https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 12:31:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548406 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 11:09:48 +0000 Mrsbells 548406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This used to frustrate me too, now when people are around and LO is sleepy I just put her in a baby carrier and wear her. This way no one can just take her from me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548392 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 11:04:14 +0000 KayKay 548392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just as important for a baby to learn to go with the flow, I think it's important for parents to (try to) learn, too! It was a special night with an event, visitors, and staying up too late -- but I'm sure everyone (even the baby!) appreciated the extra cuddles they got b/c you let LO stay up.</p> <p>...and who's to say you wouldn't have had the same night of bad sleep even if you had put LO down like normal? You never know when those little monsters will throw a curveball :) I think they like to keep parents from feeling too confident that they know what they're doing! ha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548349 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 10:42:21 +0000 plantains 548349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww, I think the hallmark of a great parent is that you constantly want to do better for your kid. Sounds like you are doing a great job so don't sweat it! When my baby was 7 weeks old, I took her to a wedding and kept her out with me unil 12.30am! She was fine, we were fine and now she does well with crowds etc. She sleeps fine at noght too so don't worry. </p> <p>At one month, sleep is unpredictable so just breathe and keep doing the best you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548348 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 10:41:58 +0000 jedeve 548348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys! I think I was mad at myself because I knew it would be bad for baby, but I just don't feel comfortable fling my in laws no. Maybe it will be better when he starts showing a clear preference for me? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548342 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 10:37:47 +0000 birdofafeather 548342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're all still figuring them out! And we will be every day of their lives it seems! You're doing great and we're gonna mess up. A friend passed on this advice and it's been helpful: our babies have no idea that we have no idea what we're doing. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548150 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 09:21:41 +0000 PrincessBaby 548150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There will be lots of things that you will "live and learn" with a new baby and nothing is your fault, it's just learning what works and doesn't work for your baby:). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548145 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 09:19:11 +0000 littlek 548145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It happens, don't beat yourself up. You are a great mom. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548138 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 09:15:53 +0000 LuLu Mom 548138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't worry about this, it's just one of those learning situations! You are tired (rightfully so) so you are overanalyzing yourself. Just breathe and know you are a great momma!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548115 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 08:59:57 +0000 travelgirl1 548115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw don't be so hard on yourself, you were trying to do best by everybody. And to be honest some babies would have been fine with this, you don't know how your baby will be until it's happened. Baby will be fine, and you're such a generous mum letting everyone hold him. Hopefully LO will catch up on sleep today, and so can you : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548040 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:51:54 +0000 T.H.O.U. 548040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think its terrible to keep them up that long. If he was really tired, he would have fallen asleep or gotten really fussy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548039 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:51:53 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 548039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I wouldn't worry about it. Its nice to have your LO around in different environments. It only preps him to get used to different schedules and eventually he will get it and not be one of those difficult babies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548035 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:50:29 +0000 Dandelion 548035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't worry about it...one night of being passed around is fine. Sure, you paid for it later, but it's not causing any long time harm.</p> <p>My 5 year old ds had so much sugar yesterday, between my baby shower, an outing with my dad, and the Super Bowl. I had to deal with the sugar high and the crash. Total mom fail. But, these things happen. Special events have special circumstances. We'll just take it easy this week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548014 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:30:27 +0000 MamaMoose 548014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw don't be so hard on yourself!! Even if you were doing everything in your power to try he still may not have gone to sleep with all the noise and stimulation. He'll be back on track tonight I'm sure! My LO was a bit overwhelmed last night too (we had two other couples here plus a one year old girl and a two year old girl) and she definitely didn't sleep as long as she normally does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-548002 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:11:00 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 548002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, kudos to you for being relaxed enough to bring a 1 month old out around a bunch of people, much less a super bowl party! I was too scared and overparanoid to leave the house with DD at that age, so that's a huge step. </p> <p>Yes, you kept your LO up for 3 hours and it's making for a rough night, but it'll all get worked out in the next 24 hours as he catches up on sleep so try not to beat yourself up. </p> <p>As for you FIL, I can totally relate. My MIL did that to me, and still does even at a year old. The only that helped was for me to set some boundaries early on and to have DH help to mention it when she would take DD (in a nonchalant/sarcastic way)</p> <p>(((( hugs)))) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547995 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:03:54 +0000 NerdBee 547995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't be so hard on yourself. I've learned this lesson the hard way myself. It really annoys me when people say that keeping the baby awake will make them sleep better at night because its totally not true!</p> <p>It sucks that you have to deal with a fussy non-sleeping baby all night but in the grand scheme of things, one bad night now and then won't hurt the baby. Hang in there! </p> <p>Next time if you don't want to pass the baby around, you could try baby wearing so that people can't grab LO from your arms and tell people that LO needs to sleep and they can hold him later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547993 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:03:29 +0000 loveisstrange 547993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Step back off the ledge and take a breath. It happens. It's not your fault. Don't take it as a benchmark of your parenting skills. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547992 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 07:02:10 +0000 rachiecakes 547992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It happens.<br /> Sometimes all the stimulation just stirs them up. My kid has never been one to get worn out and have a good nights sleep. Almost the opposite. We were out last night, too, and DS was fussy going to bed and woke up a couple times :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547978 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 06:42:18 +0000 MaisyMay 547978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our 6 week old napped for less than 30 minutes for the 5 1/2 hours we were at a Super Bowl party yesterday. She also was content, not passed around a ton, but just chilling because of the noise and excitement. Don't judge your parenting by that. Those sorts of days will come. </p> <p>It is lame that your FIL took LO without asking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547970 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 06:23:51 +0000 matador84 547970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't worry about it. At one month you're up at all hours of the night still anyway. No worries! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547964 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 05:12:54 +0000 mamimami 547964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it's upsetting but try to calm down. In the middle of the night with no rest is no time to evaluate your parenting skills! You are doing fine. Letting a baby stay awake for 3 hours is not a crime. Live and learn. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/need-to-step-up-as-mom#post-547961 Mon, 04 Feb 2013 05:04:51 +0000 jedeve 547961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I need to be more protective. We went to a Super Bowl party tonight, and my one month old was awake for nearly 3 hrs, being passed around and all. He was content, but it's way too long to be awake! Plus everyone kept talking about how good he would sleep tonight since he was awake so long.</p> <p> NOT. Now I'm the one paying the consequences of the non sleeping fussy baby all night. I should have taken him back from people so he would sleep. Granted, doesn't help my FIL. took him out of my arms without asking....</p> <p>Grr. I'm so annoyed at myself. </p>