https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 14:30:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876875 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 11:21:57 +0000 mrsjazz 1876875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Yup. I still have a lot of anger over this whole thing and now hearing about gossip lady--I feel like I need to slap someone. </p> <p>Just realized we have a punching bag at work. Going to use it on my lunch break and pretend my old nanny and gossip nannies faces are on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876864 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 11:18:28 +0000 mrsjazz 1876864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erwoo: We don't know of any hitting, but yes, there was harm done to them. She spoke meanly to them and would grab or yank them roughly. LO came home with fingernail marks (same time as the firing). She dragged the other kid once. They have video footage of the incident at the Y but won't allow us to see it since it wasn't our child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876775 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 10:22:27 +0000 erwoo 1876775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's terrible and definitely unprofessional. It's good to know that your nanny trusts you to tell you that information. At least you know she's a keeper. Did the last nanny hit your children or tried to harm your children? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876768 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 10:19:38 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1876768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm, so gossip queen nanny thinks mistreating children and bad behavior is something you can work through? GTHOTH</p> <p>being talked about is never a fun feeling even when you and we all know you were 100% right. Sorry this ish is still on people's minds &amp; tongues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876749 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 10:09:45 +0000 Mrs. Bee 1876749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>it's a really sucky situation. so sorry about that!</p> <p>i actually did "report" a nanny for her behavior this week. we have experience with quite a bit of drama with nannies in the past. it's so hard when the care of your child is involved! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876739 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 10:04:40 +0000 mrsjazz 1876739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: @mrs. wagon: @SleepyMonkey: Our new nanny is great. It's like having my mom or grandmother watch my LO. It was a little weird at first to hire someone who is a friend of the family but it's going really well.</p> <p>@SleepyMonkey: You're right. She probably just wanted to gossip.</p> <p>I never updated my nanny story from the past (because I was too pissed and depressed and ashamed about it) but it turned out that the Y reported our nanny to children's services for an incident that happened there with the other child in our nanny share. We were already planning on firing her before this incident, but obviously fired her immediately after we found out. (Lots of work and scrambling for babysitters). The fact that this gossiping nanny knew all of this and more and still defended former nanny makes me see red. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876729 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:57:31 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 1876729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is definitely disconcerting to live in that kind of nanny environment! In my area the nannies are young transplants from other parts of the country and don't know each other. I'm glad your nanny was willing to tell you, right? Are you feeling comfortable with her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876727 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:57:01 +0000 Adira 1876727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: Oh my gosh, the fact that your LO asked her not to hurt her breaks my heart. So glad you ended up canning the old nanny and have one you can trust! So annoying about those other nannies though. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876717 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:51:25 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1876717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that is really infuriating. I followed your story, and I think any parent would have done the same thing. But I guess nannies in your area are worried now that anything they do that the parents don't approve of give the parents reason to fire them and that makes them scared. And this particular nanny that followed your new one around is just gossiping to make herself feel better. Good thing is your new nanny told you about it. I think there are nannies out there that are very gossipy and will talk about anything to make themselves feel better, even if she knew what your old nanny did was wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876715 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:51:01 +0000 mrs. wagon 1876715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: not much to say other than I'm so sorry this happened, glad it's in the past, and glad that you have a new nanny that you can actually trust. That's worth more than gold in my book. :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876709 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:49:38 +0000 mrsjazz 1876709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Yes, I found out all of this stuff from our current nanny. I trust our current nanny because I've known her for 7 years. I also see the difference in my LO's behavior with her. Our new nanny told me that LO once said to her, "Please don't hurt me" and my heart broke.</p> <p>I have no idea if it's normal behavior. I know that nannies do have to deal with people watching them and their behavior because I see nanny posts all the time on the listservs. But defending our last nanny and warning new nanny against us is completely ridiculous to me. I wish I knew who these women were because you can best believe I'd have a few choice words for them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876707 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:49:21 +0000 Mae 1876707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what happened with your former nanny but yikes. Sounds like new nanny is good though, if she's telling you about all this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876691 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:39:29 +0000 Adira 1876691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just to clarify, did you find out about what these others nannies are saying about you and your former nanny from your current nanny? That at least would give me hope that the current nanny values her job with you and is being honest!!</p> <p>But I agree - WTF?? First of all, it seems like other nannies shouldn't be gossiping about YOU to someone who's new to your employ - that's not very professional. Is that normal nanny behavior? And that sucks that they are basically defending your former nanny and making it sound like you guys were being unreasonable or something. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nanny-wall-of-silence#post-1876682 Thu, 25 Sep 2014 09:36:05 +0000 mrsjazz 1876682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a new nanny share with a nanny who is a friend of the family. Some of you may remember that we had to fire our last nanny from a nanny share due to her conduct with our children. Our new nanny knows all of this. She has worked for us for almost a month and three nannies have approached her while she was out and about with LO at 3 separate locations to talk to her about the past nanny and what happened.</p> <p>One of those incidents happened this week and the woman who approached our current nanny knew more than we did about some of the stuff that happened with our last nanny. This woman also followed new nanny around the playground, left her two kids she was caring for, to try and talk/gossip. And with knowing all of the bad stuff still warned our new nanny about US! She said, "Oh so-and-so's Mom (me) was so nice and friendly with the nanny but you see what happened, they just fired her so be careful." How can this woman as a nanny who knew all the shit that went down with our last nanny say this crap?</p> <p>I'm not saying that there aren't some parents who are overbearing but these nannies know what happened and are still warning my current nanny. That makes me upset and kind of scared, because if they thought our former nanny's behavior was acceptable, I wouldn't want them taking care of my kids. </p> <p>Just venting. :bummed: </p>