https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 20:57:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437680 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 13:17:42 +0000 Bao 437680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just be honest, and tell her it was delayed and you will get it to her asap :) no biggie in my opinion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437677 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 13:16:39 +0000 Smurfette 437677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I always do gifts privately too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437510 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 12:02:12 +0000 ladyfingers 437510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @tororojo: Good to know, I agree so I will just do that! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437501 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:59:49 +0000 tororojo 437501@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I would give the gifts privately, not publicly. I voted for #1 as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437497 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:56:51 +0000 Foodnerd81 437497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: I don't think I've ever seen it done publicly, actually. I gave gifts to my wedding shower hosts while we were packing up to go. I can't really remember when I was given host gifts, but I'm sure it wasn't a big to do. Privately is nicer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437489 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:53:38 +0000 ladyfingers 437489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: @Foodnerd81: That's actually a great idea. She will TOTALLY understand and probably just laugh at me, so I'm not really worried about that. </p> <p>Every shower I've been to, the guest of honor gives the hosts gifts publicly after they open presents, but I would feel kind of weird doing that now that two of them are getting the actual gift and one is getting a picture and a promise... but it's not a big deal to do it privately, right? I actually prefer privately because it's not as show-offy, but I was just kind of planning it based on every shower I've been to lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437480 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:48:27 +0000 Foodnerd81 437480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to give her something, you could print out a picture of the earrings and give that to her, and explain the mistake. If she is a good enough friend to throw you a shower, I bet she is a good enough friend to understand.<br /> As the recipient, I'd rather the gift you specifically picked out for me, a few weeks late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437479 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:47:58 +0000 Smurfette 437479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you wrap up a picture of the earrings? That way she knows that you ordered them but just are taking longer with shipping? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-help-with-shower-thank-you-gift-etiquette#post-437472 Fri, 07 Dec 2012 11:45:41 +0000 ladyfingers 437472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I have three friends organizing my shower on Dec. 16. I ordered each of them a piece of jewelry that reminded me of them, from Etsy (from three different shops). I received two of them, but not yet the third. So I went to check the shipping date and noticed I had ordered the third gift from a shop in freaking Argentina, and it can take between 15 and 35 days to receive. Even the shortest time length puts me past the 16th. </p> <p>So, I don't know what to do. Should I just give the other two friends their gifts in private and beg forgiveness of the third friend and tell her that her gift is on the way and I will come bring it to her as soon as it arrives? Is that tacky? Should I buy her a backup gift locally and just give the earrings to somebody else (I'd actually hate to do this because I specifically chose these earrings for her and her style and have nobody else on my shopping list who would appreciate them as much)? I wasn't planning on buying them Christmas gifts because money is tight, so this is kind of my gift in lieu of a Christmas gift (more understandable, I think, to not receive a Christmas gift from an expecting mother than to not receive a thank-you gift for throwing her a shower). </p> <p>Help, I'm an idiot. </p>