good luck and keep us updated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-husband-amp-my-dog#post-531075 Mon, 28 Jan 2013 10:42:40 +0000 Amelieisme 531075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Need to vent:</p> <p>I have had my dog for 9 years. Prior to moving in with my husband, he was a GREAT dog. When we moved in with him, he started marking his condo. I have tried lots of ways to stop his behavior (repellent sprays, vinegar spray, wearing a diaper, replaced the carpet...). We had a nice rug that I threw out from his marking. Anyway, things escalated when LO came into the picture. He upped the marking frequency. He marks the crib, the carseat, my husband's work bag, ruined a new rug that I bought so LO would have a soft surface on our wood floors, my LO laundry hamper....</p> <p>We moved into a new house last week. We got our rug cleaned....first day back, he marks the rug. I went and bought a kennel and decided he just needs to be crated whenever we leave and at night (haven't done this since he was a puppy). I reinforced that he needs to wear a diaper when in the house and has to be in whatever room we are in when we are home so that he can be watched. We have a gate on our stairs so that he cannot go upstairs without us. </p> <p>The problem is I CANNOT get my husband to implement our plan to stop the behavior. He cannot remember to put the diaper back on the dog after letting him outside. He leaves the gate open and the dog ends up roaming unattended. Saturday, when I was out jogging I came home to find a pee stain in our new closet. GRRRR. I clean that up and reinforce that we need to watch the dog and have him wearing diaper at all times. This morning, I am getting ready for work upstairs and DH took the dog downstairs to let him out. A few minutes later, in comes my dog diaper-less and the gate is open and DH is downstairs and unaware. SO FRUSTRATING.</p> <p>Then when I get onto him for it (I am not a big yeller, I more speak harshly), DH point out that I am "yelling' at him in front of LO. I feel like that was a low blow. He always villainizes me. DH never yells or really gets that angry about anything so I always feel like the bad guy. Like I am mistreating the dog by implementing all the rules and setting a bad example for my child by speaking to him harshly. When I get mad at DH, he always gives a heartfelt apology, but his behavior just doesn't change. I really don't want the dog to ruin our carpet in our house we moved into 1 week ago.</p> <p>Thanks for reading. If you have any suggestions, I'd love to hear them! </p>