https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:15:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1415401 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 15:46:47 +0000 MaryM 1415401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update... We found out the sac hadn't passed when we thought it had, so that put things in a bit of a holding pattern for us. dH and I haven't gotten to the "moving on" point we thought we were at until today. </p> <p>Thank you for all the ideas. I'm hoping as things normalize for us soon we might talk about naming the baby. I appreciate all the input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1415171 Tue, 11 Feb 2014 15:08:28 +0000 gingerbebe 1415171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>We named both our miscarried babies very early on and we didn't know the gender, but we prayed for a while about what the names should be. In both cases we felt strongly they were girls, so we gave them girl names. The names were inspired by Bible verses that came to me during my mourning period. Ultimately, we sent announcement cards with their names and those verses to close friends and family. </p> <p>Naming the girls helped us enormously during our grieving period because we could talk about them as people and memorialize them. It also helped us to know that although they were here very briefly, they were acknowledged by their parents as having fulfilled God-given purpose. I saved one of the cards from each announcement and intend to get them framed at one point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1394445 Mon, 03 Feb 2014 00:08:28 +0000 Crystal 1394445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss... You know I ❤️ You....</p> <p>I love Frances, Jude, and Gabriel. </p> <p>Are they doing testing to determine boy vs girl? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1394377 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 23:12:27 +0000 jedeve 1394377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. </p> <p>I was going to say Francis/es but I think it's even sweeter that it would include a piece of you. Does your DH have a patron saint for the middle name? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1394335 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 22:37:33 +0000 hotpink 1394335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am sorry for your loss. </p> <p>Giving your baby a name sounds like a beautiful way to honor your baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1394325 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 22:31:27 +0000 LovelyPlum 1394325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss :( </p> <p>We're Catholic, too, and we named both of our angel babies. Originally, we were looking at saints' names, but two other names appealed to us, neither of which were saints. We decided to use them (Elliot for the first baby, Payton for the second) along with family names for middle names. Our hospital gave us "Recognition of Life" certificates, and it's so nice to have something physical to remember our babies by. </p> <p>You have some great suggestions here! I hope that whatever you choose, naming your angel helps to bring some peace to you and your SO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393618 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 13:11:24 +0000 Kate6214 1393618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First I'm so sorry for your loss. I think there are some great suggestions already here (some I may even use myself). I know you were looking for gender neutral, but St. Catherine of Siena is the patron saint of miscarriages and infant loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393552 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 12:01:44 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1393552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say Frances as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393544 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 11:57:03 +0000 rattles 1393544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a couple of ideas. First, do you know whose feast day was on your due date or another day related to your baby? We always prayed to that saint as a patron for our LO. Alternately, there are several saints who are patrons of babies - Sts. Nicholas, Philip, Brigid are some I know. Another less traditional idea would be Innocent (I'd be more likely to use it as a middle). While perhaps too literal feeling, the Holy Innocents are patrons of babies, and there are several popes with the name. Finally, Our Lady of Guadalupe is the patroness of the unborn, and I remember lots of older male saints took a form of Mary as a middle name, so while not entirely gender neutral, I might use Maria or some such in the middle. I do love the suggestions of Jude and Frances above. I think I might got with Maria Jude or Nicholas Innocent (with Nicky as a unisex nickname). </p> <p>If you feel comfortable doing so, let us know whatever you choose. I'll be keeping you in my prayers and would love to pray for your baby by name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393120 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 07:21:39 +0000 Cole 1393120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. I also thought about Jude and I particularly love the combination @Rainbow Sprinkles: suggested of Jude Frances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393037 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 02:05:30 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1393037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about Jude Frances?</p> <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1393034 Sun, 02 Feb 2014 01:55:57 +0000 shopaholic 1393034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss! That seems really nice your church has something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392940 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 23:10:02 +0000 78h2o 1392940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. :( I miscarried at 7 weeks. We are not Catholic, but mt husband and I buried the baby (TMI, but embryo had come out intact) beneath a tree and carved a cross into the tree. We didn't name the baby, but the burial gave us peace. I think anything that provides confort is a good idea. </p> <p>I'm not Catholic, but I love names...</p> <p>Frances is great... If you want other options, there's also:<br /> St. Marian<br /> St. Agape (agape means love) - maybe for a middle name?<br /> St. Adrian<br /> St. Morgan </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392907 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 22:21:43 +0000 MamaCate 1392907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaryM: i am so sorry for your loss! We had a missed miscarriage in November at 12 weeks and decided to name the baby. I had a feeling it was a girl is we went with a girl name but there is no way to know. My MIL did a plaque for us at a similar site at our church. As far as names, my first thought was Julian partly because I love Julian of Norwich...I hope you find something that is a good fit for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392845 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 21:26:38 +0000 tequiero21 1392845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry for your loss! Don't know many saints, but I like all the names everyone suggested. I think Frances is good since it ties to u too. We were boring. Named it baby last name. Literally, baby lol. Sounds silly now, but we couldn't think of a name to put on the death certificate, which we wanted just as a proof or something that we had a baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392721 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 20:09:53 +0000 pui 1392721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss... I really like the suggestion of Gabriel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392693 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:45:31 +0000 MaryM 1392693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your kind words and suggestions!</p> <p>@littlebug, I love Jude! Not sure why I hadn't thought of that!</p> <p>@sugar.biscuit, I like Gabriel a lot too. And the thought behind it</p> <p>My middle name is Frances, so that was my first thought, but figured I should have a few ideas to discuss with dh so I didn't seem totally selfish! Though a son would be named after him (he's a junior) so maybe this is my chance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392681 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:38:40 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 1392681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. Dh &amp; I felt the same about our loss &amp; choose to name it Gabriel after the messenger angel. We believe God was sending us a message &amp; preparing us for the blessings yet to come. I posted a few threads about it a little over a year a go. Do what your family needs to help you grieve. Every night we pray for all our children's saint's (Gabriel, Michael, &amp; Isabelle) to watch over us &amp; to pray for us. It brings us such peace &amp; happiness knowing our baby is watching over their brother &amp; sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392672 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:32:31 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1392672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry :heart: I also like Jude. Also Julian. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392661 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:27:00 +0000 lovehoneybee 1392661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Francis/es was my first thought, too. </p> <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392659 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:26:31 +0000 swedishfish 1392659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I can think of Jordan, Valentine or Jean. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392656 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:20:29 +0000 yoursilverlining 1392656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. The first gender neutral name with Catholic/saint significance that popped into my head was Francis (Frances). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392649 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:13:28 +0000 littlebug 1392649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The first that came to my mind is Jude. Easily could be boy or girl. And Patron Saint of Desperate Cases - called upon to help a person "perservere in the face of difficult circumstances."</p> <p>Hugs and prayers to you and your husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392637 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 19:00:42 +0000 lilteacherbee 1392637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The one name that came to mind is Alex (gender neutral/St. Alexander). I named my baby that I miscarried at 9 weeks and I think it helped me heal a lot. I had chromosomal testing done when I had the D&amp;C, so we knew ours was a girl. </p> <p>So sorry for your loss! Big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392627 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 18:52:12 +0000 Dandelion 1392627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. :( I don't have any suggestions, though. I hope someone on here can help you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-a-miscarried-baby#post-1392622 Sat, 01 Feb 2014 18:49:16 +0000 MaryM 1392622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I recently miscarried in my 8th week, and DH and I are working with coming to terms with it. He has remarked on how much it sucks to have something so special taken away that didn't even have a name.</p> <p>I learned tonight that my church has an "angel wall" where they list unborn babies and young children who have died so that they can be acknowledged and prayed for.</p> <p>I think this is making me really want to name the baby, and that it would help me in grieving.</p> <p>But I am at a loss on gender neutral names DH and I would consider for a child. Any ideas? Bonus points if it's catholic/a saints name.</p> <p>Thank you! </p>