https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 11:37:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2836070 Wed, 25 Jul 2018 17:08:05 +0000 Mrsbells 2836070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I actually know more people in real life who had an easier 1st baby. For us DS has in some ways been easier than his older sister but in other ways been more challenging. The benefit is having experience from the first </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2835981 Wed, 25 Jul 2018 10:47:54 +0000 Mamatimes3 2835981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on temperament and age. My 1st was the hardest baby out my 3 but he was the easiest toddler and kid. My 2nd was the easiest baby but a hard toddler and kid. My 3rd is somewhere in between her brothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2835726 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 11:10:25 +0000 alphagam84 2835726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first child was soooo easy. I'm due with our second child in less than two weeks and I'm so scared he won't be as easy as our daughter was! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2835720 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 10:59:33 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2835720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: This times 1000. If my second had been my first, I would have been terrified to have a second. He is a sweet little snuggle bug now, but the first two years of his life were rough. My daughter, on the other hand, was easy peasy from the second she was born until she turned 4 and a half. Now shes a terror. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2835719 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 10:58:52 +0000 meganmp 2835719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always said that it was a damn good thing our second baby was born 2 minutes after the first one, because we might not have had a second if he had been a singleton. He hated all things except eating, and had an ear piercing scream that I still have tinnitus from. His sister, however, was the most chill baby on the planet- didn't ever cry, even right when she was born. We had to wake her to feed her, anyone could hold her... she was a champ. They've evened out a bit now at 5, but he is still way more high strung than she is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby/page/2#post-2835676 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 08:23:57 +0000 Modern Daisy 2835676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We almost didn’t go for #2 because #1 was such a difficult baby. He’s been diagnosed with behavioral disorders so clearly it wasn’t just us being inexperienced. He’s still extremely challenging at almost 5. We really rolled the dice with the decision to go for #2 because we are not cut out to raise 2 extremely difficult children, but thankfully #2 came out smiling and happy and plays totally independently, completely unlike his brother. Surprisingly also they get along great! I wouldn’t say #2 is an easy baby though, but compared to his brother it’s night and day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835654 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 06:46:26 +0000 dolphin 2835654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second was definitely easier and such a happy baby. So much so she made me want a third. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835653 Tue, 24 Jul 2018 06:38:38 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2835653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second was not easier! My first was laid back. Decent sleeper (didn’t nap longer then 30 minutes though). Hebate well. Was very happy always. </p> <p>My second.. she ate well. Was sleepy. But regressions hit her hard. She LOVED to be held (usually only by me) and did not like being put down in any kind of baby device. She also spit up a lot. She is now 2 and still quite the little diva, haha. </p> <p>My third is 10 days old and so far he’s super chill and sleepy. Hoping he naps like his sister and has the attitude of his brother, lol :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835588 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 18:47:04 +0000 petitenoisette 2835588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: yes on the car thing! This second baby won’t take a pacifier so if she’s crying in the car I’m kind of just like what can I do? It bothers me so much less than it would withmy first. Same thing goes with letting her cry a little to sleep.<br /> @Silva: everything you said is spot on for me! I just love my sweet baby and am just (mostly) soaking her in and less stressed about things. With my first I would be so worked up before bed worrying about what the night would hold (dd1 was a bad sleeper) but now I just go with the flow. </p> <p>Overall dd2 has been an easier baby bc she basically slept through the night from weeks 6-12 and then on and off STTN until we hit the 4 month regression a few weeks ago. She has same issues with dairy/soy intolerance as her sister did but I didn’t go on a crazy elimination diet this time so much easier to deal with. My first was otherwis a pretty happy baby but this one seems even more cheerful. The one thing that seemed a lot harder for a bit was having to hold her for all her naps but even that I kept more of a positive attitude and she outgrew that pretty quickly. With my first I don’t think it even occurred to me to just hold the dang baby so she’s sleep and consequently I dealt with a lot of frustrating naptimes. Anyway this is rambling, but I do think that your second can be easier due to experience, but definitely not guaranteed bc babies are all different! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835467 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 09:40:11 +0000 kayla0416 2835467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I would say that my second is easier, but just barely. They're just hard in different ways. My first was colicky/reflux-y and had an hours long crying fit every late afternoon for months. But she slept well pretty early and napped great. Still sleeps great at 2.25 and needs her long nap! She was (and still is) crazy high energy, and high emotion, so has been a difficult toddler. My second is the sweetest, most easy-going baby and is amazing - while awake. She has always been a bad sleeper and super-short napper (7 months now). They've both had their challenges, but I think I would say the second is "easier". I'm getting used to the sleep deprivation... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835459 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 09:26:05 +0000 LadyDi 2835459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think about this a lot! DS2 is almost 6 months old. From 0-3 months he was definitely easier than DS1, but DS1 was not a hard baby. BUT DS2 was a very sleepy newborn, so he slept a lot, ate well, and was honestly not fussy. By 3 months he was sleeping big stretches at night too. DS1 had fussy periods in the evening and throughout the day, breastfeeding was hard to figure out and he woke up a lot at night. </p> <p>Now that DS2 is almost 6 months there are parts of his personality that are easier, but other parts aren't. Once DS1 got out of the "4th trimester" he became very easygoing, loved everyone, wasn't particular about who was watching or holding him. DS2 is very smily and happy and is an easy baby for ME, but he is very particular and has a strong mom preference. He doesn't like to sleep for anyone other than me and really only prefers to be held by me or my husband. It has made leaving him with other people, like his grandparents, very challenging because I know he'll end up being pretty fussy the whole time. But he's great when he's with me!</p> <p>I do think I am more confident with the second and that helps make it seem easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835450 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 09:06:45 +0000 snowjewelz 2835450@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never banked on my 2nd being easy. Of course, we all dream of having an angel of a baby! My 1st was not the most difficult, but def not the easiest, and I like to be realistic when it comes to my expectations. So our 2nd was definitely easier the first year of her life (then she totally grew into her personality and now much more wild &amp; opinionated haha). She wasn't STTN, and also had a hard time switching from boobs to bottles, etc. But I think A) she was almost forced to be easier b/c we wouldn't pay attention to her all the time and B) I was much more relaxed and experienced and I think that rubs off </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835414 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 07:17:30 +0000 ladybee 2835414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first was a hard baby because he was allergic to milk and soy, didn’t sleep well at night, and had RSV and was hospitalized twice. He was happy when he felt good. However, he slept like shit till 18 months and still isn’t great. But he was the EASIEST toddler. He still is so easy at 4.5. </p> <p>My second was an amazing dream baby. He slept through the night from 4 weeks and only woke up once a night from 2 weeks. He doesn’t have any allergies, eats so well at 2.5, plays well. BUT he’s an jerk toddler. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835409 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 06:40:52 +0000 hellobeeboston 2835409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck! My first baby was really easy, although at the time I didn't realize it.... but he was a great sleeper/eater, etc. He started getting more challenging as the toddler/preschool years came around. </p> <p>Our second was very chill, but not a great sleeper, and wouldn't take a bottle at all until he was about 8 months old, so that was challenging, especially considering I had to go back to work full time when he was 4 months old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835400 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 02:17:13 +0000 Nutella 2835400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: i think it comes down to their personalities...both my boys are fairly easy babies, though LO1 slept and napped (&amp; ate) like a dream. While LO2 is way more intense, physically advanced and seems to be quite spirited as a baby. And has taken to solids soooo slowly so it feels like he sometimes is still a tiny baby! My older one had the sweetest persona during the “two” year (no wild tantrums) but sort of became a tricky 3/4 year old though! So hoping second baby miraculously turns chill at that age.😂 </p> <p>I am way more relaxed as a mother and generally don’t care what other people think unlike first time around. I still do my fair amount of internet research on topics but I don’t feel the need to consult on every stage, nor compare milestones. That gets old quick 😊 </p> <p>Good luck to you, I think it’s way more fun second time around - and while the firstborn magic is not there it’s special in a whole other way ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835399 Mon, 23 Jul 2018 00:43:43 +0000 lamariniere 2835399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither of my LOs really slept the first year of their lives, but LO2 (girl) was definitely an easier baby minus the sleep. She basically never cried and slept quite a lot the first 3 months of her life. She did a little crying around the witching hour, but never all day fussiness like LO1 (boy). She was also a very sweet and cuddly baby, whereas LO1 would pull away to get to something more interesting. As toddlers though, and now as children, it's the reverse. Once LO1 hit about 1, he became very easy, with an easygoing personality, and he's very amenable to listening (even as a very young toddler) and overall had very few tantrums. LO2 was and is still much more mischievous and stubborn. She went through a tantrum phase around 2 that we never saw with our older one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835395 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 22:58:27 +0000 misolee 2835395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my first (Girl) was eeeeeeaaaaaassssssssy. I just thought I was a good parent until I had my second (boy) and then I was humbled the hard way. I don't remember my first crying...she was just a happy baby. My 3rd (also girl) has been pretty easy so far (4 months) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835392 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 21:37:01 +0000 Purpledaisy 2835392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a total crap shoot. </p> <p>Our first was super duper easy, is 5 now and still is. Slept through the night right away, napped like a champ, happy all the time, easy going. Our second has been the complete opposite. Didn't sleep through the night until 18 months, fussy 24/7, hated everything, extremely sensitive... he's two now and is still a challenge!</p> <p>But then I know plenty of people that have had super easy second babies, I think you just get what you get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835391 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 21:36:29 +0000 Shantuck 2835391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO2 was an easier baby but so far (at 20 months) is a much more difficult toddler! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835390 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 21:24:34 +0000 justjules 2835390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say my first was average, not super easy but not super difficult. I kept hearing about the easy second baby..... But NOPE. Parenting is easier but our second had colic, still has intense seperation anxiety at 15mo so can NEVER be left, generally fussy etc. She was a difficult baby and is now a difficult toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835386 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 20:59:05 +0000 Becky 2835386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our first was far easier than our second. DD1 was super chill and the transition from 0-1 was really easy for us. 1-2 on the other hand was insane, mostly because DD2 was much harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835383 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 20:29:32 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2835383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’ve been lucky to have two pretty easy babies. My second is easier though because she takes a bottle and learned how to put herself to sleep earlier on. She also naps well where my older one didn’t. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835381 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 20:12:26 +0000 nana87 2835381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom called lo2 a Buddha baby for a reason lol! Partly it’s her personality— she’s just happy to lucky and very easy for me to read/anticipate her needs. Partly it’s that I’m more confident in myself so have been less anxious during her babyhood. Partly it’s the comparison— lo1 has had some “big feelings” in her toddlerhood/preschool phase! I mean, a baby has a much more basic set of needs, like is she sleepy, hungry, or poopy? Whereas lo1 is testing limits and negotiating all the time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835380 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 20:07:52 +0000 Silva 2835380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some things were harder, some things were easier.</p> <p>The best part about the second baby was that I felt so much more able to enjoy it, and relax. Instead of always looking ahead to the next milestone, worrying about when it would happen, second guessing everything- I just enjoyed him in all his sweet baby-ness. I remember being surprised when he hit milestones (like: "Oh! Wow! You can do that now!") where as with my daughter I was always anticipating them. I had already gone through the identity exploration you do as a mom- figuring out that at some point you have to choose your choice and be done with the internet research.<br /> I also had a better sense that everything is a phase- so when he was in a tough spot I didn't freak out and immediately try to change a million things, I just kind of accepted that this was how it was but soon it would be something different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835379 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 20:03:55 +0000 Anagram 2835379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 2nd was an easier baby, but harder toddler. Much harder toddler. DD1 was reversed---very hard baby, easy toddler and easy going kid still at 5. DD2 is the typical spirited child with tantrums galore, huge feelings, big opinions, major competitiveness with DD1, more hitting and biting, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835373 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 19:34:46 +0000 pachamama 2835373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My God I've never seen a post so astutely take the words out of my mouth (substituting #2 is a boy instead of girl). I can never decide if my son was an easy baby. But people kind of tell me no and I was miserable so... I am hoping so much the second one will be easier. I would just like a smile before 6 months. Or a nap before a year. I was so hoping for a girl for some snuggles. Maybe this baby will actually seem like he likes me? I feel like anecdotally the second one can be a little bit of a wild card. Like literally wild. I was a Savage as #2, my husband was an angel after his difficult brother. And we and our siblings are exactly the same- nature more than nurture in our cases! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835372 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 19:33:45 +0000 autumnleaves 2835372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a baby my second was a little bit easier but as a toddler he is more out of control - gets into everything, runs away from us, etc.<br /> ETA: my second also seems to get more infections than my first - part of it is his ears and he loves to put his hands in his mouth. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835367 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 18:28:02 +0000 Ajsmommy 2835367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mama Bird: yes!!! Same for ds :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835365 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 18:26:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2835365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My second has been easier since she was about a week old. The first week was worse but that’s it. I really do believe it’s like, 80% personality, 20% parenting and me just not being able to cater to her. My first is almost 5 and she’s still a pain (I love her and all that but she’s is just not easy going. At all). </p> <p>I have two friends whose firsts were generally easy and second kids have really given them a run for their money. And I’ve know them both since our first kids were infants and each of us would agree it’s far more personality than parenting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mythical-second-easy-baby#post-2835364 Sun, 22 Jul 2018 18:04:00 +0000 Ajsmommy 2835364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first was wayyy easier than lo2. First was a girl, second is a boy. Everyone just tells me the old theory "girls are easier than boys ...until the teen years " </p>