https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 16:10:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505481 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 13:18:09 +0000 mrs. wagon 505481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry, this is just awful. I agree with others to go see her... you won't feel good either way, but you'll feel worse if you don't. Lung cancer is especially crazy, I know... Wagon Sr.'s boss's wife was perfectly healthy and went to get checked out for back pain. She was gone less than 6 months later. </p> <p>Again, I'm so sorry. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505386 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 12:35:58 +0000 .twist. 505386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Thank you. </p> <p>I just got an update and found out that she maybe has a month to live. She's having organ failure which is, obviously, a very bad sign. She admitted to my other co-worker that tomorrow could definitely be her last day. Between now and a month from now. </p> <p>I made my husband go over to their house and check on their driveway and walkways to make sure they're shovelled. I feel it's the least I can do right now. </p> <p>Ugh. I just feel so sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505193 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 11:31:19 +0000 Mrsbells 505193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I would go see her definitely. as hard as it is, you will definitely be glad you went. Even if you arent supposed to know, you can still go and see her when you feel composed enough to not let on that you know until she tells you. So sorry you are going through this, So far I have lost an aunt and an uncle to cancer so I know how terrible it feels </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505094 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:54:25 +0000 .twist. 505094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. Part of my hesitation to go and see her (which I forgot to mention!) is that I'm not supposed to know this. The co-worker who went to see her last night told me because her and I are very close and we both have a very close bond with this woman. </p> <p>So, I do feel a like if I went over to visit her I would be a DISASTER. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505086 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:51:31 +0000 MrsBrewer 505086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sooo sorry! I would try and see her, could you leave work early or go over to her house right after work? It will be hard seeing her I'm sure, but spending that time with you, I promise you will cherish that! Also I would tell her face to face about your pregnancy, from what it sounds like you two are connected on a personal level too and it goes outside of work. I think she will be very happy for you and be able to help you with your work situation as well.</p> <p>Again I'm so sorry for you and your friend :-( My prayers are with you both! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505079 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:48:44 +0000 Alivoo01 505079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG!! I'm so sorry to hear about your mentor!! I'd definitely go visit her and let her know that what she meant to you, and how thankful you are for her friendship and guidance. I'm sure she'd be delighted to her about your pregnancy, and will be more than happy to share information about maternity leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505075 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:47:59 +0000 .twist. 505075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: This is why I want to tell her. She is amazing at the whole confidential thing. </p> <p>@MrsTiz: Thanks. I want to do this, but I am so scared to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505074 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:47:50 +0000 T.H.O.U. 505074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds like even on a personal level you wouldn't mind this person knowing about your pregnancy. I would go ahead and tell her and see if she can at least hook you up with a good HR person to handle your situation. </p> <p>If she does set anything up for you, make sure you get it in writing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505071 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:46:35 +0000 MrsTiz 505071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*hugs* that is awful. I am so sorry. Spend time with her. Go visit her, make her know you appreciate her and loved knowing her. Don't let her slip away without knowing you appreciate her, and she will probably be thrilled to know your pregnant. As far as dealing with work, I have no advice :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505069 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:45:54 +0000 mediagirl 505069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I'm so sorry to hear about your mentor. I would suggest telling her now. You can get the information you need and it is her DUTY to keep that information confidential from your bosses and others at your company. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mentor-is-going-to-die#post-505057 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 10:41:38 +0000 .twist. 505057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was hired at my company 7 years ago by a very fantastic woman. Through working with her and as her assistant for a lot of years I really grew to cherish her and her opinion. I also learned that she was connected to me from when I was about 3 months old. She had met me at that time, and then I ended up working for her years later. She's one person who taught me that no matter what you believe (she was going to be a nun and then married an Agnostic man) that your main object in life was to live life to the fullest and be open minded about everything and anything and learn as much as you can about all cultures and religions and people. I truly love this woman. (sorry, just a little back story, I'm a bit emotional...).</p> <p>Anyway, I can't remember when, but sometime over the summer she told me that she had lung cancer, and then back in November she came down with a bad case of Pneumonia. It's pretty much guaranteed that if you have cancer, and you get pneumonia, you won't make it, I know this. One of my coworkers who is even closer to her than I am went to visit her last night and she pretty much told my coworker as much. I'm not sure how long she has left but I am a little bummed out this morning. </p> <p>She's also the HR person here, so she's the one I need to talk to about being pregnant and what to do and stuff. I have no idea what to do. I'm considering emailing her today, even though I'm only 10 weeks, because I'm not sure she's got 2 weeks left in her. I also don't want to get F'd around by the other bosses (they're known to be shady!) here because I don't know our policy and she is the only other person really knowledgeable in that area. However, on the other hand, I feel reluctant to tell her at all because ... I dunno. Just reluctant I guess. </p> <p>She has been working from home, but is going to call the 2 bosses her soon and tell them she won't be coming back. I have zero idea how to deal with this. I have not dealt with a lot of death and honestly I'm even just scared to see or even talk to her because I have no idea what to say or do or anything.</p> <p>What would you do and how do I deal with this? </p>