https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 14:54:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96625 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 15:19:12 +0000 eeh 96625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have no tips but I can totally relate. Last night my husband woke me up at 3am because it was in the other room talking on the phone (weird work schedule=random calls at all hours). He can't just sit on the couch and talk normally. He has to pace the entire house and project very, very loudly. I was so mad because it took me forever to fall asleep to begin with last night and then he woke me up. I told him if he does that once the baby is born and wake him/her up I will kill him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96585 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 14:55:30 +0000 looch 96585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a loud talker. I've had people tell me that they've heard me talking 4 floors away. It's my normal voice, it's always been that way. When people tell me to talk softly, I actually talk louder. Don't know why, really.</p> <p>I found that reducing the background noise has helped me to better understand how loud I can really be at times. Not sure what would help a toddler though! I know I'll be dealing with it soon, because my son is already vocalizing loudly at 15 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96580 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 14:52:04 +0000 Andrea 96580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: if you can get your neighbor in on it then that would be better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96566 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 14:38:09 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I would never lie to him... but I might have our neighbor joke with him to let him know that everyone hears everything he and LJ say.</p> <p>@mrbee: You totally get it. LJ thinks it's normal now. In 3 weeks since Jack Jack came home, Mr. Jacks has totally changed his setpoint from "a good voice projector" to "yeller" and LJ has followed suit. I don't want LJ to turn into that loud obnoxious girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96548 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 14:09:18 +0000 tequiero21 96548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sorry, no help here, i'm the loud talker in my family. i can't help it. my husband uses his hands to signal lower if he finds i'm shouting. so i'll try to tone down.</p> <p>maybe tell him to get his ears checked? could be he doesn't notice that he talks so loud? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96540 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 14:04:29 +0000 Andrea 96540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That might be something that is hard to change. My family is very loud and that is just their culture. If the loud talking is keeping the baby up, then that is legitimate concern and your DH should respect that. But if it is just something that is annoying to you, then that might not be a good enough reason for him to change. I would just lie and say that your neighbor called and complained. Do you think that would have any effect? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96503 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:30:37 +0000 mrbee 96503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! I think it's one thing if your SO is a loud talker, but it's another thing to have your LO become one too!</p> <p>Especially if that's something that's being encouraged... I'd have a hard time with that one myself. I get easily embarrassed, so I really struggle with this one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96499 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:24:48 +0000 Mrsbells 96499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm used to loud talkers, my mom talks extremely loudly and I just got used to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96497 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:23:51 +0000 chopsuey 96497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops! Stupid iPhone submitted before I was done. Anyway. It took taking care of Lo on his own for Dh to become a quieter person. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96494 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:22:30 +0000 chopsuey 96494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Loud talkers drive me a little crazy. Dh used to make a lot of noise until he had to take care of our super sensitive to noise baby. Once he realized how hard it was tO put her down only to have her woken uP by some loud noise, he became more </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96491 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 13:17:05 +0000 heffalump 96491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like my family! I'm super quiet and a soft talker, but my family is soooo loud. Especially my dad. You ask him to use his indoor voice and he'll whisper louder than he talks! It's especially bad for me because I get bad migraines so loud noise really bothers me. But it's just how they are, nothing I can do about it. Hope you find a solution! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96466 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:28:10 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: Thanks for that perspective. I'm definitely going to have to keep it in mind :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96465 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:26:40 +0000 Maysprout 96465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd only worry about the times when it's a problem, like if they wake up baby or at a library or something like that. </p> <p>I'm from a loud family and I do see it as a personality thing. I once had a friend who told me she didn't like coming over because everyone was too loud and talkative. It felt really insulting, the same as if someone told me my house was boring and up-tight. </p> <p>My husband and I have had some compromises in the way we talk but neither or us is going to completely change, if I had to change too much I'd feel unloved. Not saying that the love isn't there but since how I express myself is tied to my personality it feels like so much more of a personal attack then if it's a discussion of chores or something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96463 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:23:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: Great idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96454 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:18:31 +0000 Lozza 96454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Can you enlist a neighbor in a super-secret shush-ing plan and ask them to come over and ask Mr. Jacks to tone it down? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96451 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:16:08 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lozza: Or that the neighbors don't need to hear him and LJ screaming like banshees?! (Of course, he's not one to worry too much what others think)... but I can try! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96445 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:11:35 +0000 Lozza 96445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems like he might see it as a matter of personal preference, and not a big deal. Like talking with your mouth open- if you're my partner, I'd certainly prefer that you not do it, it annoys me, it's a little embarrassing in public, but ultimately it doesn't actually do any harm.<br /> Can you give him concrete reasons of why you think it would be good for him to try to use his "inside voice" more often? If he's waking up Jack Jack by being so loud, that sounds like a compelling reason to me, or if Little Jacks is going to be told at preschool that she needs to use her "inside voice," it seems like it would be good to reinforce that at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96443 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:09:15 +0000 MamaMoose 96443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well hmmhh... then you might have a tough time of it! I can be a loud talker sometimes but at least I have the good sense to be embarrassed when my husband points it out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96440 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 12:01:08 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: I wish he saw it as more of an issue. Instead I think he sees it as a badge of honor. I was at a restaurant once with him and his friends and another table of people got up and moved because they were being so loud. He was like, "Look! They moved because of us!" (in a proud voice). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96437 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 11:58:31 +0000 MamaMoose 96437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It seems like Mr. Jacks isn't super dedicated to trying to work on it. I think that's the first step. Just make sure you're very clear with him that you aren't just trying to be critical... but you are worried that the loud talking is disruptive to the baby, and also not the best habit for LJ to pick up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-loud-talkers#post-96427 Mon, 19 Mar 2012 11:50:35 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 96427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband has always been a loud talker. It's something I came to terms with when I agreed to marry him. Often his family will be downstairs "talking" and to someone upstairs it might sound like they are yelling at each other.</p> <p>We've compromised a lot over the years about this, until we got to a good homeostasis with things after LJ's birth. That homeostasis is now totally disrupted with the addition of Jack Jack.</p> <p>I can hear LJ and Mr. Jacks screaming in the yard, in the street, not even close to the house while I'm upstairs with the baby. The simplest "Please, sit down" is pretty much shouted (though not with a yelling intent). Now I notice that LJ is doing it too. She bellows almost everything she says these days :(</p> <p>I've talked to Mr. Jacks about it and his response was, "Well, you knew this when you married me." And then, "I'll work on it, but it's not going to change in a day".</p> <p>So I'm at my wits end. I find myself being quieter and quieter as they get louder and louder. I know my neighbors can't be that happy about it either.</p> <p>Should I just consider it one of those quirky endearing things or is there really some room to get some more quiet into our lives? The noise is driving me crazy! </p>