https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 09 Jun 2026 14:44:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347866 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 17:07:09 +0000 jedeve 347866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You can just ask about feeding two babies at once, you know? It doesn't have to be about the breast or which baby, you could just ask "what will you do if you are feeding one baby and the other starts crying or needs something?" It's not an impossible situation, mothers of multiples do it all the time! I worked at a daycare an the ratio was 4:1. I don't remember there being many instances of two babies needing attention at the exact same moment that couldn't be managed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347737 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 15:58:52 +0000 Mrs. Blue 347737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely consider this if we had one baby. I think three babies would make it a bit too much, so we haven't looked for a situation like this. Otherwise, I'd check her references and go for it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347165 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 13:06:23 +0000 sarac 347165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think asking how her breastfeeding is going is invasive, but I'd feel free to ask how she'd deal if she was breastfeeding and your baby needed something. </p> <p>I tend to think that nannies who bring their own child are awesome, IF they can juggle two. Built in playmate! If I ever needed one, I think I'd look for a nanny with a child to bring, and then just really assure myself that she was balancing both well. If you've got good references that suggest she'd be up to it, I'd JUMP on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347104 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:52:22 +0000 annie624 347104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be just fine with it! I would definitely prefer to have them in my home, though. Especially if she was doing laundry and light cleaning! </p> <p>Also, I know a lot of people have said that you should be slightly concerned that she my show favoritism to her own LO, but I think it'd be the exact opposite. I think she would be more likely to let her own baby cry for a bit longer, as opposed to one that is more unfamiliar. But maybe that's just me. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347072 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:46:12 +0000 Andrea 347072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: I did not say that you could only babysit if you were bottle feeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347060 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:42:59 +0000 Maysprout 347060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Nursing a newborn is different than nursing a 4 month old. I can see asking questions about juggling the 2 babies for feedings and napping etc. But I'd have been completely taken aback if someone thought you could only babysit if you were bottle feeding. Granted I was babysitting for free but it's a subject I'd word carefully because for me personally I'd be quite offended with that implication. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347025 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:30:41 +0000 Andrea 347025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: I would want to ask in the interview how breastfeeding is going with her and her baby, yes. I think this is a valid question. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-347014 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:26:59 +0000 Maysprout 347014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: You see it as a difference in her ability to be employed? At 4 months most babies would need a bottle still held for them. I was breastfeeding while also taking care of another baby and I don't think I was a worse caretaker because I was breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346997 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:19:45 +0000 Shutterbug 346997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: a friend of mine was a nanny before she got pregnant, and she came back to work with her son when he was 8 weeks old. It was fine at first but she ended up quitting because it was too much for her. The child she was nannying was 6 though, and had tons of activities to go to. Her son was having trouble napping because she had to keep waking him up to bring him places with the other family's daughter. I think since the two babies are close in age in your case, you wouldn't run into this issue though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346979 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:14:21 +0000 Mrs. Pen 346979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi to you too!!</p> <p>The only issue I can foresee (and she sounds great so far!) is differing parenting strategies. I know the mom I nanny for has ha bad experiences in the past where the moms would belittle her daughter and the mom and make their kids out to be better. They made my nanny mom feel guilty as a parent and vulnerable in her own home. It's something to look out for.</p> <p>Obviously it helped in my situation that I was with them two years prior to having my own child.</p> <p>My sister as well does this now for two families and totally loves it, I think with the right relationship it could totally work!! Good luck :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346973 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:13:10 +0000 Andrea 346973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: It may or may not but eventually babies learn to hold their own bottles so I see that as a difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346965 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:10:24 +0000 T.H.O.U. 346965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also would ask about sleeping and schedules. I think CocoBee had some issues with some of that (she wanted CIO for naps I think). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346943 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 12:03:44 +0000 Maysprout 346943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: How would breastfeeding tie her up anymore than bottle feeding? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346863 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 11:47:06 +0000 blackbird 346863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds pretty awesome; i was thinking about the same thing for our family, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346674 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 11:05:56 +0000 Andrea 346674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: agree, definitely an advantage that LMW is the older baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346647 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:58:58 +0000 mrs. wagon 346647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: definitely something to discuss with her. I think it's an advantage that LMW will be older than her baby, so hopefully she will have less urgent needs, but again, we'll have to discuss and see if we feel comfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346640 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:57:58 +0000 photojane 346640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>pending good references, i'd absolutely go for it! unless you have a one-on-one nanny situation, your child is going to have to take a "backseat" at some point in a nannying situation. if your baby is at a daycare with lots of other babies, it only makes sense that more than one baby would fuss and need attention at the same time, which means the workers will have to juggle their attention between babies. i'd much rather one person be juggling between the two babies than 3 or 4! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346635 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:57:16 +0000 Andrea 346635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: I think it's different when it's her own child, though, because she might always choose her own baby. I've definitely seen daycare workers attend to their own babies first and that actually really bothered me now that I think about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346623 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:54:32 +0000 mrs. wagon 346623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: true-- not sure if she is nursing but she's definitely pumping, so that's another good question to ask when I meet her next. Thanks!!</p> <p>And I'm not so concerned about LMW taking a backseat to her child... I'd rather LMW be second in line out of 2 than 1 out of 3.5 at the daycare center! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346616 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:52:33 +0000 Andrea 346616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Cool! Hopefully those references check out. I would also be concerned that LMW might take a back seat to her own child but if she is experienced then it would be less of an issue. Will she need to breastfeed or pump for her baby? I might not like it if she had to do that because she would be "tied up". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346613 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:52:22 +0000 prettylizy 346613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like a great situation to me. I would love the built in playmate too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346605 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:50:21 +0000 mrs. wagon 346605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: that's exactly what Wagon Sr. and I are thinking. We were thinking of doing a nanny share if we could find another family, but this might be even less complicated to deal with.</p> <p>By the way, the second I met her I thought, she reminds me of @Arden !! She has long wavy reddish hair! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346600 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:49:13 +0000 mrs. wagon 346600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: @Andrea: it is her first baby, but she does have nannying experience juggling a newborn and a 2 year old. She does have references that we want to talk to. </p> <p>Now I'm kind of afraid she's gonna find this. Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346599 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:48:58 +0000 Arden 346599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: If she's had plenty of experience as a nanny, I'm sure she could. My LO isn't here yet, but I've nannied for infant twins in the past.</p> <p>I think I would do it, especially for the price. There would be a lot more one-on-one attention than they'd get at daycare! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346596 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:48:07 +0000 Springtime 346596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't have a problem with it! Especially if the benefits are that great (cheaper and offering to do housework) but like @mediagirl said I would just be worried she would choose her own first if they were to both need something! And doesn't show favoritism around your LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346592 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:46:13 +0000 pinkcupcake 346592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: wow, that sounds awesome! I do wonder if it's too good to be true, but maybe she just really needs the extra $? </p> <p>My concern would be along the same lines as @mediagirl... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346588 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:45:24 +0000 Andrea 346588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds good if she has previous nanny experience? I would check references. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346587 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:45:22 +0000 Mrsbells 346587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Is this her first baby? I only ask because at 4 months post my baby, I dont think I could have properly taken care of two babies at the same time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346584 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:44:42 +0000 Mrs. Bee 346584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: our childcare costs are ridic and would do that in a heartbeat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-plus-nannys-baby#post-346580 Thu, 18 Oct 2012 10:43:17 +0000 mrs. wagon 346580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Bee: she wants to charge about HALF of what the only nearby daycare center would charge us. And the daycare center ratio is 2 adults to 7 babies. She also offered to do light housecleaning and laundry. Is this too good to be true?!? </p>