https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 11:54:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-336062 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 16:40:33 +0000 jennylynn 336062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>our LO is 6 months old, and she won't be staying with the grandmas or anyone else for awhile either. Neither set of our parents have asked yet, but my mom does hint about me being a "baby hog" or not wanting to give her up. But I feel the same way as you. I work full time, and my days off are my time with her, and I'm not ready to give it up yet. Plus, the grandparents babysit for us when we're working so they get to see her during the week. I don't see being comfortable with her staying the night with anyone until she's 1 yr +. On a sidenote, I HATE when people refer to LO as their baby. My dad calls sometimes and says "what's MY baby doing?" Grrrrrrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-336033 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 16:33:18 +0000 blackbird 336033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mother, also, has already brought up about how she can't wait for us to leave the baby with her. She mentioned 6 months as a good time for us to go on vacation (which would be next fall). I told her when the baby's a year, we'll see :P But yeah, i think grandmas just get so darn excited that they can't contain themselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335988 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 16:24:28 +0000 anonysquire 335988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never want my parents to feel like I am making them watch my kids or relying on them for child care but if they offer I would let them. My parents are so cute with kids and so close and are aching for grandkids. I wouldn't ever keep them from them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335919 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 16:05:04 +0000 meredithNYC 335919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are far away, but LO is 4.5 months and I would let her stay over with them now for just a night. I'm thinking something like, take her over there at 6 or 7 on a Friday and pick her up around 10 the next morning? Not a long time, but just enough for a break. Then again, I have left LO with a babysitter probably 5 or 6 times already so I could go out with my husband. I love my baby, but I just need a break sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335853 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:42:13 +0000 Lozza 335853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We left LO overnight with my parents for one night when he was 12 months old, and for 4 nights when he was 16 months old. We'd have done it sooner and/or more often if my parents had lived closer... now that they've moved up near our house, I imagine they'll probably keep him overnight once a month or so. We weaned entirely around 11 months. It's hard if you're breastfeeding- especially once LO hit 9 or 10 months, my supply had really tanked, and he was barely nursing, so I didn't really want to skip a potential nursing session. If I hadn't had that concern, I'd have left him way earlier!<br /> LO has only recently started sleeping past 6 AM, and it was REALLY hard going for an entire year of never being able to sleep in because I wanted to do that morning nursing session... I've been so exhausted for so long that I really appreciate my parents taking LO just because getting to sleep in till 7:30 AM feels like such a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335836 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:35:58 +0000 Mrs. Train 335836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom took my oldest for the night when he was a couple of months old. He was formula feed so it wasn't a huge deal. I was so sick with my twin pregnancy that I welcomed the assistance. They were only a few miles away so if there was a problem I could get to him in a few minutes. My twins on the other hand were breast feed and they were over a year before we left them for the night. My in laws gave us a weekend away when they were two and it was awesome. We are planning on another weekend away after I wean my daughter. She will be a year and a few months and stay with both my in laws and my parents. (With four kids it takes all four grandparents to survive a weekend) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335794 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:23:21 +0000 pastemoo 335794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have an amazing relationship with my grandmother--but I started visiting/staying over regularly when I was 7.... 7 YEARS old, not 7 months. Treasure your LO. If you are uncomfortable it is because your LO is too young for you to spend time apart. The age will different for every mom but your LO won't remember this time with grandma anyway--it is more important for you to spend time with your LO as YOU need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335775 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:16:03 +0000 immabeetoo 335775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be irritated if she keeps bringing it up :( That stinks. If it is any consolation, my nieces are 7 and my sister won't let anyone drive them but her.. let alone "take them" for a weekend haha! So tell her it could be worse :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335764 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:12:50 +0000 avivoca 335764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a LO yet, but already my mother is talking about staying with us for awhile after the baby is born and wanting to do sleepovers and watch them for us while we are at work (she lives 45 minutes away). I'm not looking forward to having to tell her to back off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335742 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 15:06:07 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 335742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Lol I laughed and rubbed my forehead when I saw the title of your post...because LO isn't even here yet and my mom is already driving me insane with this.<br /> I wouldn't do anything but ignore it and stick to your guns.<br /> Maybe you can include her in stuff....like plan a zoo visit and pick up your mom to go with? And you can let her push the stroller or something, i guess. I don't know...</p> <p>But did you have a close relationship with your grams? I personally did and I cherish it more than anything in the world (*not* more than my relationship with my own mother but close). So, obviously you wouldn't want to deprive your daughter of that....but as of now seeing as she's nursing...then no, it makes no sense for her to spend 2-3 days away from you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335710 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:56:48 +0000 Mrsbells 335710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has asked me about this too. But for all the same reasons I've said no. I barely get to see her all week and I am breastfeeding and she is not even 6 months old yet! I'm not ready to let her go for sleep overs yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335706 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:54:44 +0000 pastemoo 335706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww. I feel for you.<br /> I had a super awesome relationship with my MIL until she started asked/forcibly asking to spend time with DS--and ONLY without me and DH. She lives an 8-10 hour drive away so I can only imagine how you are doing.</p> <p>I still love my MIL but that one thing is such a BIG thing and so frustrating. I have no advice but plenty of sympathy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335701 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:51:31 +0000 kakimochi 335701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh i would be so annoyed if she kept asking and asking, AND that she wants to do all these firsts with your LO. my in-laws started asking us when she was a little under 2 years old, but they were very thoughtful about it, and didn't press us. when she turned 2, we started letting her stay over, mainly because i'm pregnant and so tired all the time, and it is a nice break to let them watch her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335689 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:47:34 +0000 JerricaBenton 335689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel the same as you. I plan on breastfeeding for a while if all goes well and I wouldn't consider an overnight stay until after we're done. It's a great resource to be able to leave LO with your parents (when everyone is ready!) I have great memories of going over to my grandparents when my parents took a weekend trip or went to a big NYE party, etc. I would explain to your mom that it's not personal and you are excited for LO and her to have those times together but until you're done BFing it's a non-negotiable and she needs to stop asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335649 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:32:41 +0000 Modern Daisy 335649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have a LO yet but my Mom has already given me 'firm' mixed messages about this. She has made it CLEAR she will not come up to NYC to watch my future children but at the same time she's offered to let me drop them off at her house while DH and I go on vacation. I don't know how much I trust her though because she has zero patience and I can picture her ignoring my instructions and just doing whatever she wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335632 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:25:05 +0000 chopsuey 335632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents live out of state. LO's never spent the night away from us and probably won't until she's a lot older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335628 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:24:24 +0000 littlebug 335628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eesh. I would probably be annoyed, especially since you've stood your ground and given the same answer every single time. I would be seriously annoyed that she wants to do all these "firsts" with the baby, though. She's YOUR kid - she got to have firsts with you, it's your turn to have firsts with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335626 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:23:19 +0000 mrsjazz 335626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: My mom works full-time. I would love to have her watch LO part-time during the day, but my mom is young so it will be a long time before she retires! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335608 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:16:47 +0000 Sammyfab 335608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL has mentioned wanting to keep LO for a weekend a couple of times, but like you, I am still BFing and don't plan to wean until at least a year (and pumping is such a huge pain). I definitely want LO to spend weekends with his grandparents, but not until he's older, can run around, and the repercussions of a too-late bedtime and sugar overload are easier to deal with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335600 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:11:55 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 335600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My grandparents were in the same city as us growing up and I remember having a sleep over there for the first time when I was like 7. Same with my cousins!<br /> I think it is selfish of her to want to do all the "firsts". It is your baby! Remind her that it is your only time with your LO, since you work during the week.<br /> Sorry you are dealing with this- sounds like a pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335599 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:11:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 335599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would but my mom never offers so consider yourself lucky. In fact I think of it as putting my mom out and her health isn't up to par so I guess that's why. I'm always afraid to ask her to babysit even.</p> <p>Does your mom work? I'm sure you did but what about considering her as your nanny, even pt? She would love that it seems.</p> <p>Also... I am a little jealous because I think it would be AMAZING to have a night of just DH and me, all by ourselves to do whatever we wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335593 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:06:58 +0000 heffalump 335593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents and in laws are both here and LO hasn't spent the night yet, and they all know it's not going to happen. She's 14 months old. My mom does spend the night here with me and LO when my DH is gone, either for work or he's had to have surgery and be in the hospital for a couple of weeks so she'll help out. </p> <p>I've asked my mom to babysit for one night because DH and I want to spend a baby free night away as our Chanukah gift to each other. She got very excited about that. </p> <p>I do want my LO to have sleepovers at her grandparents as she gets older. I remember doing that as a kid and we had lots of fun. But right now she's so little.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-wants-to-keep-my-baby#post-335578 Thu, 11 Oct 2012 14:00:22 +0000 mrsjazz 335578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom keeps asking to "keep my baby" (my baby is HER baby). LO is almost 6 months and she keeps asking to keep her for a weekend. I told her that probably won't happen for a while because 1) We plan on BFing for 1 yr. - 18 mos. or so 2) Both DH and I work full-time so the weekends are our time with LO and we aren't ready to give that up yet.</p> <p>My mom thinks I'm crazy and that I need to let go. She brings this up often and my response hasn't changed. I said she can come over and see her and spend the day with her any time she wants but it's starting to bug me that she keeps asking. She had an awesome relationship with her grandmother and was at her g-ma's house all the time (also because her mom was a party girl and was out on the town!). But when LO is a little older, sure she can go stay with g-ma and make cakes and go to the movies (these are the things my mom says she wants to be the FIRST to do with LO, geez).</p> <p>If your family is in the same town/city, when did you let LO spend the night? </p>