https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 10:28:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal/page/2#post-2538389 Sun, 01 May 2016 22:13:47 +0000 misolee 2538389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me but it's clear that my OB is pretending to know me by chart reading before she enters room. I get it bc they have soooo many patients </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal/page/2#post-2538316 Sun, 01 May 2016 19:43:18 +0000 winniebee 2538316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first OB was like this. She had so many patients and I saw a midwife half the time. I didn't take it personally, and actually my midwife seemed to really remember me and my history. </p> <p>My OB with my second two pregnancies seems to remember a lot about me. Maybe not every detail about my prior pregnancies or everything we have discussed, but she knows I have two boys, what me and my husband do for work, as well as the general game plan for the pregnancy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal/page/2#post-2538285 Sun, 01 May 2016 18:44:43 +0000 jaguar 2538285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My old OB for DD was like this. It felt really crap just being a number, especially as a first time Mum.</p> <p>For pregnancy #2, I sought out a new one and he was amazing - always took the time, remembered our IF history. That pregnancy ended in miscarriage &amp; he took care of me through that too.</p> <p>I went back to him for this pregnancy &amp; he's been so good. He saw me weekly in the first trimester because of my recurrent miscarriage anxiety and he just gets it.</p> <p>Changing OBs was the best thing I did! I think it's well worth looking around or at least meeting an alternative to see! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal/page/2#post-2538280 Sun, 01 May 2016 18:34:54 +0000 Cole 2538280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepicklemonster: Since it's niggling in the back of your mind maybe ask around for other suggestions or maybe check local Facebook groups. You could even schedule a meet and greet type appointment with someone else just to see if there's someone awesome you're missing out on or if staying put makes more sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538270 Sun, 01 May 2016 18:00:08 +0000 brownepiano 2538270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go to a practice where you're expected to see several doctors so you know them all (they take turns delivering). This is my second pregnancy with this practice. The last time I went in, I saw the doctor who delivered my last kid. He was reading my chart off to me and something didn't seem right. I suddenly realized he was looking at my chart from my 2 year old (who ironically was there with me). I told him and we got on track but it was weird. He clearly also did not remember delivering DS. However I wasn't too bothered because he did a great job delivering DS and that matters more to me. One of the other doctors there does a much better job remembering, or at least looking through my file before he walks in the room. Maybe it is just a personality thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538249 Sun, 01 May 2016 16:32:13 +0000 looch 2538249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been with my current doc since I was 17. I have had at least yearly exams, with the exception of the 4 years I lived abroad. Every single time, it is the exact same, he's reading my history off the chart as he comes in. But I trust him to treat me appropriately, but not to have memorized the details. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538226 Sun, 01 May 2016 15:37:16 +0000 Smurfette 2538226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would really bother me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538205 Sun, 01 May 2016 14:59:53 +0000 Mama Bird 2538205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, my OB is like that. She never remembered basic things and I had to remind her of important stuff every now and then. That didn't seem like a big deal until she chose the day when my mom tagged along for a routine visit to tell me that "it's my third baby, should be an easy labor." Um, no, I have only one living child at home, you're the one who treated me when the miscarriage happened only a few months earlier, and my mom does NOT know it happened! Thankfully I was venting to my mom just that morning how the doctor has no clue who I am, so she just thought the doctor was confused. </p> <p>And then I had some mental health concerns toward the end of the pregnancy, and between the weekly visits she'd totally forget that I'd asked for help (I had no idea what help she could give, but even remembering I'm struggling would have been nice). Ugh, that does seem to be common though from others' comments... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538180 Sun, 01 May 2016 14:28:14 +0000 Kemma 2538180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: yep, this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538151 Sun, 01 May 2016 13:53:24 +0000 LemonJack 2538151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would bother me. I get that they see a lot of patients, but they should still take the time to review your chart as jot down a couple of notes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2538060 Sun, 01 May 2016 11:33:54 +0000 thepicklemonster 2538060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the responses. Exactly -- I don't need him to be my BFF, but he should review my chart for, like, two minutes before he sees me. DH thinks we should say something to him about it, but that seems super awkward. I probably won't switch, but it's in the back of my mind and I do have time... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537965 Sun, 01 May 2016 06:32:28 +0000 LovelyPlum 2537965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: yeah, that would be enough for me to switch. I don't do well with impersonal care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537963 Sun, 01 May 2016 06:30:36 +0000 LovelyPlum 2537963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would piss me off a lot. How are you going to take good care of me if you don't even care to know who I am?! I know not everyone would, but I would consider switching. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537960 Sun, 01 May 2016 06:14:25 +0000 avivoca 2537960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would bother me. I see a midwife in a large practice (OB's and CNM's) and everyone reviews my chart and seems to know what we discussed last appointment. Even the nurses remember stuff, like if my nausea was particularly bad. So I would probably look in to switching if my doctor couldn't seem to remember anything or even review my chart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537954 Sun, 01 May 2016 05:52:51 +0000 catomd00 2537954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's abnormal to not remember, but it's not normal or acceptable that he doesn't fake it better! They should review your chart before and pretend! I always assume my docs don't remember me, (unless I see them multiple times in a row) and that they're just good actors! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537948 Sun, 01 May 2016 03:20:24 +0000 lamariniere 2537948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I lived in NY, I don't think my doctor ever really remembered me, but it didn't bother me, I'm sure they saw hundreds of patients weekly. Where I live now, my doctor always remember (even now that we are just down to annual visits) and it's very nice to be remembered! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537909 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 22:08:15 +0000 Iced Tea 2537909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would not be okay with me. They need to review your chart, at a minimum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537900 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:47:16 +0000 Truth Bombs 2537900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This would bother me. I don't need a BFF, but I need a doctor who remembers my medical history if something unexpected happens and decisions need to be made! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537897 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:41:22 +0000 youboots 2537897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That seems unusual. At least fake it and take good notes to review before waking in the door. I feel like every staff member, my OB and her partner remember us every time we go in. It would be enough to consider OB shopping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537890 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:33:24 +0000 Finfan 2537890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was me during my pregnancy but now I'm famous at my OB's office as the only paitent there to have had an IUD perforate her uterus. I miss being just another healthy preggo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537878 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:09:22 +0000 Corduroy 2537878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have Kaiser (big HMO) and the nurses or assistants that bring you back always ask "have you met so and so before?" and they must tell the doctor yes or no so they know how to greet the patient. The usually do a good job of pretending to remember you. </p> <p>When we had our first well baby with LO2 the pediatrian introduced herself to me and DH. We had been in her office two weeks before (and many many times before that) for LO1. No recognition at all. We described LO1 and her ailments and she couldn't even pretend to remember us. It only slightly annoyed me. I was more relieved that despite all of LOs visits for various daycare colds/ear aches/pneumonias we don't even register as frequent patients. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537877 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 21:06:53 +0000 WinterBee 2537877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thepicklemonster: My doctor is exactly the same! Lol, at first I was really annoyed, but I've gotten over it. He sees lots of patients and is good at what he does.<br /> For reference I've been seeing him a couple times a month or more since December. Now he recognizes us, but I still have to remind him why we're there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537848 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 20:15:46 +0000 skipra 2537848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am at a new practice and haven't seen the same practitioner twice yet. I have seen the phlebotomist every single appointment (4 times in 3 months) and she remembers me so I think that says something about when a doctor does not because he obviously spends more time with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537804 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 18:07:23 +0000 Peasinapod 2537804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ob never remembered me... It was a bit annoying , i had multiple ultrasounds for fundal height measuring small and every time my baby measured normal. This was a shock to my ob every time even though it happened about 4 times at the end of my pregnancy . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537802 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 18:02:02 +0000 ShootingStar 2537802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My OB remembers me, but it's like no one else at the practice ever bothers to read my chart. It makes me crazy when they mention things that are completely wrong. Or, like they tell me I'll have my GD test at my next appointment. No, I won't. Because I've already got it :bummed: . </p> <p>There's a lot of little things at my practice that bug me, and I'm never sure if it adds up to enough to switch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537788 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 17:04:36 +0000 PawPrints 2537788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would bother me a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537787 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 16:58:04 +0000 Cole 2537787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There was a midwife in my group like that, the other two were fine but this one was terrible. Of course she ended up delivering me. I called about 48 hours after I gave birth with a question and she didn't remember me then either and there were enough out of the ordinary things at the birth that you would think she'd remember two days later. Clearly I'm switching to someone else for next time and I honestly wish I had for that baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537755 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 15:13:46 +0000 LindsayLou 2537755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would bother me, enough to switch doctors. I saw a midwife, so a bit different. But she remembered me after only a visit or two, and made the effort to remember details about me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537745 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 14:37:49 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2537745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It would bother me a little. My OB is great. She remembers what she told me in previous visits, details about my personal life, my infertility history, etc. Her nurse remembers me too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-ob-never-remembers-me-normal#post-2537740 Sat, 30 Apr 2016 14:32:21 +0000 caterw 2537740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think he could at least take 5 seconds to review your chart before he walks in the room so he could pretend he remembers your name... I understand that doctors are extremely busy and might not remember every patient but the charts are there to help them. I am almost entirely certain my OB doesn't ever remember me (seen him 4 times in 2 months because I had to check in after ER visits), but he makes a good faith effort to keep up with my medical history (mentioning weight loss, asking how I am feeling since I had extreme nausea, etc). </p>