https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 16:53:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725951 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 23:50:05 +0000 birdofafeather 1725951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@troberts1021: oh, that's a shame. Since she's close by I would either have them over or put LO down at her house with the whole routine if I was planning on staying later. If I was only planning on being there slightly after bedtime, then I would peace out early and do bedtime at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725722 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 21:38:46 +0000 lawbee11 1725722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you're being ridiculous at all. My LO has a similar bedtime and I try my best to never mess with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725721 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 21:38:40 +0000 Tanjowen 1725721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.Blue, that last line just gave me a much needed laugh, thank you. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725716 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 21:36:17 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1725716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@troberts1021: if it's an extremely rare situation, I'd probably keep the boys up, like if family was visiting from way far away or something. But if it's someone you see regularly and it comes up again and again, I'd stick to my guns. Maybe you could just say something to her like, "I realize you disagree with our stance on bedtime, but I'm sure you remember what it's like to have people disagree with your parenting choices. I hope I always supported you in those, and it would mean a lot to me if you would back me up on this now." Then maybe you could invite them over for dinner so you can put LO down at bedtime or for a time that works better.</p> <p>At our house, sleep is the holy grail, and we generally don't mess with it unless Jesus or the President is coming to visit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725700 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 21:29:34 +0000 delight 1725700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you are being rediculous at all. I try to stick to our 7:30 bed time as much as possible. We have family dinners at my MIL on Sunday and I will stretch it a bit, but no more than 30 minutes. I think routine is important and i don't like messing with it too much. It's such a short time period in our lives that we have to stick to such an early bedtime. In a few years she can stay up later and our family can hang out longer into the evening but for now I cater more to my LOs sleep needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725535 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:48:25 +0000 Tanjowen 1725535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Birdofafeather, she lives about 20 minutes away, so we could eat and run. But that was unfortunately what the fireworks were over when I told her we couldn't stay late...I am however, liking the idea of calling her tomorrow and offering our place instead and see how it goes.</p> <p>@Mrs. Taco, we have a PNP and he will sleep in it. I have to confess that the older I get the less willing I am to sleep anywhere other than my bed! However, with such an early bedtime it's not a bad idea to consider if we want to see people and stay late sometimes :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725524 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:46:22 +0000 singingbee 1725524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you are being ridiculous. I don't like messing with my baby's sleep. However, my family eats late so when we are visiting we have to do some adjustments. She either gets a late nap or just goes to bed when needed. It stinks, but it's not all the time so I feel like it's okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725516 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:43:23 +0000 Mrs. Taco 1725516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@troberts1021: Not ridiculous! I don't mess with sleep and you know your LO best. </p> <p>How far does she live? Will your LO sleep in a PNP? In this situation at that age, we would just stay the night (if she has the space/guest room?)...we did it all the time at my sisters, moms, and good friends. It was a pain to pack up everything but we would head over and do her nighttime routine there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725512 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:42:13 +0000 birdofafeather 1725512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>is it close enough to go over at 6 exactly and leave when you need to get home by 8? if not, i would have them over to your house at a time that works! or plan for a weekend day when you can be over there sooner. you gotta do what works for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725482 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:31:04 +0000 pinkcupcake 1725482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, not ridiculous. All kids are different. Some kids are able to fall asleep anywhere, but others aren't. My LO was always an easygoing baby, but she was particular about sleep- she has an early bedtime (used to be 630PM, but now that she's over 2, it's been pushed back to 830PM) and she can only sleep in her crib. I try my best to not keep her out past her bedtime unless it's absolutely necessary. We took her to a graduation recently that went on until 10pM - she was a complete and total wreck by the time we got home close to 11PM. Then she sleeps horribly, wakes up at the same time, and is grouchy/upset the next day. I don't mess w/sleep unless it's absolutely necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725480 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:30:52 +0000 kml636 1725480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No you aren't being ridiculous. We have had to turn down things constantly due to LO's 7 pm bedtime. I have heard so many comments about how early it is but I will make a crack about how if her sleep gets messed up, are they going to get up with her in the MOTN? That usually shuts people up. Eventually, they stop asking us to go out at 8 and will change it to more like 5:30. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725474 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:29:30 +0000 Canoli 1725474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am with you, when baby sleeps everyone is happy! My son was a terrible sleeper and napper for the first year so when we finally got him to sleep we didn't want to mess with it. I'm sure we missed out on a lot that year but there's nothing worse than sleep deprivation. I know my IL's probably thought we were ridiculous for the schedule we wanted to keep but no one was going to come over to our house in the middle if the night and take care of a screaming baby so we had to do what worked for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725472 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:29:18 +0000 Tanjowen 1725472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies. I know in my heart that as a mom not messing with his sleep is the right thing to do, I just hate that my sister doesn't get it and it's putting us at odds :( </p> <p>I should just let her keep him one night overnight and see if she remembers having an infant :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725467 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:28:56 +0000 sorrycharlie 1725467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others.. I don't mess with what works!! Esp baby sleep!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725463 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:28:12 +0000 Adira 1725463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very strict with sleep too. I only ever mess with it for super special family events, and even then, I'll try to put him down wherever we are if I can and just pray he sleeps on the ride home! I'd try to reschedule with your sister for a time that works better for everyone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725462 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:27:45 +0000 blackbird 1725462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't go that late. I like to eat by 6. And be in bed at 9. Rough shit for people who don't like that, we can do brunch instead. </p> <p>We like to be home by 7 for E's bedtime. Nobody says shit when we leave stuff early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725460 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:26:39 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 1725460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't mess with it! You're the one that will have to deal with the fall out of a bad bed time, not your sister! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725452 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:24:06 +0000 DillonLion 1725452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah. My kid is an awesome sleeper, and part of that is because I respect her requested bed time. We have a little more flexibility because it is 8pm, but unless it is a really, really special circumstance, I don't mess with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725449 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:23:04 +0000 avivoca 1725449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never mess with sleep. You aren't being ridiculous. I like Smurfette's suggestion of inviting them to your house! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725416 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:15:08 +0000 Smurfette 1725416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! I would not go! You know your baby and what he needs. Sleep isn't to be messed with. </p> <p>Invite them to your house so LO and sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-on-family-not-respecting-my-los-bedtime#post-1725406 Thu, 26 Jun 2014 20:13:26 +0000 Tanjowen 1725406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older sister has 3 kids, of which the youngest is 7 years old. My LO just turned 6 months old. Having survived the 4 month regression, he now wants to go to bed at 6:30 p.m. and we try to respect that; I also subscribe to the theory that the more sleep baby gets, the better off we are all. I will mess with his naps to be social during the day, but I like to be home to get him to bed on time, or by 8 p.m. at the absolute latest.</p> <p>However, my family - my sister and her husband in particular - think I'm ridiculous and just need to get him to adjust. They say they dragged their babies everywhere and he will be fine. She invited us to come over tomorrow to hang out and eat dinner and I accepted because I haven't seen her in awhile, but she never gave a time. I just texted her and learned they won't even be home until 6 p.m. to start grilling food. I texted her and told her if she got home earlier to let me know as I would love to come hang out, but we couldn't stay late because we had to get the baby home to get him to bed. It kind of set off some fireworks and I was told again I am being ridiculous.</p> <p>So my question is, am I being ridiculous? Should I just put him down for a nap at her place, and not worry about it? Should I not be so rigid about night time sleep time? I hate being at odds with my sister, but I also really worked hard on my LO's sleep schedule. :( </p>