https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 09:21:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/3#post-2075845 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 20:39:54 +0000 littlejoy 2075845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: My husband gets AARP cards, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075844 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 20:39:38 +0000 littlejoy 2075844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh. I'm a fan of unique names, and my husband is "Jim". So, we would use James a middle name for sure, but otherwise, I'm not the biggest fan of that tradition. With that said, if it was really important to my husband, I would absolutely do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075813 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 20:07:26 +0000 LemonLong 2075813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband shares a name with his Dad. The Mail gets mixed up and it's annoying when they are together because no one knows which one you are talking about. Plus, DH's mother calls him "Tommy" to differentiate between the two, and DH outgrew that nickname way, way, long ago. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075790 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 19:32:09 +0000 Orchid 2075790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think using his name for a middle name would have been a great compromise. It's great your husband came around ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075784 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 19:25:36 +0000 mrs. wagon 2075784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We did! Loved the idea and the nickname Junior. But I wouldn't have done it if I wasn't 100% in love with my husband's name. I thought he didn't care for his own name, but when I brought it up, he revealed that he did like his own name. He was afraid people would think it self-centered of him to name his son after himself. But he's pretty self-conscious in that way. After he got over it we waited til the baby was born and decided he was definitely a Junior! (His name is Robert, we call him RJ.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075483 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:08:15 +0000 nana87 2075483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: that's sweet that you think of them like almost family! but still weird, lol. a lot of my family members have married non-Jews, but I would never expect their family families to adopt a Jewish custom if they weren't Jewish! My cousin, who is Jewish, is married to a non-Jew and they named one of their twin daughters after his mom/my aunt, and she thought it was weird (since she's Jewish) and was a little freaked out, but I don't think she said anything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075470 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:01:08 +0000 fancyfunction 2075470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Neither one of us is a fan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075469 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:00:01 +0000 erinpye 2075469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: haha I know, right‽ But I love them, and they have been so sweet to my family, they're almost like my own, so I get it a little :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075453 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:54:38 +0000 Mamasig 2075453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not a fan, but DS1 and DH share the same middle name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075446 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:53:36 +0000 nana87 2075446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: that's so weird that your sister's in-laws would care about your kid's name! So not their business, lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075430 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:43:30 +0000 erinpye 2075430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nana87: @ElbieKay: I'm not Jewish, but my sister is married to a Jewish guy, and his family was really upset I gave my second daughter my mother's first name, as a middle. My mother and our whole family is very honored, and I had no idea it was taboo in Jewish culture until then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075417 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:31:51 +0000 ElbieKay 2075417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's father passed away before we got married. His first name is also my husband's middle name. We decided to use the same name as our son's middle name, but we chose his first name.</p> <p>The name is from a foreign language, and I had never heard of it before I met my husband. In the U.S., his dad went by the English version of the name, so it doesn't feel like our son even uses his grandfather's name at all. It was just meant to be a gesture since my husband was very close to his dad, and his dad never got to meet our son.</p> <p>ETA: I am a non-religious Jew, so culturally I think it's weird to name a child after someone who is NOT deceased. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075224 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 13:03:26 +0000 MaryM 2075224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is a junior so he told me very early on if we had a boy it would be a III. </p> <p>In my family, first born sons are usually named after their grandfathers. Both of our dad's have died, so I may ask for a compromise if we have a son so that he could have my dad's name as a middle name (but still have DH's and FIL's first name)</p> <p>But since he gets to name a kid after him, I do play to use some version of Mary in a daughter's name (my mother's name is also a version of Mary). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075156 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 12:14:25 +0000 nana87 2075156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's bad luck in Judaism to name a baby after someone living, so that's a big no for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075145 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 12:11:31 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2075145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leah: even before we got married I knew my husband wanted a junior and he knew I was just as firmly against it. He gradually eased up and out of the blue one day said our son could have his first name as his middle. I could live with that in fact our first born- girl or boy could have his first as their middle since his name is easily feminine too IMO. I was relieved when he let go of using his name at all. </p> <p>The tough part will be his bestie and their wives and maybe my MIL too. He isn't a junior, but all these people seem to think he deserves a junior and don't mind saying so. Heaven forbid he buys into the junior idea again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075114 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 11:59:28 +0000 alphagam84 2075114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan of it. It's also always irked me that people name a boy after the father and not a girl after the mother. Seems sexist to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2075094 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 11:50:16 +0000 ballerinabee 2075094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is a "III", but we gave him his own nickname (like my DH has his own nickname, even though he's a Jr.). That way it carries on the name, but he has some individuality as well. He can always use his full name professionally later in life if he wants. It was important to my DH, and we couldn't agree on any other boy names, so I went with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074849 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:37:35 +0000 BananaPancakes 2074849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son shares a first name with my husband, but he goes by his middle name. I'm not a huge fan of naming your kid after yourself, but my husband'd middle name is his father's first, so he wanted to have his first name somewhere in our son's name. It doesn't work for a middle name, so it was placed as his first. I think it get confusing when it comes to medical and school related things, but it's not a huge deal. I just have to correct everyone that he goes by his middle name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074844 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:36:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 2074844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has one of the most popular names for his year of birth, he had no desire to pass it on as it's pretty generational (late 70s/early 80s.) We would however use his middle name, which is also his father's middle name and his grandfather's first name, this would be more significant to us. IF (this is a big IF) we decide for a 3rd and it's a boy we will use that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074836 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:33:08 +0000 Umbreon 2074836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan. It would be different if there was a tradition of some sort. I do like DH's name, but I think it would just be confusing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074815 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:17:52 +0000 bushelandapeck 2074815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan but we ended up doing this with DS because DH is a junior and the name was SO important to he and my FIL. We compromised by calling DS a different nickname than both DH and FIL to avoid confusion. And, of course, his name fits him perfectly now :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074808 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:16:08 +0000 Astro Bee 2074808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really dislike it, for a number of reasons which I posted about a few weeks ago. My husband is the sixth in his line with the same first name and last name. They all have their own middle names however, and except for my husband, who goes by a very unique nickname (which is confusing to explain by itself), they all answer/ed by the same name. Plus there are a couple of others in the family with the same first name but different last names. </p> <p>@Loki: My husband has complained numerous times of getting his mail confused with his dad's, especially when they lived in the same town. My FIL has bad credit, so this was an additional worry of my husband's.</p> <p>I also feel that conventionally the husband passes enough onto his son (i.e., last name) and dislike the expectation that I would give up my choice to name my kid because so many generations of his family lacked the creativity to name their own kid something other than the father's name. </p> <p>Lastly, I'm not fond of the name, either. Thankfully, he is okay with us using it as a middle name instead. Problem averted... At least until we tell his family we are breaking with tradition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074783 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:02:12 +0000 Alivoo01 2074783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm indifferent about it, but for us. I wouldn't name DS after DH. His name is Cambodian and got made fun of like crazy as a kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074773 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 08:52:37 +0000 loki 2074773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meredithNYC: i am named after my mom and it's been awful! banks are always confused and it just causes a lot of issues. i've always been resentful that i didn't get my own name! my name is (mom's name) (aunt's name) (mom's maiden name) (last name)... thanks guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074768 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 08:48:33 +0000 StrawberryBee 2074768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really dislike it. DH's son from his first marriage has the same name (no middle name, either) and it's just all sorts of confusing because I say their name and they both answer. There's no way to shorten it either, since it's only four letters.</p> <p>I'm grateful that it was decided on long before we got together, because that would have been a fight ;). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074750 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 08:33:50 +0000 hellocupcake 2074750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to convince DH to give LO his name. He doesn't really like his name, but he's a third and LO is the 4th. I love it. Each man has made the name their own. I think being a fourth is unique in its own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074745 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 08:27:33 +0000 Orchid 2074745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for all the responses! My husband suggested it when we were deciding on names and I vetoed it quickly. I didn't realize he was very attached to the idea until recently! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074717 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 07:58:12 +0000 looch 2074717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In my family, the naming tradition is kids named after grandparents. I am named for my father's mother, my two brothers are named for my father's father and mother's father, respectively.</p> <p>As for naming after the parents, I would do it if it was important to my husband, but it wasnt'. My FIL was named after his father, and coincidentally his FIL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074713 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 07:52:38 +0000 lamariniere 2074713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In theory, I'm not into it. In practice, DS's first and middle are my DH's two middle names. But I picked my son's name years before I met my DH, and it was a crazy coincidence that his two middle names (which were his two grandfathers) were my top two boy choices! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/naming-son-after-husband/page/2#post-2074527 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 21:59:43 +0000 Mrs. Cookie 2074527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubby and I aren't into it. Although some form of our son's name actually means my husband's name too. </p>