Hellobee Boards Topic: My mother in law forgot where my sons school is

Hellobee Boards Topic: My mother in law forgot where my sons school is https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 22:17:05 +0000 MrsLonghorn on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860702 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 16:25:28 +0000 MrsLonghorn 2860702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I echo a lot of what other people are saying. But you need your husband on board for this. I am watching a friend go through something that sounds identical here.... my advice, based on her experience, is to start documenting. Just quietly keep a list of the date and the memory issue. Hopefully, if this keeps up, your husband will start to see it. If not, the list (to jog his memory) may prove very helpful. It will also help you more objectively assess if/when this starts to become a health or safety issue for either her or the boys. tinyperson on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860625 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 12:14:54 +0000 tinyperson 2860625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would be concerned, although it may not be dementia/alzheimers -- other issues (medications, thyroid, etc.) can cause confusion as well. I would push your husband to see if he can get her to the doctor for some bloodwork. Mrs. Turtle on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860611 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 11:21:45 +0000 Mrs. Turtle 2860611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: Hugs. This stuff is so stressful and I think you're right to be concerned. My MIL likely has undiagnosed Alzheimer's. Unfortunately no one took it seriously at first, and now she's too confused and resistant to handle an exam, so it will likely remain undiagnosed. I'd keep gently talking to your husband and his brother. It is super hard to watch your own parent decline. My DW was sort of in denial about how much help her mom needed for a long time. cabbagerose on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860610 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 11:20:33 +0000 cabbagerose 2860610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would suggest that she goes and sees a neurologist for a base line exam. It is important to have one so that if there are any other changes you can refer back to the first exam. And yes I would be worried more so with having questions on your list. FYI my husband was always forgetting where the kids schools were. More than once went to the wrong one to pick up a child. It was a school that they or another sibling had gone to. He was just busy and had a lot on his mind. LOL snowjewelz on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860583 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 10:44:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2860583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Toad: Ugh that is so tough, my mom is 63 so it's so scary that it can happen so early. krispi on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860550 Thu, 06 Dec 2018 09:59:28 +0000 krispi 2860550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes, this would worry me for memory/dimentia/Alzheimer's possiblities. If you and your SIL both speak to your spouses and lay out all the isntances in a list, maybe they'll realize there could be an issue. Especially if you approach it in a concerned, not accusatory, way. I worry about my MIL sometimes too, but for different things. She routineley (once every other month or so) forgets what day of the week it is and doesn't realize it's her day to come babysit. She watches my daughter one evening every other week, and we always have to remind her when it's her day, even though she has a calendar with her days marked. Or sometimes she'll fall asleep and not wake up in time, or get busy playing computer games and lose track of time. It hasn't been anything so severe as to call a doctor yet, but it does make me worry and look more for futher signs. If she started getting lost on the way to routine places, I think I'd initiate a conversation. My husband sees it too but isn't sure if it's an actual problem or just her becoming scatterbrained in her older age. He does say she wasn't like that at all when she was younger. Mrs. Toad on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860461 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 21:50:45 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2860461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I would watch for Alzheimer's disease. My mother has been diagnosed as early onset as she is only 64. The last time I drove with her, she wanted to know why we were still stopped at the light. The light was still red. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860455 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 21:29:53 +0000 SweetiePie 2860455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @petitenoisette: There was literally a sheet of paper with all of the items on it. My husband went over it with her when she first got there and it is always left on the table for her. It said: 9-11am Nap 11am bottle 1pm-3pm Nap 3pm Bottle I think that’s what bothers me about the bottle situation. 1) she actually SHOULD know that 9mo babies don’t drink a bottle an hour (this is her 3rd grandkid and she’s been a weekly visitor for 4 years) 2) even if she didn’t, I wrote it out for her. It’s really like she forgot he had the first bottle or something. It was so strange! Bluemasonjar on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860447 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 21:11:27 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2860447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Does she have a long history of being scatterbrained? If not, there are some red flags and I would talk about it with your husband and encourage an evaluation by a doctor. I would be concerned about her ability to care for children if things get worse. pachamama on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860443 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 20:55:07 +0000 pachamama 2860443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: ahhh makes sense. I have a Spidey sense when it comes to my family and issues they're having (mostly relapsing into alcoholism😭) and as women I think we are very in tune to these things. I would start a conversation with the family. They'll blow you off /minimize things (like mine did) but it will resonate on some level, and that's the first step to maybe keeping a closer eye on her issues. DesertDreams88 on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860438 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 20:24:32 +0000 DesertDreams88 2860438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I'm going to be the differing opinion here and say that I am not too worried. And that is saying a lot, considering my in laws babysit my kids 40 hours a week and it is the main trigger for my anxiety. I get lost all of the time. I look up directions to my district office on GPS even though I've worked in this district for 9 years and gone to the district office maybe 5 times a year. I work at a middle school that has a neighboring K3 campus literally 500 yd away. One time when I was at the neighboring school for an after school meeting, I got lost going home. I go to my best friends new house every week for the past 4 months and I just figured out how to get there without making a mistake last week for the 1st time. She lives 5 minutes away. As for the infant routine, I think some grandma's just don't really care about schedule/routine and so their lack of concern sometimes comes across as forgetting things. For example, I have told my MIL many times in the past 3 years to not make my kids wait for me to come home to nurse them, instead to give them their bottles out there scheduled times, but every month or so She will mention how she pushed the schedule and made them hungry so that I could come home and nurse them instead of them getting a bottle. She also never remembers how to use the forehead thermometer and seems very worried about giving my kids medications that I have already approved and written out the directions for multiple times. petitenoisette on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860437 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 20:22:08 +0000 petitenoisette 2860437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ The bottle thing could just be she didn’t realize that he wouldn’t need another bottle after just an hour, which sounds like she needs to be to,d exactly what to do so not totally weird. However everything else you described would definitely concern me, my mom is the same age and isn’t like this at all. Mrs. Champagne on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860434 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 20:14:34 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2860434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I wouldn’t be comfortable leaving her in charge of either kid until she sees a doctor maybe. Getting lost or forgetting how/when to feed my kids would worry me. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860407 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 18:44:41 +0000 SweetiePie 2860407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @pachamama: You know she is VERY good about his schedule when she remembers. Lol. She’s never been the type of MIL to do what she pleases. She really tries to be respectful of our/my wishes. It’s just that she is becoming more and more forgetful and it’s becoming harder and harder to explain things to her. And she never retains it between visits. pachamama on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860404 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 18:28:26 +0000 pachamama 2860404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: I agree with everyone that it sounds like some memory/dementia/ Alzheimer's issues arising for sure. But my mother who is the same age and very much "with it"does the exact same type of things....Never follows his schedule, is so bad at creating comprehensible text messages, responds with ok all the time. I think it's a semi old lady thing. Poor communication and doing what you want on your schedule 😭 crazydoglady on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860379 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 16:22:55 +0000 crazydoglady 2860379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My mom is like this, too, and I worry about Alzheimer's (especially since my grandmother had it.) She is also on heavy meds for her bipolar, so sometimes I am not sure which is which. A couple months ago, my mom and I were stopped somewhere in my car and took the opportunity to throw some cups etc away. I asked her if she could throw her coffee cup away when finished, she asked which one and I said "ummm...the one in your hand." This kind of stuff happens a lot. ☹ Mrs. Goose on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860369 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:58:37 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2860369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Interesting. It could be something or could just be older age? I’d gently suggest to her or her husband, or get her kids to suggest chatting with the doctor about it. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860367 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:55:25 +0000 SweetiePie 2860367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @nwm: I actually had the same thought like maybe she needed it for something else. So instead of address I answered with the cross streets to see if she said “no I know that but I need the address”. But she just said “ok”. nwm on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860364 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:46:09 +0000 nwm 2860364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: lol. fair enough. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860363 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:45:25 +0000 SweetiePie 2860363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @nwm: there’s a zero percent chance she was using an uber app. Lol. She doesn’t know how to turn on and off the WiFi on her phone. snowjewelz on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860360 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:41:52 +0000 snowjewelz 2860360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: My mom is 63 and I would def be concerned if she displayed these issues over a span of time nwm on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860358 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:39:49 +0000 nwm 2860358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Possible she knows where it is but was trying to enter it into her Uber app? Speaking as a New Yorker the latter often makes me have to look up addresses of places I've been a thousand times. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860352 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:37:36 +0000 SweetiePie 2860352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @gotkimchi: She’s 64 Madison43 on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860350 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:36:50 +0000 Madison43 2860350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Is there any way that she was asking not because she didn’t remember how to get there, but for another, less worrisome, reason? There are lots of places in Manhattan that I know how to get to and visit frequently but couldn’t tell you the address or cross street. Like there’s a j crew near my office that I walk to all the time, but would have to google map it to tell you the cross street or address if you asked me gotkimchi on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860349 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:35:31 +0000 gotkimchi 2860349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @SweetiePie: yah that seems not normal Blythe on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860348 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:34:06 +0000 Blythe 2860348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Poor spatial navigation skills are one of the earliest signs of Alzheimers. But then again, some people just can't hang on to directions, particularly if they're stressed for one reason or another! I'd keep my concern on the DL, but my eyes open. SweetiePie on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860347 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:33:04 +0000 SweetiePie 2860347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Goose: @snowjewelz: Thanks. This was my thought too. To share some examples of other things: Last week she watched my 9mo while my older was in school so I could go to a doc appt. I left a list/schedule. Very high level like 11am bottle. 1pm nap. She texted me at 11:45 saying he finished his bottle. Then at 12:45 asked if he needed a bottle before his 1pm nap. I thought “well that’s weird she just fed him an hour ago”. So I said “no, didn’t you just give him a bottle?” And she just replied “ok”. Other things are that she can never ever remember things about his routine. I have to explain things as nauseum and I make lists for her and she still forgets or doesn’t understand it. This happened while my older was an infant and now again with this baby. Again, She’s here every week. My younger nephew is 18 months and she also watched him every week. So it’s only been like 6 months since she made a bottle for him? She told me when my son was born she couldn’t remember how to make a bottle. So obviously I don’t trust her at all to do that so I always leave one if I’ll be gone. Like, my older was a baby 3 years ago and I still remembered how to make a bottle. My mom could make a bottle with her eyes closed and she’s only 4 years younger than my MIL. My SIL has similar issues with my MILs memory and not understanding easy tasks (having to explain over and over again, week to week and also within the same day). Lahela017 on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860344 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:30:02 +0000 Lahela017 2860344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My first question is about her health too. I'd be worried this is a sign of a health problem. gotkimchi on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860339 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:25:20 +0000 gotkimchi 2860339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ What’s her age? I would be concerned in an Alzheimer’s/dementia/stroke type way snowjewelz on "My mother in law forgot where my sons school is" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-mother-in-law-forgot-where-my-sons-school-is#post-2860337 Wed, 05 Dec 2018 15:23:49 +0000 snowjewelz 2860337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Eh... The first thing that I thought of was actually her health. To me this might raise some flags if she consistently is forgetting things she isn't supposed to?