https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 18:12:25 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868172 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 14:14:32 +0000 codeitall 2868172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I just repeat my little mantra to myself: Everything is temporary, it will pass, things will get better, it will all work out.</p> <p>Honestly it sounds like you're doing everything right, you just got walloped with some bad luck. Nothing you could have done to prevent it, just power through. Your kids won't remember and you'll be able to look back during other hard times and think 'Well I managed then and I can manage now'. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868129 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 13:09:40 +0000 youboots 2868129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a newly expecting family who just moved cross country I totally hear where you are coming from. It’s a lot of stress! Sounds like the house just piled it on. Can you make an insurance claim? Could you rent out the house? Install a home security system?</p> <p>I left my business and have to build it back up. We TTC because of my age and it happened quickly so I think it will be another year plus before I truly get back to work. It’s just the season of life we are in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868090 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 10:46:30 +0000 MenagerieMama 2868090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: we feel the same way! We liked where we lived and keep feeling like we made the wrong decision. But you’re right. It will be worth it looking at their whole childhood. We’ve gone from seeing a grandparent once every few months to sometimes weekly!</p> <p>@nwm: I’m so sorry! Details were actually great because sometimes it feels like we’re the only ones that have gone through such a crazy mess - even though I know it’s not true. all our friends have bought/sold in the same hot market so not having multiple offers on a house in the first week is foreign. Our realtor is probably so sick of us - he’s already had to deal with 2 police reports. Plus he had the staging furniture he had contracted for that was vandalized so he had to deal with that :bummed: I can’t wait until we’re on the other side!!</p> <p>@looch: we will be renting by the end of the spring if no sale. But I’m not looking forward to that possibility. We decided to sell because we didn’t want the stress of a long distance rental, even with a management company. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868085 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 10:24:40 +0000 nwm 2868085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a really stressful situation selling a house a couple of years ago. We committed to a new house without a contingency because we loved it and had literally had offers for our existing house come unsolicited because it was on such a great road in a great school district. We thought it would be smooth sailing, and even had a bidding war, then the person who we picked found some issues at inspection. We had the house inspected before we listed and came out with flying colors so it was a real surprise. So that offer fell through. We spent a ton of time dealing with how to remediate the issues and remediating them, which was pricey and cost us time. We were also dealing with it long distance, which sucked. We finally got another (much lower) offer--and then it fell through because those people's house sale fell through! </p> <p>I'm giving you too much detail, but long story short, I really know how awful and stressful it is to have a home sale take longer than you have expected and planned for. And it can feel like it will never happen and it's going to hang around your neck forever, and then news like the break in just makes it feel that much worse. But rest assured, we finally got the house sold for a decent price. You will too. You got this, it will sell. Also, lean on your realtor. He or she wants the house to sell just like you do and so when you're not physically there, don't be afraid to ask the realtor to help you arrange for cleaning, repairs, etc, to meet the repair people at your house--we counted on our realtor for all of that. Probably the most work she ever had to do for a commission :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868038 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 07:17:08 +0000 looch 2868038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One year isn’t going to be representative of your entire life. We also had a bad money year last year, but we acknowledged it and are taking steps to do better this year.</p> <p>I don’t know what you can do to sell the house, is renting it out an option? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868032 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 06:46:47 +0000 catgirl 2868032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are dealing with this, especially while pregnant. We made the decision to move closer to family last year as well because we wanted DD to see them more. So, so many things have gone wrong since the move that DH and I constantly ask ourselves why we did this. Our life wasn't bad where we were, in fact it was pretty good. BUT we just keep telling ourselves that we didn't move to have one good year - we moved so DD could be raised near family for her whole childhood. She used to see my family every six weeks or so, now she sees my mom multiple times a week and DH's parents at least a few times a month. Eventually things will even out, it's just a matter of getting through the bumps first.</p> <p>As hard as it is, try to focus on your reasons for moving. I really hope things start feeling better for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868021 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 06:05:24 +0000 Petitduck 2868021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’d focus on the positives while you get your financial plans back in order. </p> <p>-you’re now close to family and so are your kids and that is incredibly valuable.<br /> -you were lucky enough to get pregnant with a third even though it was quick. That’s probably going to feel daunting for a while (perhaps even until that kid has been out in the world for a little while) because adding another child is a big change, but it’s a positive.<br /> -you were financially stable and in a great place. You feel worried because you are on a bit of shaky ground now, but don’t discount the fact that you do know how to budget and take care of yourselves financially and you were feeling comfortably before. A lot of people don’t have that and never have. </p> <p>The light at the end of the tunnel is, you will get back to where you want to be, it just might take a little while. And lastly, those hormones are surging, so cut yourself a mental break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868019 Tue, 22 Jan 2019 05:17:18 +0000 cake2017 2868019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MenagerieMama: It will not always be easy! That’s life! You are blessed to be having a third and the ability to be near family! Embrace the good things because as mentioned before life is so good!!! Go on vacation and enjoy the time with your family. Financially make a plan but extend grace to you guys- it will work out..... save the best you can, budget and believe me it will come together! Hold on to the good things and know that it will always get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2868015 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 23:56:27 +0000 bhbee 2868015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry it’s so overwhelming. Honestly the year of my third pregnancy was really overwhelming to me and I wasn’t doing half what you are! I agree it will work out with time ... survive for now and you can get the finances back on track when it makes sense. We had financial concerns about #3 also (I think most do!) but you can ease into it usually - not childcare perhaps, but you can likely make your car work for a while, in our case we are making our house work even though it’s small and we feel it, you can set up the 529 anytime and catch up. We are viewing it as a season - it is hard but the amount we all (including big sibs) love that baby ... that matters more to us than having the future all figured out. You’ll get there. Big hugs while you wade through it - one day at a time, one foot in front of the other! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2867996 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 20:49:27 +0000 MenagerieMama 2867996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: @jhd: @muffinsmuffins: thanks all. I know once we get through it, it will seem worth it. And we will survive. It just seems like we’re drowning while we’re in the thick of it! I need reminders we can do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2867983 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 19:47:30 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2867983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It will work out even if it seems hard and impossible now. I like to think of things in phases: right now is the hard phase, but in the end you’ll be so glad you moved and had that third child. Buying and selling a house is literally the most stressful thing ever so I get it...and I didn’t have the other stuff on top of it! Sometimes the process is super difficult but in the end, it’s worth it :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2867979 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 19:19:36 +0000 jhd 2867979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry. I hope things start improving soon. :heart: Life hasn’t exactly gone according to plan in many ways for me lately but other things have been so much better than I expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2867967 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 18:36:34 +0000 Kaohinani 2867967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So many hugs. :heart: I have been through many crazy life situations (a divorce from the 1st husband, readjustment periods, marriage to the love of my life, many-many moves ALLLL over the country due to military spouses over 21 years, family drama, educational drama due to moves, 1 break in, and 2 kids with 3 years trying to have baby #3). While each was going on (simultaneously), I thought my brain (or heart) was going to explode and the world would end ... but it didn't. Everything actually turned out copacetic (with exception to the fact that we are STILL trying to conceive our 3rd blessing). My point - while it may not look like it (or feel like it) now, everything WILL workout and you will be fine. Please, trust me. :heart: Life is good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-life-encouragement#post-2867965 Mon, 21 Jan 2019 18:16:09 +0000 MenagerieMama 2867965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved across the country this summer to get our kids back to family so they could grow up with their grandparents. We bought a house here when we put our old house on the market and then the market in our old area tanked. We had it off the market for a month since we had 6 months without an offer and then went to relist it and discovered we had a break in (our realtor did anyhow). We had a minor one back in the fall but this one is big. Window broken, place trashed, etc.</p> <p>I'm 10 weeks pregnant with #3 and I just can't take this. This move has been so financially devastating. We moved from LCOL to HCOL and we really needed re-listing this house to go smoothly (we planned to drop the price a lot and just get it sold) and now it's a disaster. And organizing this all from across the country is terrible.</p> <p>I just keep feeling like we've made such a big mistake and we conceived #3 so much faster than we thought and so I feel like we're really messing up bringing another kid into this world when we are not prepared, we can't afford another childcare payment, bigger car or another 529 plan. I am super financially responsible and this kills me. Our finances were SO much better before we moved. We have this very needed vacation next week, but now I wish we had travel insurance and could cancel it and save the money. If we have to pay taxes this year (which I just can't tell with the laws changing and we had so much going on last year) we will be toast.</p> <p>I just can't see the light at the end of the tunnel! Help! </p>