https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 18:07:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2126737 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 10:47:47 +0000 BandDmommy 2126737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't talk to one of my bridesmaids. But stuff came out about her and she had an affair with our boss and they both got fired. My husband hated her so he wasn't sad to see her go. She also used to inappropriately text my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2126723 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 10:40:05 +0000 .twist. 2126723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: Kinda of similar here too! </p> <p>YES. One of my bridesmaids and I stopped talking after my wedding. She did a lot of shady stuff and I kind of cut ties. </p> <p>My BFF of 26 years and I didn't stop talking after the wedding, but we had a big fall out after L was born. Where she accused me of being a bridezilla! Which, if I do say so myself, I was not.</p> <p>I am sometimes sad when I look back at photos of all of us and haven't really put up any wedding photos (other than DH and I) in our house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2126690 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 10:29:25 +0000 WinterBee 2126690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: That's what happened with my one friend! Wtf... if she didn't want to be friends I would have rather her not come to my wedding and pretend/be in the background of a bunch of pictures lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2126684 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 10:28:16 +0000 WinterBee 2126684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Yup! Our wedding was only 2 months ago and I have already had one friend disappear. Plus, one of my BMs hasn't gotten back to me in almost a month. Crazy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116793 Sat, 21 Mar 2015 09:30:07 +0000 luckypenny 2116793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My BFFS and bridesmaid stopped talking to me after my wedding with no explanation. Oh well. </p> <p>(And it wasn't because I was a bridezilla either ;) ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116755 Sat, 21 Mar 2015 07:43:46 +0000 ChitownRo 2116755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some of the plus ones/girlfriends have changed over 5 years, so I haven't seen the exes. But in regards to friends, maybe one or two of my husband's high school friends. But we pretty much keep up and see the 50+ friends we invited to the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116492 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 18:28:20 +0000 Miss Sarah 2116492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, one of my high school best friends was in my wedding, seemed to really enjoy herself, was very sentimental and sweet. We stayed in touch for like a month and then nothing. She never returned phone calls, stopped texting, got pregnant and didn't tell me herself. I still mourn the loss of this friendship, but it's been almost 5 years, so I've moved on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116485 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 18:22:11 +0000 shopaholic 2116485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not my wedding, but I feel this slow and inevitable future with one of my closest friends. I have hung out with her once since her wedding and it falls in the category of "less and less to talk about" and spouses not liking each other enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116327 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 15:05:45 +0000 Torchwood 2116327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is definitely true in my experience. We got married fairly young (23), and I'm just not the type to make a ton of new friends. I invited my high school friends and my MOH was the one good friend I made in college. Of the high school friends, I'm friends on FB with two of them, but haven't seen either since one's wedding the same year as mine, and had a falling out with the other. It might have been a little different if we hadn't moved 1000 miles away after we got married, but we've been back for over a year now and I still don't see them. DH has some similar friends that came to the wedding but he hasn't bothered to see really and is just friends on FB. In his case, it's mostly because they're still all in the party phase of life and we SO are not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116305 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 14:48:59 +0000 nana87 2116305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are a few friends I've lost touch with since our wedding-- we moved shortly before and some former coworker/friends especially I've only seen once or twice since </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116271 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 14:27:01 +0000 illumina 2116271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just looked at my group wedding shot...2 friends I have not seen since my wedding almost 3 years ago. One was a good friend that has kinda drifted away which is sad but the other one I was a former colleague and I moved jobs so I understand that. There are loads of friends DH invited that he hasn't seen...though for some reason he wanted to invite loads of friends from school and uni that he hadn't seen for years anyway! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116198 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 13:29:29 +0000 Mae 2116198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was sort of that person once. I was very close with this girl, but only for like a year. Our last year of law school we got close and that is when she got engaged. And then the summer after we studied for the bar together like 8 hrs/day for months... and that was also when she was planning her wedding. so obviously i was invited. but by the time the wedding had rolled around we'd lost touch a bit. I went to the wedding but I don't think I've seen her in person since. </p> <p>I don't think we had any close friends we lost touch with post wedding. There were some people who came that we weren't super close with because we had moved and just didn't see them as much, and still don't. But nothing so drastic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116193 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 13:26:32 +0000 getjazzy 2116193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can think of a couple, yep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116191 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 13:25:07 +0000 Turd Ferguson 2116191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Crazy, but yes. Two, actually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116182 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 13:19:19 +0000 MenagerieMama 2116182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I saw her a few times since my wedding, but not for the past few years. It was really sad actually. We were really close in college, she was a bridesmaid. But during the wedding planning (and we had a budget, low key wedding) she just phased out. Wouldn't let me dress shop with her, didn't tell me until the day of that she wasn't coming to my bridal shower, and apparently wasn't happy to be in my wedding but never told me (and I would have happily respected her wishes!). She made our cake which was amazing and people still talk about it. I really wish she had kept in contact, I tried off and on, but she just pulled back. She's kept in contact with a lot of our other friends from our mutual group, including those that none of us were that close to (including traveling abroad with them!) so that's stung. I was actually excited when I saw she had got something for LO from our registry (because we invited her to my shower, of course, but she didn't come) but she never sent it... Still not very sure what happened :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116154 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 13:02:13 +0000 reyorra 2116154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I selected my wedding party, one of my bridesmaids was married to one of my husband's best friends. I wasn't really very close to her, but I also don't have too many female friends. More than anything, when choosing my wedding party, I wanted to make sure everyone was "paired up" so that at the head table, no one was sitting without their spouse or significant other. Anyway, we were told the day after the wedding that this couple was separating. They had known for a while but didn't want to ruin our wedding. And because I wasn't very close to her in the first place, I haven't spoken to her since. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116151 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 12:59:41 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2116151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly can't think of a single friend i invited that we don't still see on the fairly-regular. I'm married almost 5 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116145 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 12:56:33 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2116145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There are a lot of people we don't see anymore because we quit jobs and moved out of state! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116132 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 12:43:19 +0000 lilteacherbee 2116132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got married young (I was almost 22), so there were a lot of people we naturally grew apart from. I kept in touch with most for a couple years afterward. Actually, I haven't spoken to 2 of my 5 bridesmaids since last March when we were all in another friend's wedding (my BFF). They are in completely different stages of life and we didn't have any huge argument or anything, but it does make me sad every once in a while. My BFF and I are both married now, obviously, and pregnant (her with #1 and myself with #2) and we live in the same suburbia neighborhood. The other two girls live together a few hours away and are still in the partying/single phase. We're all in our mid-twenties, so it's to be expected. Just crazy how close we used to be and now we haven't spoken in over a year! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116068 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 11:57:53 +0000 cascademom 2116068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Yeah, she got really defensive about it how she hates formal weddings, etc. The truth about that has recently revealed itself as she's planning her second wedding. On her blog, she admits to missing out the whole rigamarole around wedding planning the first time since that wedding was hastily put together. She's admitted to being jealous of those who planned the wedding they wanted and got the wedding they wanted. I was very "bitch eating crackers" about that because she behaved badly towards me. After that, I was done with her. It felt like "thanks for the false friendship." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2116052 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 11:49:36 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2116052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: Woah...someone actually got angry with you for asking them to be a bridesmaid? Maybe good thing you guys aren't friends anymore!</p> <p>I had the opposite occur. An acquaintance of mine asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding. I love weddings and love being a bridesmaid, so I accepted. Her wedding was the last time I saw her. I felt badly, and we kept in touch with phone calls and emails for a while, but we just never got together. We still send Christmas cards to each other, but that's really it. </p> <p>As for other weddings, there was a particular friend who wasn't a very good friend. After she bailed on my wedding, I went to hers out of courtesy, but we haven't really spoken since. She makes room for the people who she wants to, and I wasn't one of those people, so I stopped trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115995 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 11:16:58 +0000 mrsjyw 2115995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not my wedding, but I remember telling one of my friends (who got married after me) that her wedding would be the last time I would ever see mutual friend X. It ended up being true! We had already started to fall out of touch, wedding invite was out of obligation and not to stir drama between X and our mutual friends (she would start drama for them), and lo and behold, X "confronted me" at the wedding of our mutual friend. I told X, hey we just grew apart and fell out of touch (as in I'm too old for your dramatic bs). And haven't spoken to X since, no regrets either~! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115989 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 11:13:55 +0000 HLK208 2115989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Nearly all our friends who came to our wedding fizzled out - except for a 2-3? Mostly all are still single </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115958 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 10:59:52 +0000 Anagram 2115958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: @mrscobee: I agree that my wedding (and it was less than 3 years ago!) was a snapshot of my life at the time. Inviting "future friends" only wouldn't have worked, because we'd just moved cross country a month before and didn't really have any friends in our new city yet, haha.</p> <p>I am seeing my whole group of friends next weekend at another friend's wedding back in Texas and am very much looking forward to it--some of them I haven't seen since my wedding since we live so far away now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115929 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 10:47:05 +0000 mrscobee 2115929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Agree our wedding was a snapshot of our lives at the time too. There were a number of attendees we don't talk to anymore, and a lot of that is that we have moved since our wedding, and we got married right out of college. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115925 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 10:45:06 +0000 youboots 2115925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought the article was well written. Our wedding was a snapshot of our lives at the time. I was still in college and we were so young.</p> <p>Not exactly in the spirit of the article... But I have not seen or talked to my FIL or his wife since our wedding 8 years ago. M has a couple times, but they have not talked to eachother since we found out that we were expecting in July. The relationship was already strained and a few things they said/did at the wedding made it worse. M has tried several times to repair things, but I doubt it will ever get worked out. Bleh, it makes me so sad for DH. But our girl has two awesome sets of grandparents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115910 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 10:28:39 +0000 bunnylove08 2115910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, everyone that was invited are close friends from college. we all still hangout at least 3 times a year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115831 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 09:48:15 +0000 lawbee11 2115831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but we had less than 20 people at our destination wedding. It was close friends/family, and we still keep in regular contact with everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115821 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 09:44:35 +0000 mediagirl 2115821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. At my wedding, there was a "friend" table. I haven't seen 2 of those people since and 2 others (these were couples) I see rarely, when I'm with other mutual friends. But we never get together just us anymore. </p> <p>I did intentionally decide to only have one person in my wedding party for just this reason!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/my-wedding-is-the-last-time-i-will-ever-see-you-wedding-guest-friendship-dissolution#post-2115809 Fri, 20 Mar 2015 09:42:15 +0000 snowjewelz 2115809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep but in both cases I was in the wedding party. But there def are people that came to my wedding that's only 2 years ago and we've already grown apart. </p>