https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 27 Jun 2026 16:20:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040889 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 15:39:01 +0000 ellewoods84 2040889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi, so I didn't read all the responses, but O has been hit or miss with the solids. Now that she hates purees, or the spoon for that matter, we are only doing finger foods. Honestly, she maybe....eats like 5-6 bites? Here and there she will eat a bit more, and sometimes even less, however; I make it a point to always feed her in her highchair. I also eat same time as she does thinking maybe like, oh okay, the kitchen and the table are for eating to set an example. My husband said the same thing, maybe she doesn't like the highchair and we should just feed her like on the floor or kitchen counter. I thought about it and I decided no, because thats not really an option. The highchair is for eating. She doesn't NEED the solids at this point, and I feel like if we just start feeding her wherever she wants to eat (floor, counter,etc.) it is just a bad habit forming. Like, when she's older, what happens if she gets sick of the floor and only wants to eat while she's having a bath? haha, I mean, strange example, but basically its not an option. I might be wrong, but who knows. She also gets very distracted while in the highchair, constantly leaning over the sides, turning around to see what the cat is doing, looking out the window, etc. when she starts doing that I offer another bite, if she refuses it I say, okay! food time is over! I am just hoping as she gets older and older, she will be more interested. I mean, I really feel like they will basically HAVE to be more interested once the milk flow slows/eventually stops. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040799 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:48:47 +0000 Mae 2040799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: aw that is great! I know another member here whose baby had a lot of the same issues mine has had with eating said that her LO made a huge improvement when she just cut out daytime bottles and crossed fingers that her baby would figure the food thing out (and she did!). Fiona is way too young to be that concerned/try that right now-- but I am keeping in mind that as we pass the 12 mo mark and beyond that is at least something we can try if our doc agrees and see if that might be what she needs to figure it out. But who knows. She may catch on before that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040789 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:46:29 +0000 Mae 2040789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: thanks :) I am so hopeful she will grow out of her intolerances. I have no idea what the plan is for testing her tolerance for soy and dairy, I'm going to ask at her 9 mo appointment. But I know that both my husband and my brother had severe intolerance to dairy as babies and grew out of it so I'm hoping it is a limited time problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040787 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:46:01 +0000 Bubbles 2040787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 13mo, he has his snacks standing at the coffee table, but still all meals in his high chair. </p> <p>We are in a pretty good place with solids at the mo - although we have had our fair share of difficulties on the way. But what seemed to really make the difference in terms of DS interest in food was when we switched to WCM. When he was on formula he would eat solids, sometimes more than others - but he never seemed that fussed or even ever showed any hunger. Within a few days or less of switching to WCM he was eating much more, but also he was actually looking for the food, getting excited when he saw it etc etc. Its like he finally realised the point of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040770 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:39:45 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2040770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: hopefully you'll be pleasantly surprised at a year to 15 months where everything will come together smoothly :)</p> <p>MSPI kids are such a challenge. You've been so focused on food and nutrition as a matter of survival. The only thing I'd suggest is to not follow her around with food as that can set up some funny dynamics... But as you know better than anyone-- with MSPI, you do all kinds if funny things. My daughter is still &lt;2%ile and I'm sure her issues may have come into play... But she's on her curve so that's enough for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040747 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:27:26 +0000 Orchid 2040747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like my LO. His tolerance for the high chair lasts about 5 minutes then he wants out ... immediately. He eats and drinks very slowly so I know that he would eat for much longer than he would sit in the chair.</p> <p>We feed him on the floor too. This works for us and though not ideal, we are happy with the arrangement. At 10 months he has 2 meals with us on the kitchen floor. We typically linger for at least an hour eating dinner and chatting as a family, so LO can scamper around, eat as slowly as he'd like, and enjoy family time. I do feed him a lot, but try to be completely neutral about what he eats/refuses and never try to distract him into eating more. It's not at the table, but it's family eating in what has become our new dining spot. Do what works for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040730 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:15:28 +0000 Madison43 2040730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: three meals at 9 months? At that age, I was probably putting her in the high chair 3 times a day to eat, but it certainly was not a "meal" by any standard. And she's always loved solids. Sometimes she was super into it and other times, she wanted a bite or two and that was it. I would just focus on getting her into the habit of sitting in her high chair with food in front of her a few times a day and not worry so much if she's eating a "meal." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040706 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:04:49 +0000 Mae 2040706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: Interestingly enough we sort of tried this on Saturday because we had people over for dinner so we all sat around the table with LO in her high chair and I was giving her bits of her food plus some fruit from my plate but not paying THAT close of attention because I was chatting and nothing I was giving her were choking risks. I thought she was eating really well because the food was disappearing but when I went to take her out of the high chair I saw she had just kept sweeping everything I put on her tray into her lap lol. She had a whole lap full of food. She ate almost nothing. sigh. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040695 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 14:00:01 +0000 Kemma 2040695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a huge believer in families eating their meals together (where it's practical of course!), kids often get distracted by and interested in the social part of mealtimes and it can make it easier to get the food in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040692 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:59:21 +0000 Mae 2040692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Forgot to respond to the last part of your question about her being hungry. I don't feel like she associates solid food with satiating hunger yet. I've tried feeding her right before a bottle (when she should be hungriest), even before her first bottle in the morning when she hasn't eaten for 11-12 hours, and she is no more interested than she is when I offer an hour after her meal. But she has also probably never really eaten enough to feel any difference in fullness after she is done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040675 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:51:02 +0000 lady grey 2040675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just keep offereing and wait it out for now. My LO wouldn't really eat solids at all until 10 months. By 12 mo he was more interested. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040662 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 13:46:00 +0000 Mae 2040662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: Once or twice per day. Usually twice if we are home all day. Our ped says the "goal" is to have her on 3 meals by 9 months but lololol that's not happening. It's hard enough to get her to eat ANYTHING twice/day at this point :) </p> <p>@Mrs. Jacks: It's not that she DOESN'T want the food, exactly (well-- with stuff she likes more like puffs and melts and dried fruit). It's just that it is far less interesting than anything else in the room. If I can get her attention she wants what I'm holding and she self-feeds. Once I get her attention and she doesn't grab for what I have (or if I'm feeding her a puree and I get her attention and she doesn't open her mouth) we're done. I'm definitely trying not to push her at all. But eating just isn't an activity she finds fun enough to focus on it right now so that is why most meals I end up just sort of holding a bag of whatever or a plate of cut up fruit and following her around so that I can offer when I have her attention then wait a few minutes until she has finished with that bite and looking at me again to offer the next one. But I do recall your story about your daughter not being into eating until past a year and I try to keep it in mind that she may just not be into solids yet and hopefully will be. We have such a hard time giving her bottles though that I do want to do what I can to get her on solid food primarily soon after a year rather than extending out bottle service for two or three years :) </p> <p>@Bluebonnet: She can't eat most of what I eat (just produce really) because she is MSPI. And she doesn't really like plain produce or meat at all, although I do try to give her bites of whatever I'm eating that she can have. So I don't often have her sit next to me while I"m eating a normal meal but if I'm trying to feed her say-- pear-- I cut it up and sit down with her and I eat some then offer her some and back and forth. </p> <p>@twodoghouse: lol squirrely babies :) Luckily Fiona seems to be doing really well so far with the putting something in her mouth, chewing, and swallowing. For drier things anyways. She still has textural issues. I tried to feed her some black beans the other day and she could not swallow the skin and kept gagging until she spit it out. Same with bites of watermelon, the fibrous bits of it were too hard for her to swallow easily I guess. But puffs/melts/freeze dried berries/bites of pear she seems to chew and swallow well so far. </p> <p>@hilsy85: I think I am feeling... pressure. More than stress. It feels like there is so much conflicting information on what to do/what babies should do. And it feels like SO many babies her age are really into eating real food at this point. Plus I got a little concerned when I saw in our ped's info sheet that she "should" be on 3 solid meals by 9 months. Like I worry I'm being a lazy parent if I don't keep offering and trying to get her to eat. And I worry that the longer I wait to try to get her to eat the harder it will be. But then there are other people who say "oh no it is totally normal for babies to not eat until they are 1+" so that does make me feel a little better. Although it seems like more often those are babies who are breastfed and it is easier to just keep breastfeeding them as long as they want. Bottle feeding our babe is still a constant stressor so if I can encourage solids I'd like to. (And then that added layer of our food issues and our ped's comments that if she doesn't ultimately take to solids we may need to do feeding therapy with her...). So I guess I get excited when she'll eat 10 melts in a row, even if that means following her around on the floor to do it haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040299 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 11:05:25 +0000 twodoghouse 2040299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are like this too and because I was so excited that they liked puffs or bites of my banana, I would just give them bits and pieces of things as I was eating them. However, it freaks me out because they squirrel them away into their cheeks and they're crawling around with pieces of things in their mouths. Which scares me because I'm afraid they'll choke. So I'm trying to get them into their high chairs now as much as possible. It sort of sucks to go through the ordeal of get if into high chairs just for a couple peas and some puffs, but I do want to avoid starting really bad habits (of them begging at my feet like puppies, haha). And I of course want to keep them safe. It helps when Alex is home and we can both man a baby and all four of us eat together. It takes a lot of work making sure two babies are actually swallowing, not choking, etc. so when I'm home alone with them I sit down with the intention of everyone eating together, but I don't get much eating done. I assume that will get better with time as they are better at feeding themselves, and not storing up six puffs in their cheeks, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040286 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:59:42 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2040286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always in the highchair. Usually while I'm eating too. It takes a long time to eat still. A pancake today took close to 20 minutes I think. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040254 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:43:01 +0000 Bluebonnet 2040254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you feeding her while you are eating? (LO in the high chair while you are sitting at the table eating dinner). LO has always been very interested in what others are eating and drinking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040253 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:42:18 +0000 looch 2040253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always in a chair, always at the table. Believe me, I do a lot of things to get my son to eat, but one thing I am strict on is that we eat in the kitchen, at the table. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040249 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:40:40 +0000 hilsy85 2040249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with not pushing solids so much--it's really common for babies to not get into them til over 1! As long as she's still taking formula and staying on her curve I wouldn't stress. </p> <p>I think the main concern about bad habits is not so much that she is "training you" to feed her on the floor and chase her with food, but more that you are training yourself to be in a mindset where you HAVE to chase her around to try to sneak bites into her. The big thing with feeding toddlers, when she gets to that age, is that you don't want to make food into a struggle/control issue, and it seems like you are stressing about it a lot already, which makes me think that you're maybe more susceptible to this happening? Like, battling with her as a toddler over food will seem normal because you've been doing it for so long. So I would try to break the habit now if possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040246 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:40:10 +0000 Greentea 2040246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO didn't really get into solids until over a year. We fed her in her high chair always though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040238 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:36:31 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2040238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Many babies don't have the desire to eat solids til over the age of one. I might have missed some of the story, but my take on it is that I wouldn't push it too much. Offer food and if she's not interested, clean up and move to the next activity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040230 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:32:11 +0000 Mamasig 2040230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What if you leave the food out longer? Sometimes DS1 won't eat right away but will eat his meal later. Also, sometimes distraction like mickey mouse has worked for us. He's so concentrated on the tv he'll gladly eat. Maybe these are bad habits but I don't really worry. I just want them to eat! It's not like it'll last forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040200 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:16:30 +0000 jedeve 2040200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many times a day are you offering? I think at that age we were just starting two meals. Maybe she just isn't hungry? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kid-has-a-spring-in-her-asswhere-to-feed#post-2040183 Mon, 26 Jan 2015 10:05:47 +0000 Mae 2040183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So our eating issues have been well documented, but the gist is that we are working on encouraging our 8 mo to eat more solids. She is incredibly unmotivated by and not excited about food. I am finding more things that she will eat, slowly, but one of our problems seems to be she seems to sort of hate her high chair. </p> <p>I feel like she is just a busy kid. She has always been super incredibly active and now that she started crawling and standing she is just on the move all. the. time. When I try to feed her in her high chair she just leaaaans over the sides/tries to turn around and wants to look at and reach for anything that isn't me giving her food (we do both purees and BLW). Even stuff like puffs and melts which are her favorite go unnoticed if I try to put them on her tray or hand them to her. I can usually get a few bites into her but it is a lot of calling to her trying to get myself into her line of vision to focus on eating then she's over it looking around again. </p> <p>So I feed her on the floor a lot. Because if she can move around she'll eat more. But she still doesn't focus on it. She'll reach for a melt if I hand it to her but then she is off crawling somewhere and I have to follow her around and grab her to sit her down to offer another. So feeding her a handful of melts takes a long time because every time I sit her down she springs right back up to go exploring lol. </p> <p>I feel like this is maybe common for her age. Crawling is exciting! But I was just curious what other people do at this age. And I sort of wonder if I'm starting bad habits by feeding her anywhere she will eat rather than making her sit in her high chair to eat. I just feel like since she will consume so much more on the floor than in the high chair we should roll with that for now until she actually starts caring about food. </p>