https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Jul 2026 16:33:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette/page/2#post-636347 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:29:22 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 636347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wait....youre moving away? I change my answer!! Just use it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette/page/2#post-636343 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 10:27:27 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 636343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can i just say that name is flipping awesome?</p> <p>I would say something to them.....but that is just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette/page/2#post-636114 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:55:53 +0000 Cole 636114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that if you are going to be living somewhere else entirely it is a non issue even if you do have mutual friends. I would probably still tell them in advance but I would use it anyway. </p> <p>From their perspective, I would probably be a bit bothered but realize that this small group of mutual friends is the only set of people in our lives that would really even know of the overlap, and as work friends they probably aren't even forever friends. I feel like that means the name is still totally fair game. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-636053 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:41:39 +0000 Mrs squirreld 636053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: Norse ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-636038 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:35:53 +0000 honeybear 636038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: Well, now my wheels are spinning! :) Greek? Roman? Norse? ;) </p> <p>I still think names with a really strong literary tie are in the public domain, so to speak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-636025 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:30:59 +0000 Mrs squirreld 636025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: first heard of it when they said what they would name their baby if it was a girl and what they would name their baby if it was a boy. I later saw it in books when I researched it. I will admit though that they don't know that. I said I loved the name when she told me... I never said to her that I hadn't heard it before? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-636014 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:27:55 +0000 travelgirl1 636014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: it's so hard because like you say, they don't own the name, but it might make them feel better about it if you at least broach it with them. Our LO's name is very unusual and when she was born SIL's coworker loved it when SIL announced our news at work and said she wanted to use it and I will admit I was annoyed but I also know I had no right to be. The name you give your LO will last the rest of their life and that's more important than hurt feelings. Also, did you only learn about the name from them or baby name books? That would make a difference to how I handled it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-636001 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:24:04 +0000 Mrs squirreld 636001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlebittyhouse: no we are moving away so they wouldn't be in the same workplace anymore and who's to say they will even have a boy. But I just feel weird since I heard the name from them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635998 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:23:40 +0000 MrsKoala 635998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a toughie and I'm not sure what I would do. Maybe just go ahead with planning to name your child what you want as if you had no idea what this couple would have named their son if they had one and who is to say that they will ever have a son, you know? The only names that I consider "reserved" are those of really close friends who have told me their plans and I automatically just take those off of the list. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635996 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:22:50 +0000 Mrs squirreld 635996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@honeybear: the new name is a mythology name :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635987 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:19:50 +0000 honeybear 635987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: For what it's worth, I don't think Saul is particularly unusual. I don't hear it often, but my first thought on hearing that name would be "These guys like Paul (the author of the Pauline epistles/Saul of Tarsus)." (There's also a King Saul in the OT.) Is your new name biblical too? I feel that biblical names are fair game, even if they're not in wide circulation at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635983 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:18:08 +0000 littlebittyhouse 635983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: will the kids be going to school together?? If not, then I am with @T.H.O.U. on the dont ask dont mention.</p> <p>I think its fine. If it is a good name they have to know that other people are going to hear it and want to use it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635962 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:10:05 +0000 LuLu Mom 635962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: Agreed, if you aren't going to be close to them when the baby is born then use it, if you aren't that close with them you might not even consider it an issue in 5 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635954 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:06:05 +0000 MrsSCB 635954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say just use it! I don't think anyone gets a monopoly on a name, unless they actually made it up or something. I don't even think you need to ask them. If it's your favorite, it's your favorite. It would be unreasonable for someone to expect you to not use your favorite name just because their child was born before yours. FYI I'm saying this knowing that my five months pregnant cousin is planning on using our favorite boy name if she has a boy, haha, so I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635952 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 08:05:36 +0000 Anagram 635952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would tell them in advance. If you heard the name from them (and you did, in this case), it's the right thing to do.</p> <p>Just like if they were getting married and told you about a great, unique venue and caterer they found and then you got married first and used that venue and caterer...it's awkward, since probably the reason they like that name is that no one else they know has it.</p> <p>It will take a little of the specialness away to have to be the second person in their office to use that name (in the future), so you should let them know in advance, to avoid awkward feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635914 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 07:46:27 +0000 mediagirl 635914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You want to use this name so, you use it. It's a co-worker, it's not like his brother is using the name for their child. That's my opinion, at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635910 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 07:43:08 +0000 T.H.O.U. 635910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't ask and don't mention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635877 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 07:27:08 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 635877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one has dibs on names-permission is not necessary. Just let the other couple know you are considering the name too if you fear any " you stole my name" backlash.</p> <p>A friend of mine has a daughter who shares the same name as another friend's daughter and both girls are very close in age. Neither mom felt compelled to change their favorite name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635867 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 07:20:30 +0000 kjpugs 635867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had two coworkers pregnant around the same time. The first had her son and named him Amari. The second about 5 months later had a daughter and named her Kamari.</p> <p>My friend (Amari's mom) was MADDDD. And they weren't even friends. But she was more mad that she sort of "stole it" but didn't attribute it to her. Granted, it's a rare name. How common/rare is yours in general?</p> <p>My vote is NOT to ask them. It's a name, and it's a coworker, not a lifelong friend. You might tell them politely ahead of time, even if you have to manufacture where it was from (DH was almost named that and we've always loved it for a future son!) just so they feel like you are aware, you're not backhandedly stealing it, and you are acknowledging that it's the same. By not asking though, you let them prepare without giving them power. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635827 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 06:30:49 +0000 PurpleUnicorn 635827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what i might do is mention it to them that you are using it and acknowledge that you know they were going to use it too, so they don't think you "stole" it...but don't ask their permission either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635813 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:59:41 +0000 Mrs squirreld 635813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: haha you best post on here ASAP!! ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635811 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:58:08 +0000 Cherrybee 635811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: Every single person who has guessed has said girl!!! </p> <p>So, back to your name dilemma - I forgot you're going to be thousands of miles away from them by the time your baby is born. Meh - use the name and stop worrying!! I wouldn't even bother mentioning it!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635809 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:53:33 +0000 illumina 635809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: ahhhhh! So exciting! I hope you find out and are happy with the news! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635808 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:52:58 +0000 Mrs squirreld 635808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NerdBee: hmmm this is my thought. DH will be transferred before baby is due so we won't be working with them anymore anyways, but we do have mutual friends who are very close :-/ I guess it's not really an issue until we find out the sex of our baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635807 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:51:38 +0000 Mrs squirreld 635807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: omg!!! I'm going to be glued to the boards tomorrow!!!!! How exciting!! I bet it's a girl ;-) we are definatley going to find out! I can't wait! :-D and yes I love the name miles too but my DH doesn't either!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635806 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:44:37 +0000 NerdBee 635806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you really love the name that much, I would just use it. Since you're not that close to these people anyway, you may not be friends forever but your LO will be carrying the name forever and you don't want to settle for a lesser name. I would probably give them a heads up as a courtesy though. Maybe closer to your due date? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635801 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:32:58 +0000 derevival 635801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: I would not feel guilty! Do it! I think you'd regret it more not using the name. But, if you think the guilt will be too bad, then don't do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635800 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:31:04 +0000 Cherrybee 635800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: I'm hoping we will find out TOMORROW! Eek! How about you? Are you going to find out?? We have a girl's name but not a boy's name (it was the other way round a couple of weeks ago but DH has gone off the boy's name, sob sob. Miles is cute, right???). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635796 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:25:36 +0000 MaisyMay 635796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs squirreld: I said I'd ask and use it anyways, but that isn't exactly accurate. Instead of asking, I'd tell them that we heard that name from them and like it so much that we're intending to use it too. Hopefully they will feel flattered. You could always toss in a comment about having such a positive association with the name because of how much you respect and admire them. Flattery may help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/name-etiquette#post-635792 Wed, 13 Mar 2013 05:21:05 +0000 Mrs squirreld 635792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@derevival: urgh see this is my exact dilemma if they said no, I think I would feel way too guilty to use it :-( I feel guilty already and we haven't even asked yet. </p>