https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 22 Aug 2026 02:05:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646481 Wed, 02 Nov 2016 00:28:49 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2646481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't imagine the agony you must be facing in making this decision. Would you be open to adoption? There are so many people out there longing to have a baby--perhaps this alternative could help reconcile your heart &amp; head? :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646403 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 18:51:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 2646403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like @sarac's advice. </p> <p>What is unreconciled between your heart and head? From "overwhelming reservations" to "completed family", you seem on a firm page (?)</p> <p>Anecdotal, but none of the women I know who have had abortions regretted it for the rest of their lives. There are some great abortion resources and online support/sharing groups if that's the path you chose and you are worried about regret or judgement or anything else. hope you find peace with your decision, either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646400 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 18:36:27 +0000 sapphire 2646400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your statement that "we have completed our family" makes it sound like you know what you want to do. What's your heart say? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646395 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 18:18:03 +0000 sarac 2646395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really like the advice of making the decision, and then living it for a day. Then make the other choice, and live with that. Decide to do it, live it for a day, and see how you feel. Decide to keep it, live it for a day, and see. See which one makes you feel relief, and which one doesn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646394 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 18:16:17 +0000 erinbaderin 2646394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're in such a tough position but I don't think this is a decision that we can really help you with, unfortunately - only you know what's right for you. I would only say that it would be better to have regrets about not having a child than to have regrets about having one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-for-difficult-decision#post-2646389 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 18:10:57 +0000 need_advice1 2646389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am not sure if this is the right place to ask this question, but here goes nothing.</p> <p>My partner and I are facing an unexpected pregnancy, and we are considering an abortion. The short story is we have completed our family, and we are both somewhat older by traditional family standards (40+). My initial reaction to the pregnancy confirmation was, I can't do this again. My partner will support whatever decision I make.</p> <p>Despite my overwhelming reservations with going forward with the pregnancy, I have a great fear that I will regret this decision for the rest of my life. I can't seem to reconcile my heart with my head.</p> <p>I don't know what to do, and I am running out of time to make a decision. </p>