https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 15:07:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2291121 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 08:26:34 +0000 BandDmommy 2291121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: glad this past! What a tough situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2291109 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 08:22:45 +0000 winniebee 2291109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let nanny #1 go this morning, in person. She cried and I felt awful. I was (mostly) honest with her. I told her that when she called out sick all week it put me in a tough spot so I reached out to an old nanny contact and she babysat all week and turned out to be a better fit for our family. That is all true. I left performance issues out of the equation. She said she was glad I had an in person discussion with her. </p> <p>I paid her 2 weeks severance. I know she had only been with me a few weeks, but I felt it was the fair thing to do because I wrote the contract. An expensive lesson I learned. She asked for a written reference, which I will do.....I guess.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2289166 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 21:47:39 +0000 MrsSRS 2289166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would let her drive into work, ask for the key, then hand her her last paycheck. One week. Unless she brings it up. I was a nanny for years and I can't imagine not showing up for a week. So unacceptable. I worked through morning sickness! When my water broke prematurely and I wasn't going to be at work the next day the mom was one of three people I called on my way to the ER. It's a two way street. You can't expect your employer to be generous and committed to you if you aren't to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288594 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 10:40:49 +0000 looch 2288594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sunny: Actually, that's not my experience, but this is not the point of the thread. Our leases have stated that we must provide access to the apartment when given advance notice. We could do that with a providing a key, or just being there when they enter.</p> <p>@winniebee: do you feel unsafe, or that the safety of your house is compromised? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288576 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 10:18:57 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2288576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Just because it's a rental doesn't mean you can't request to change the locks with your landlord. You may have to pay for it, but if you feel that your safety is in danger, he has to comply. As long as you give him a key to the new lock, you can certainly change them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288568 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 10:11:56 +0000 sunny 2288568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: @winiebee: I think most lease agreements state the landlord must have a key, though you are likely free to change the barrel as long as you provide a new key. You can always ask your landlord if it's ok if you rekey the lock or put a keypad entry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288539 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 09:38:47 +0000 chopsuey 2288539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: please do not fire her over the phone!!!!!! I get freaked out over ppl doing crazy shit and she has a key to your house. 😬<br /> If you have an alarm system, the phone firing is ok I guess lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288530 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 09:32:39 +0000 looch 2288530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Why not? Save what you currently have, replace them when you leave. I've replaced the barrel with every apartment I've lived in. As long as you replace it to the current state, it shouldn't be an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288525 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 09:29:50 +0000 bushelandapeck 2288525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't read all the responses but we had a similar experience with our first nanny. We had a contract and let her go after 1 month for similar issues that you are having. We ended up giving her 1 weeks pay and then, going forward, we now have a 90 day trial period for our nanny and then will offer severance and sick/earn time after that if we keep her on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288480 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:54:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2288480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: since you live in a rental, will you let your landlord know someone else has a key to the place in case you don't get it back from her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288476 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 08:52:54 +0000 winniebee 2288476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I can't it's a rental house :(</p> <p>@mrsjyw: I didn't pay her this past week for her sick time. She hasn't asked and I didn't bring it up. </p> <p>I keep going back and forth on how to handle this hourly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288351 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 07:04:29 +0000 Cole 2288351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like your revised plan. I think it sounds very reasonable. I was a nanny for a long time and the agencies I worked for stressed that the contracts were not binding agreements because domestic help is an "at will" position. I can't say I actually know what that means but maybe it helps you? I guess the idea is more for mediation purposes.</p> <p>Maybe for for future contacts revise it to say one week severance is earned after a 90 trial period and another after 6 months or a year.</p> <p>Good luck! I hope it goes smoothly! I am glad that finding a new nanny went well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288346 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:53:56 +0000 looch 2288346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: this doesn't solve your immediate problem, but i'd look into changing the locks in your house to keyless entry. You can assign everyone that needs to get in a unique code and then when you don't want them to have access any longer, you simply deactivate the code. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288311 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 06:11:36 +0000 catomd00 2288311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just pay her and move on so she has nothing against you. Next time put a probationary period in the contrsct. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288298 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 04:47:26 +0000 jedeve 2288298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you have to pay. But next time around I would include that severance is available only after a probationary period. Although a nanny probably isn't going to take a lawyer to small claims court so you could probably get away with not paying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288273 Fri, 11 Sep 2015 01:21:06 +0000 mrsjyw 2288273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like your updated plan. I think she's lucky she even got this last wk (sick) paid. Pto is earned on a time in period, no? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288249 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 23:27:28 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2288249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would give her the two weeks of notice and maybe she will volunteer to go earlier since it's only been five days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288241 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 23:11:05 +0000 sunny 2288241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that's a good plan. </p> <p>Perhaps in the next contract you'll need to write something about only giving severance after the nanny has worked with you a year. If the nanny has been there for 3 mo or less, no severance and between 3 mo-12 mo, some partial amount of the 2 weeks severance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288020 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 18:02:38 +0000 raintreebee 2288020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though we fired our nanny in person, we asked our landlord to change our locks. You can't be sure she hasn't made a copy... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2288016 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:59:50 +0000 lemondrop 2288016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I like your latest plan. I would tell her via phone she can agree to a time and place to exchange the key for the week's severance (or equivalent pay to the number of days she has actually been present for?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd/page/2#post-2287976 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:11:58 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2287976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I'm pretty sure I asked her to drop it off...she didn't live far. I'm not sure what I'd do in your case. Ask to pick it up? She could leave it in her mailbox? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287963 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:04:10 +0000 winniebee 2287963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs Green Grass: interesting thanks! What did you do about the key? I've reversed and think I will call her to let her go and say that given the short amount of time she has been with us, I can't give her notice. If she asks about severance I will agree to a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287959 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:02:05 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2287959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I fired our first nanny by phone with no notice for very similar reasons... And our second and third nannies were both great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287958 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 17:01:21 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2287958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's crazy to pay her severance without working for you for any time at all. I can't imagine she would expect it, but I don't know what could happen...wouldn't the worst case be you had to pay it to her after she threatened legal action? Which I doubt she would do... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287866 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:44:48 +0000 Freckles 2287866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I would let her go as soon as she comes to your home and get the key. I guess i don't think a 30 minute drive is that big of a deal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287865 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:43:54 +0000 Corduroy 2287865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: It will be awkward when you fire her regardless. Firing is awkward. However, getting two weeks severance for a brand new job that she's barely shown up for is hardly being blindsighted. So she drives up for work gets fired and gets pay. Awkward but over quickly and not so bad for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287858 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:36:07 +0000 babybysurprise 2287858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I would just change the locks, she could technically make a copy of the key not saying that she would but...you never know.</p> <p>Eta: sorry just saw that you don't own the house... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287845 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:25:42 +0000 winniebee 2287845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ldh112: yes the new nanny fortunately stepped in this week and we've got the details worked out. the new nanny will be here with our child, but i'll have her be upstairs so as not to make it utterly awkward (which I'm sure it will be, regardless!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287843 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:24:53 +0000 winniebee 2287843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@coopsmama: the problem is I need her to return the key, period. we don't own the home so i can't change the locks lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-severance-wwyd#post-2287842 Thu, 10 Sep 2015 15:24:39 +0000 ldh112 2287842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: yeah I'd do it in person and not have her mail it in. Will you have the new nanny show up the same day or what's your child care plan? </p>