https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 03:25:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-will-find-los-middle-name-offensive-help#post-2141137 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 10:25:30 +0000 Little Misters Mom 2141137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you explain it to your mom as your attempt to reclaim the good memories associated with the name? Acknowledge that her mother has been painful to her, but emphasize that this name is from many sides of the family and is your attempt to honor your MIL, and the good memories of your grandmother before her disease. I think letting her know before the baptism is probably better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-will-find-los-middle-name-offensive-help#post-2141129 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 10:15:38 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2141129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a similar issue with a name that was after a controversial grandparent. We got a fair amount of flak for it, but we said exactly what you said which is, "she was very meaningful to Mr. Jacks and he sees her in a different way than you all do."</p> <p>People have come around to it, although his side still occasionally makes comments. It helped that our daughter was named after grandmas on both sides. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-will-find-los-middle-name-offensive-help#post-2141119 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 09:54:45 +0000 WinterBee 2141119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: Tell her it's after your DHs mom. I would tell her before the baptism :wink: hehe. GL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mom-will-find-los-middle-name-offensive-help#post-2141112 Sun, 12 Apr 2015 09:44:42 +0000 Ms. RV 2141112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OH and I decided on a middle name. His mother, my mom's mother, and my only aunt (mom's sister) all have the same first and middle name. We chose this first name as a middle name for our little girl due in August. The problem? My mom despises her mother, who she cares for and has serious mental health issues that makes her constantly belittle my mom and make up lies about her (dementia is so bizarre). When my dad died when I was little, my grandmother stepped in and helped raise me rather than enjoying her retirement. My mom has seemed to overlook this and says there is no good left in her mom. </p> <p>How do I break the middle name to my mom? Just wait until she hears it at the baptism? :silly: </p>