https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 16:02:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1367144 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:39:07 +0000 Kemma 1367144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, this is almost us exactly!</p> <p>We've just moved away from all our family, I'm a sahm to a gorgeous fifteen month old girl and we are looking at TTC towards the middle of this year. Our families now either have a ridiculously expensive flight or a 2-3 hour drive plus a 3 hour ferry ride to contemplate if they want to visit.</p> <p>In my situation I'm trying really hard to build my family a new "village" so that we have support and I don't go stir crazy talking to a toddler all day :-) I'm also trying to find a couple of good toddler activities so that LO has interaction and hopefully I can meet some other parents too. And lastly I think you just do it because you have to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1367081 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:25:14 +0000 looch 1367081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my son was born, I was living abroad and staying at home. My husband's family was about an hour away by car, but my MIL and FIL both work.</p> <p>We had a baby sitter that came 4 hours a week and it was the break I needed to keep sane. We interviewed a few and we followed our gut feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1367047 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:15:56 +0000 Weagle 1367047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 20 month old and #2 on the way. No family around. I understand your fears, but at the same time I don't. Your children will need you to care for them, and you'll just figure it out. </p> <p>As for childcare, we have a fantastic group of friends that we would trust our children with, and most of the time we only leave her as part of a babysitting swap deal. I'm a SAHM, so that's pretty easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1367038 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:13:49 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1367038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i have no experience in this as i am a mom of 1 who is also TTC #2 but i want to send you support and tell you that you CAN do it. many have and you can too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1367036 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:13:28 +0000 Cchoi4 1367036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and have a 2.5 yr old (boy) toddler and a 6 month old son. It didn't scare me so much at first bc the baby just slept through everything so I could focus my energy on the toddler. That said, I thought my toddler would benefit from going to some sort of daycare/preschool for social interaction as well as learning. So we started him off at 3 days a week and that also freed me up to spend time/bond with the baby.</p> <p>I have three sets of parents nearby (my parents, both divorced and remarried and in-laws). They have helped a lot but i would say preschool helped the most. They come over to play with the toddler or baby but never to watch my kids without me there. </p> <p>If it is within your budget, just part time, perhaps you could see whether that would help you out. Otherwise, a part time nanny or mommy's helper would help too, at least just in the beginning when you are still getting your bearings.</p> <p>As it is, I have both my sons one day a week (when the toddler is not at school) and those are the days I schedule play dates, museum visits, or go to indoor playgrounds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-advice-please-moving-across-country-having-another-child-sahm#post-1366997 Wed, 22 Jan 2014 13:03:01 +0000 ustechie 1366997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my husband and I have a 22 month old son and are TTC our second. Currently, he works from home, but is looking at applying for other jobs- some of which are far away. We're really close to all our family now, so if we move, we really would have no one around. This is the part that scares me most.</p> <p>I'm primarily a stay at home mom, only working 1 day a week. When I'm at work, my mom comes to watch our son. If we have another child, I'm not sure how I would be able to juggle a newborn and toddler without any help. I know people do it all the time and make it work, but this is what I struggle with. How do SAHMs deal with caring for a newborn and toddler when you don't have any family around? Also, I have some major issues with trusting others and allowing them to watch my kid. For those of you who've gone through this, how do you find reliable help and ultimately someone you trust watching your child/ren? </p> <p>Any advice or suggestions is really appreciated!! TIA!!! </p>