https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 21:45:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1780196 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 20:30:53 +0000 birdofafeather 1780196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: agree. i heard an analogy that families are like rivers and although you can go to the same place and throw in two rocks, they hit the river at different times as it's flowing downstream... i think i butchered that, but hopefully the idea comes across! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779281 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:56:30 +0000 imbali 1779281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>welll....if you take first year psych, they'll eventually tell you it's a diathesis-stress model, which ends up meaning (I think) that neither has more 'weight' but that it depends on where you start. E.g. genes for X let's say: if you have a 3/4 full glass of genes for X, then it only takes 1/4 of the X kind of nurture for you to have X. But some people will only have 1/4 full glass of genes for X, so they'd need 3/4 of X nurture to get that...if that makes any sense! </p> <p>Anyway, ultimately I think 50/50 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779280 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:56:30 +0000 blackbird 1779280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nurture </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779265 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:54:01 +0000 Alivoo01 1779265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother and I are 4 years apart, but we're complete opposites. People are always so surprised at how different we are and how we were raised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779261 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:53:14 +0000 Greentea 1779261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I really agree with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779248 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:50:03 +0000 Adira 1779248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: Yes! Plus you might be more strict and uptight with your first child and then realize you don't have to be that way with your second and so things are just different! I think it would be really hard to parent multiple kids exactly the same way (except in the case of twins/multiples). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779237 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:47:45 +0000 hilsy85 1779237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: yep, I think it happens way more than people realize! Whether because of gender, or because of differences in time of life when people have children, or difference in children's personalities that then make parents react differently--I think a lot of peopel SAY they treat their children the same, but I don't think it's actually true a lot of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779214 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:44:33 +0000 Adira 1779214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: That's so true. My parents really tried to be fair and equal in their treatment of my brother and I, but just the gender difference made my parents treat us differently (my brother was given more freedom to do things because "he was a big strong boy that could take care of himself"). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779202 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:41:54 +0000 hilsy85 1779202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think nurture, although there are some instances where nature has a greater role (with genetic predispositions and all that). But generally I think it's nurture. </p> <p>Even in households where people say that siblings are SO different--I think VERY often, even when people are raised by the same parents, there is very different parenting going on, whether people realize it or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779141 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:26:28 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1779141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think nature wins, but nurture definitely plays a role. I'm more 70/30 nature/nurture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779136 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:24:04 +0000 regberadaisy 1779136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: VERY good point. It's a head scratcher for sure.</p> <p>BIL #1 could NOT be any more different than FIL, BIL #2 and DH are. We scratch our heads all the time and wonder where the heck he came from. But he also left home when he was 18 and was the oldest so that might play into the nurture part?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779130 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:22:35 +0000 mrsjazz 1779130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: This is purely anecdotal so take it as you will, but my siblings and I were raised in the same household and my brothers are way different than my sister and I in terms of drive and responsibility--but I think it's nurture in our situation, my mom wasn't around as much for them (was working 2 jobs when they were younger) so my sister and I had a different version of our mom than my brothers.</p> <p>But then I look at all of those studies with twins who were separated at birth and how they dress the same, have similar families, and careers.</p> <p>I just don't think we can say that for every person nature or nurture is more influential in the way they develop. It depends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779109 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:15:06 +0000 fairy 1779109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a combination. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779107 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:14:30 +0000 Adira 1779107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I don't know! My husband is VERY different from his sister, but I think that's partly because of how he was raised! Both his parents are very social and outgoing and so his older sister was the same way and I think the fact that the three of them were like that made it hard for my husband to really have a chance to speak up and be as vocal as them, which is why he's more quiet! I don't think it's SOLELY because of his nature. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779102 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:12:17 +0000 Mae 1779102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is like 60/40 nature. I know so many people who are SO DIFFERENT from their siblings (myself included) and being raised in the same home-- I just have to think that nature plays a bigger role. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779099 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:11:20 +0000 mrsjazz 1779099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You need an option for both. I think they are both equally important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-v-nurture#post-1779093 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 14:09:40 +0000 lawbee11 1779093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Which do you think plays a bigger role in a person's development?</p> <p>I think nurture definitely plays a role, but I think nature plays a bigger one. So I'm team nature :)</p> <p>What about you? </p>