https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 02:27:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-a-friend-re-sex-after-baby#post-223346 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 04:44:55 +0000 cvbee 223346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with Megwag.<br /> And I would also encourage them to get back into things like the way you would get into things with someone you just started dating: don't go all the way the first time, and let it progress naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-a-friend-re-sex-after-baby#post-223344 Tue, 17 Jul 2012 04:20:22 +0000 MegWag 223344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would encourage her to ask him about it. I know it might be scary, but if she expresses how she's feeling she's more likely to get a real answer. There are all sorts of reasons he might be hesitant (fear of hurting her, feeling tired and/or overwhelmed, or something else). He might even be worried she's not into it and not want to be rejected.... She'll never know unless she asks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-a-friend-re-sex-after-baby#post-223254 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 22:09:52 +0000 sandy 223254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's a big deal that they aren't having sex...the early weeks are so crazy adjusting to having a baby...but it doesn't sound right that he doesn't seem to be into her anymore (your post says "he doesn't even act like he likes her anymore"). Maybe he's just very stressed with the changes that come with having a baby but I would think he would still want to cuddle and be affectionate with his wife. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-a-friend-re-sex-after-baby#post-222549 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 13:02:03 +0000 Weagle 222549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know about normal because I've not asked a lot of men about this, but I can see where he might be hesitant. After seeing me birth a child, my husband was a little concerned that I still wasn't quite healed after 6 weeks. Honestly, I wasn't that sure either because of some lingering pain. And after working and taking care of a child all day, a lot of times sex is the last thing on either of our minds. I would give him the benefit of a doubt...the transition to being a parent affects people in different ways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-a-friend-re-sex-after-baby#post-222517 Mon, 16 Jul 2012 12:37:43 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 222517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend had her baby at the end of April and got the all clear from her doctor at her 6 week appt. But here it is, 11 weeks pp and she has only had sex once. She said her husband doesn't seem into it at all.... He doesn't ever want to have it and he doesn't even act like he likes her anymore. He said that he just wants to make sure everything is ok (even though she's told him it's fine), but she's taking as though he doesn't like her body anymore, even though she's almost back to her size 2 shape. </p> <p>She wanted me to ask you ladies what you would think in that situation. Do you think it's normal for a guy to be hesitant to have sex again after the baby? </p>