https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 14 Jun 2026 18:32:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1313229 Thu, 02 Jan 2014 11:03:55 +0000 allison 1313229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, after two days, I have some updates! @NovBaby1112: I decided to try your suggestion and move to one nap. Tuesday, he went to sleep immediately after I put him in the Ergo, and I was able to transfer him to his crib, no problem! He slept for an hour and 15 minutes. Not terrible. I thought I was home free! So I did the exact same thing yesterday. Only, as soon as I put him down, he woke up (well, like 10 seconds later), cried, I picked him up, he went back to sleep, I put him back down, he woke up, cried, repeat. Until the third time, he wouldn't go back to sleep. It's like he knew I was going to put him down as soon as he did! </p> <p>So I decided to try your suggestion, @mrs. wagon: and did 10 minute "crying" sessions. He wasn't really crying at the beginning, just kind of fussing, but by the end of the 10 minutes, he was. I would go in and hold him for 5 minutes (hoping he'd fall asleep. No dice), then put him down and leave again. I did this for an hour, with no luck. He ended up not napping at all yesterday.</p> <p>@coastmama: I think this might would work, the whole staying close to the bed thing. But I'll have to wait until the weekend to try because I can't be out of earshot of the other baby when she's napping, and need to be able to see her when she's awake. So lying in E's room with the white noise on isn't an option during the week. Unfortunately.</p> <p>I'm pretty sure I could get him to stay asleep, at least for a little while, if I side-lie nursed him to sleep on my bed. But, again, I can't be out of sight/earshot of the other baby that long.</p> <p>It's just so hard, because I feel like a really shitty parent that I can't figure out a way to get him to sleep on his own, and refuse to let him sleep the way I know he will (wearing him). I feel like I should just wear him? Like, logically, I know it's probably a bad move, but my heart just can't take any more crying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1308960 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 21:13:10 +0000 coastmama 1308960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok. So I really want to help because sleep stuff sucks. So I'll offer some stuff that helped us. See, we tackled night time sleeping first because we were getting up every 30 minutes, but doesn't sound like you are having that problem. After he started putting himself to sleep at night by himself, it took minimal crying for naps. I was originally really hesitant with CIO because it hurt my heart so bad, so I read "The Sleep Lady" after a recommendation from a friend. It is modified CIO. So you would stay with E until he fell asleep, just sitting next to his crib even if he is crying. No pick ups unless you have too, and then if so, you put him back down as soon as he stops crying. And then you gradually move across the room night by night, or in your case nap by nap. Its probably something you could do when D is off work Wednesday, and then kinda wing it till the weekend. If you are interested in more about that book, fbook me and I'll look in the book and give you more specific info. It worked wonders for us when JM would only sleep while being rocked. I hate to say it, but it finally got to the point where I would have done anything just to get him to sleep on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307985 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 13:03:41 +0000 allison 1307985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: Yeah, I've definitely let him "fuss" for awhile before. I do think crying and fussing are different, for sure. But this is like a panicked, hyperventilating cry with tears and snot and splotchy face. And I feel terrible when I go in there and get him because I know that leaving him to cry like that for a few minutes then getting him up isn't helping anybody! I want to be consistent, but I don't want to leave him to be SO SAD and upset, either. If I could only figure out a way to get him to go to sleep without wearing him, then maybe I could gradually move him to his crib? But I can't get him off my back without waking him up.</p> <p>FWIW, my LO went through a big sleep transition at 4 months. He was napping and sleeping well, then... stopped. It was so hard! But it got better. I hope things get better for you!</p> <p>I'm currently typing this while standing, because I can't sit down with LO on my back. Everything hurts. This sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307961 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 12:57:28 +0000 Modern Daisy 1307961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 4 months old and still fights naps. I don't worry about it too much since it has not affected his nighttime sleep, but it can be exhausting during the day as we never get a break and can't take naps ourselves!</p> <p>I have been successful a few times letting him CIO for naps. As long as the cries don't escalate or sound too panicked, I know he's really tired and really wants to sleep. The problem is being consistent, since we are out so much during the day naptimes are always random and unpredictable which makes it tougher for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307913 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 12:42:16 +0000 allison 1307913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: normally, I'd try that! But it's been cold, windy, and rainy here lately, so a walk isn't really feasible. Damn you, winter!</p> <p>I just gave other LO a bottle and rocked to sleep, while cradle holding, standing, and rocking back and forth to put my LO to sleep, in the Ergo, on my back. I think my arms might fall off. They're both asleep, yay! But this further solidifies my thoughts that this cannot be a permanent solution!</p> <p>My husband is off work tomorrow, and we're both off Wednesday. It's got to be baby nap bootcamp for my LO. Why will he not go down with his routine anymore? Do we need to come up with a new routine? New story/song? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307823 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 12:07:28 +0000 NovBaby1112 1307823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@allison: I'm sorry! That sounds so rough :( Esp with 2 babies! Hmmm....could you put them in double stroller and go for walk and hopefully they will both nap? Have you tried just keeping him up for a little longer and seeing if he will go down easier for you? Maybe he just needs more awake time? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307779 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:52:38 +0000 allison 1307779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307660 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:16:36 +0000 allison 1307660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: He's taking two, still. I would be totally fine with him switching to one, but he still seems tired, like he needs two :(. He napped in the Ergo twice a day every day last week. Sometimes three times.</p> <p>@septca: He was having trouble sleeping at night for a few nights last week, too. Waking every hour. So I tried Advil, and it didn't seem to help at all.</p> <p>@mrs. wagon: I've tried that, and he just cries even worse after I leave the second time. Like, it sounds like he's almost hyperventilating. Then there's the issue of, when he cries and the other baby is sleeping, he wakes her up. Then she starts crying. So I have to go check on her. Get her back to sleep. Then my LO wakes her up again with his crying. I could manage better, I'm sure, if it was just my LO, but with two (and one not being mine, so I feel more cautious about what I do/don't do with her, like leaving her in her crib too long), it just seems impossible!</p> <p>Thanks for the suggestions. Please keep them coming! And just knowing you guys are on my side is helpful :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307629 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:07:40 +0000 mrs. wagon 1307629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@allison: nap problems are the worst :( Have you tried letting him cry for the 5 mins, going in to calm him, then leaving again? After a few 5 min crying sessions he may give in and fall asleep on his own. When I nap trained, I did a 5 min session, a 10 min session, then 15 min (which is TORTURE) and I never had to do more than that. After a couple of days I only had to do one or two 5 min sessions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307626 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:06:42 +0000 septca 1307626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you tried Motrin? Oragel? My baby is about the same age and has been having teething and illness related napping problems as well. Drugs have really helped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307622 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:06:11 +0000 NovBaby1112 1307622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@allison: how many naps is your LO taking? Mine started transitioning to 1 nap around that time, and fought naps like crazy around then too. She also went through a very short phase, like 5 days, of not wanting to nap in the crib, so I napped her in the stroller. But that phase came and went quickly thank goodness! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nap-problems-please-help#post-1307609 Mon, 30 Dec 2013 11:03:12 +0000 allison 1307609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know I haven't been active here for awhile, but I would really appreciate some advice. </p> <p>Last week, my 11 month old started cutting a couple of teeth and stopped napping in his crib. I think it was a combination of not feeling well and not being able to breathe because his nose was so stuffy. (Previously, he was putting himself to sleep for naps, after I read him a story and sang a song). It's been one week since he's napped in his crib. I've worn him for all naps. Which was fine because I had the week off (I'm a nanny for a 9 month old, as well). But the other little girl is back this week, and he won't sleep in the Ergo while she's playing, and I can't put her down for naps with him on my back because he's too heavy (she only sleeps for, like, 30 minutes). Not to mention, if she falls (happens all the time), and wants to be picked up (while crying, of course), I can't really pick her up with a 25 lb baby on my back. Or she wakes him up with the crying. Or, she poops (happened just now), and I can't change her because of said 25 lb baby on my back.</p> <p>I feel so frustrated, and I don't know what to do to get my LO to nap on his own again! I've tried nursing him, rocking him, holding him, singing to him, lying next to him. He refuses. I've tried letting him cry for 5 minutes or so, but that's all I'm willing to do, CIO-wise.</p> <p>I know this probably seems really dramatic, but I really feel like I'm going crazy. Please, please, help me. </p>