https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 17:24:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841927 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 14:11:20 +0000 Mrs. Tea 841927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would plan it for where she lives and hopefully people will make the effort to go knowing the situation. Either that or have a A sip 'n see after the baby is born. We had this and I loved it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841812 Sat, 08 Jun 2013 12:49:23 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 841812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: Thank you, I'm really trying to be a good SIL and make this as special as I can because she really deserves it. </p> <p>@runsyellowlites: Thank you for your ideas and encouragement!</p> <p>I think we are going to wait and see what this U/S shows. I still think I'll get some decor like a banner and other things that could be used for a sip n see or a shower, just so I feel like I am getting things done.</p> <p>Thank you everyone for your suggestions! It really helped me sort my thoughts and make the best of this situation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841235 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:54:46 +0000 78h2o 841235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd wait and see what the doctor says after the next ultrasound. If she can't travel, I'd plan something small in her current location and then do a sip and see in her hometown after the baby arrives. Maybe she could make a note in the registry saying whether she needs the item before or after baby - I know Amazon universal registry allows you to add notes. That way, someone interested in buying newborn items could plan to ship them if she couldn't attend the early event. Or as a previous poster suggested, you could invite everyone to both events and state that the sip and see is just to see/celebrate baby - no gifts! I think people who could only go to that event would send a gift to be opened at the earlier event. People like to buy baby gifts. </p> <p>I hope it works out - I'm sure it will! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841223 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:48:11 +0000 Grace 841223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd see what the next sonogram says and if it's still a no go, I'd plan it for after baby gets here. It's not ideal, but this isn't an ideal situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841207 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:38:49 +0000 runsyellowlites 841207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think whatever you decide will be great (whether you move it or do a sip &amp; see), I just wanted to pop in a say what I think would be a super sweet idea....</p> <p>I would do a skype/satellite shower... Have on the invites to send ALL gifts TO her home (of course she can't open them early). Decorate your venue just like you would have BUT send a few special items to her too (like any special decorated drinking glasses, maybe a bunting, etc) to open the day of to make her feel special &amp; more part of it!</p> <p>Personally I think I would feel SO honored to open a special package with a matching drinking glass, striped straw (if you went that way), and any other added items... maybe even get a small cake delivered to her &amp; have cupcakes for the guests on-site. Idk... I would have alot of fun with it &amp; then she would be "safe" &amp; all her guests would be able to celebrate WITH her... AND not have to play games that noone really likes anyways. Actually I'd do something like a "Guess baby's birthday" pool with a prize for the winner... we did $1 a guess with the pot going to the parents &amp; the prize being baby's first picture w/ name texted to the winner (we were team green w/ our name choices secret so these were coveted pieces of information). </p> <p>Like I said though, whether you do it smaller where she lives, a sip n see after, OR something like I've envisioned.... I think she'll feel showered with love &amp; that's all that really matters. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841199 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 22:28:52 +0000 erwoo 841199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd plan it where she lives now with her friends and then do a smaller sip and see in her hometown with just family. You can also make a note to send gifts to her house and have her sip and see a gift free event? That way she can still get what she needs before the baby comes. Just a thought. It will all work out. :) She's lucky to have you as a SIL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841139 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 21:44:59 +0000 lemondrop 841139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had similar problems with my SIL's shower, she went into pre-term labor at 25 weeks and was in and out of the hospital for the rest of her pregnancy. Her shower was going to be out of town, but we just moved it to her house since my MIL and I were there to clean and get everything ready. Not everyone was able to come, but she still had a really good showing and we had a great time despite it being Plan B! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841114 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 21:22:37 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 841114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: aww, I'm really sorry that happened. :( I have a feeling my SIL wouldn't be all about the Skype either, even though it's a good idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841088 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 20:59:56 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 841088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: the shower was initially planned for her hometown, which is almost 4 hr drive for her. 1 hr for me. That's where the majority of DH's side of the family is. </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: Yeah, the more I think about it, the more that seems like the better idea. Although, I might end up throwing a shower for our family and dad-to-be's family too. But my MIL said she would help me, so that's good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841086 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 20:57:42 +0000 MamaMoose 841086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: I was also not allowed to travel and had to cancel my shower : ( I was a plane ride away so having people come to me wasn't an option and I felt awkward about Skype or anything like that. We had already sent invitation so most people still sent gifts which was very sweet but I was bummed to miss the experience : ( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841058 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 20:41:35 +0000 Foodnerd81 841058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would plan it for where she is. Yes fewer ppl will come but it will be less stressful for her. People who can't make the trip will prob give their gifts to you to bring. Her health is the most important thing here. It seems less stressful all around actually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841056 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 20:40:53 +0000 regberadaisy 841056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: where was the shower initially planned for?</p> <p>I would wait to hear everyone's feedback before making a decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-841018 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 20:09:11 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 841018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the input everyone. I just heard that my SIL is having another sonogram next week and that the nurse might be going off of a 4 week old sonogram. so maybe the Dr will change his mind.</p> <p>My MIL is going to see a bunch of the family tomorrow, so she's going to take a poll and see how many would be willing to travel for it where SIL lives now. </p> <p>Another problem is that SIL tends to stress out easily, which is obviously not good for the baby, so just going to plan where she is now might just be the better idea...</p> <p>Y'all, I'm stressing out. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840999 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:51:33 +0000 tlcbaby 840999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Skype was going to be my suggestion as well. I have actually seen a few sites with tips on throwing a virtual baby shower. Here is one I saw...</p> <p><a href="http://www.divinecaroline.com/life-etc/how-throw-online-baby-shower" rel="nofollow">http://www.divinecaroline.com/life-etc/how-throw-online-baby-shower</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840988 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:46:13 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 840988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd plan it for where she lives now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840981 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:43:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 840981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would still go forward with planning the shower as is in hopes she can come. If not, I would Skype her in or something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840978 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:43:19 +0000 pinkb 840978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have also heard of Mail Showers, I think. Where people that cant attend mail their gifts to the mom to be and then there is video taked of the whole "party" and gift opening and then posted for everyone to see who sent gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840968 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:40:36 +0000 mrbee 840968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@abbydabbydoodlebug: This might sound weird, but could she Skype into a shower that you host at your place?</p> <p>I've heard of dads Skyping into their wife's hospital room for births, so this would be less unusual than that at least! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840967 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:40:23 +0000 pinkb 840967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well mine wasnt as bad but my shower had to change. We had planned for it to be in a conference room where I work and my sister traveled 1500 miles to throw it for me. But the week before I got put on bedrest :( So we had to ditch a lot of the planning 2 days before the shower and we just had a nice little gathering at our house. We had to text everyone the changes. I personally would wait and see what the dr says. But if you are not comfortable with that then I would move the shower to where she lives. It is all about her and the baby it wouldnt really make sense to have it with out her. And people will come if they can, my family and some friends made the 3 hour treck to our house just for the day.<br /> Not gonna lie it made me sad that things didnt go as planned but I think what helped was everyone staying positive around me about the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-sil-might-not-be-able-to-come-to-her-own-shower-help#post-840953 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 19:33:28 +0000 abbydabbydoodlebug 840953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This might be long... sorry in advance.</p> <p>So my SIL is pregnant with her first baby, a boy, after struggling with infertility for several years. It's the first grandchild on my DH's side and everyone (as you can imagine) is thrilled. The only problem is that her Dr's office might not let her travel *at all*. She lives 3 hrs away from me and almost 4 from where the shower would be in her hometown. This is what she told me today:</p> <p>"Hey just talked to my dr office. She said that since I have my issues that they would have to decide the week of if I could travel at all. Even that early. She said that I may be able to but it doesn't look good at this point. I mean, there is a chance he would allow it but we wouldn't know until the week of. I feel like that's cutting it close. I thought the placenta previa was completely gone but she said that it was still partially there and that if I travel I could bleed and it gets risky."</p> <p>She is due in October, so we were planning on having it in August. But then with all this stuff, we bumped it up to the beginning of July. </p> <p>Y'all, I'm at a loss. I have no idea what to do. The options I've thought of are:</p> <p>1) A sip 'n see after the baby is born (but SIL wouldn't get the things she needs before the baby)<br /> 2) Have a shower where SIL lives, but I don't think many family members would come.<br /> 3) Have a shower anyway in SIL's hometown, but that would be awkward if she can't come...?<br /> 4) Wait until the week of when we were planning on throwing the shower and see if SIL can travel. Scary thought for me being the planner I am! EEK.</p> <p>Ugh, I'm SO BUMMED. Please help me figure this out. I really wanted this to be special for her. </p>