https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 13:01:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433846 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:31:28 +0000 loveisstrange 433846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: I am one of 3 and we are all super different. My oldest brother was the golden child who could do not wrong, my middle brother was the black sheep who was always in trouble, and I was the baby and the only girl and I was spoiled and got away with a lot.</p> <p>I think it's a pretty good 50/50. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433831 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:22:57 +0000 chopsuey 433831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say 50/50.<br /> My sisters and I are all REALLY different. Parents treated us pretty much the same (small differences here and there). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433824 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:20:33 +0000 boiledpnut 433824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: My mom was harder on me and expected more from me than my sister. My sister got away with SO much stuff that I got in tons of trouble for (or would have at least). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433819 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 21:15:10 +0000 ValentineMommy 433819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd have to say, as an adopted person, I believe it's almost all nurture. Like, 80% at least. I'm nothing like my birth parents, other than appearance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433675 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 18:41:59 +0000 Anagram 433675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@boiledpnut: just out of curiosity...how did your parents treat you differently? I find that super interesting. I'm not a twin, but I have 5 siblings and we are all *so* different. We all had the same parents, who raised us all with the same parenting style, but then again...our parents really didn't treat us all just the same. I think they unconsciously (subconsciously?) favored some kids and were harder on other kids (and each parent had their own favorites/harder on kids). Makes me wonder... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433599 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 17:38:35 +0000 boiledpnut 433599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also think nurture is greater. I have an identical twin sister. We grew up in the same environment, but we were definitely treated differently. As adults, we're as different as night and day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433537 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 16:58:38 +0000 yoursilverlining 433537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think nurture is most important. I don’t think it’s a coincidence that the vast majority of serial killers/violent criminals come from abusive, messed up families. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433482 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 16:32:19 +0000 Mrs. Bee 433482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>maybe i'm the pessimist, but i think nature is much more powerful than nurture. but like mr bee mentioned, you can't change nature, so there's no point on dwelling on that. i think you can overcome nature with a tremendous amount of nuture, but i think generally nature is stronger than nurture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433436 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:54:46 +0000 Arden 433436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>25/75, I'd say. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433411 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:38:56 +0000 autumnlove 433411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mostly nurture! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433399 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:31:06 +0000 ladyfingers 433399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>25 nature/75 nurture. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433395 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:28:59 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 433395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know enough adopted kids to know that nurture plays a huge role! Nature is there, but can be shaped to a vast degree. Besides, if nurture is the only thing you can change, why not focus on that aspect. I can't change either of my daughters' genetic input... Only what I do now with them :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433393 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:28:05 +0000 BananaPancakes 433393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I agree with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433365 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:07:46 +0000 Mrsbells 433365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think its about 20% nature and 80% nurture </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433359 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:03:52 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 433359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's maybe like 70/30. There are a lot of things that nature determines like temperament, but I think nurture is a bigger part of how children interact with the world. I'm big on teaching my students that they have innate characteristics, but they do have control over themselves &amp; their actions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433260 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:16:18 +0000 banana 433260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Interesting! My DH said nurture too for the same reason you stated. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433259 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:14:49 +0000 mrbee 433259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I lean towards nurture, because it's the perspective that is most empowering to me as a parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/nature-vs-nurture#post-433256 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:13:54 +0000 banana 433256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What % do you believe is nature vs nurture in regards to child rearing? I tend to lean more towards nature. I try to parent based on my kids' individual personalities vs trying to stick with some sort of schedule or what a book says. I use books as guides but I like to cater to each of my kids' individual personalities.</p> <p>How about you? </p>