https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 21:20:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-423082 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 19:22:54 +0000 Mrs Checkers 423082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a card is totally fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-421428 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 11:19:49 +0000 dagret 421428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: My SIL always puts together a "wish list" for our nephews, and I appreciate it, just because they have SO MANY TOYSSSSS that i wouldn't know where to start. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-421390 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 11:09:17 +0000 T-Mom 421390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's interesting to me that people still feel compelled to bring a gift even if the invite says no gift. I guess I am used to it since my DD has attended so many birthday parties for her daycare/pre school friends from a young age and they are almost always "No gift." I really appreciate that since during some seasons we may be invited to multiple birthday parties during one weekend for several weekends straight. To have to buy a gift for every one would be very stressful, and we do try to attend the ones we are able to since no one wants to have a party where their buddies don't show up! When we have no gift parties, sometimes there are 1-2 ppl who bring a gift, but I never make them feel bad and always write a nice thank you. For 1st bday party though for both kids it was a gift party since I think ppl would be upset if they couldnt bring a gift. Anyway, I just wanted to point out that no gift parties are meant to make life easier on the attendees, not more stressful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-421002 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 08:07:17 +0000 Happygal 421002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the no gift parties are nice. A young boy I know went to a birthday party recently where the child had actually registered for gifts. Too much, IMO.</p> <p>A card made by your child would be really nice. I'm interested in hearing if others end up bringing presents anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420987 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 07:56:43 +0000 mediagirl 420987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ick, uncomfortable! I would take a card and just leave it when you head out after the party. If people bring gifts, you can hand over your card as your gift since the parents DID say no gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420976 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 07:47:46 +0000 Andrea 420976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd bring a gift anyway, just in case everyone else does. If you see people gift giving, then you can take yours out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420973 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 07:41:50 +0000 singingbee 420973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: haha! This made me laugh! :)</p> <p>I usually bring a card. Depending on how well I know the people, I may bring a gift too. I'm a rule breaker when it comes to things like this. If I do bring something, it's small like a gift card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420887 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 03:10:12 +0000 BoogieBea 420887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate "no gifts" parties. I've been to a couple that requested no gifts so, of course, I didn't bring anything. But everyone else brings a gift and they'll do the gift opening in front of everyone. So, now I always bring a little something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420884 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 03:05:59 +0000 808love 420884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yah, I went to one with no gift and everyone else brought one. Ahhhhhh!!! I wish I didn't follow the rule!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420852 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 01:40:59 +0000 MsMini 420852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a card is totally fine! I haven't been invited to any no gift parties, I have been to a few "charitable gifts only" parties though, so we would write where we made our donation in the card. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420820 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 00:32:46 +0000 T-Mom 420820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids have "no gift" parties and it is not expected for<br /> Anyone to bring a card, only your presence! But a card is totally fine and a nice gesture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420818 Thu, 29 Nov 2012 00:25:54 +0000 softcream 420818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>just the card and nothing else.</p> <p>i still have birthday cards from my early birthdays (like 1st grade) and like to look back at them sometimes. you can be sure i don't remember nor have any of the gifts that i received back then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420548 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:58:43 +0000 lawbee11 420548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think just a card would be perfect! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420544 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:57:32 +0000 anonysquire 420544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think no gift really means bring the child their very own pet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420504 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:46:50 +0000 Mrs. Bee 420504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i know some parties say no gifts then everyone brings one anyway and then you feel like a fool because you're the only one without a gift.</p> <p>but when they say no gift, i usually go with no gift. it's pretty common around these parts esp if it's a casual party in the park. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420494 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:43:32 +0000 DigAPony 420494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think just a card would be fine. Like PrettyLizy said, if you see other cards there, you can set yours out. I would think the food bank donation thing was very strange, to be honest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420479 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:35:20 +0000 prettylizy 420479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: I really like that. I agree, card is fine. You could even tuck the card in your purse and if you see other cards then you can whip it out, or just hand it over at the end of the party if no one else brought them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420472 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:32:22 +0000 dagret 420472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about a card with a note saying a donation was made in the birthday kids honor to the food bank or something? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420425 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:18:50 +0000 mrbee 420425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A card is fine. Cookies is borderline... I say it depends on how good your cookies are. If they're awesome, then all will be forgiven!!</p> <p>No peanuts though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420423 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:18:15 +0000 ladylulu 420423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oops, i meant i didn't want the parents to think i ignored their wishes by bringing a dessert. i wanted to bring something as a gesture of "thank you for inviting us" but i don't want offend them. does that make sense? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420420 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:17:12 +0000 chopsuey 420420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's a no gift party I'd just show up empty handed. </p> <p>If you want to take something, I think a card is fine though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-kids-were-invited-to-a-bday-party-that-has-a-no-gift-rule#post-420415 Wed, 28 Nov 2012 21:16:08 +0000 ladylulu 420415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is it ok for my kids to write a card and bring some cookies? or just the card and nothing else? i don't want the parents to think i totally ignored their wishes. any ideas? </p>