https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 08:59:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard/page/2#post-2785084 Wed, 08 Nov 2017 13:04:08 +0000 alphagam84 2785084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: I'd be calling animal control to come speak with them since it is technically illegal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard/page/2#post-2784917 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 17:49:47 +0000 gotkimchi 2784917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: :shocked: fences make good neighbors so I’d start putting up anything you can in between! They sound like the worst </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard/page/2#post-2784887 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 16:26:52 +0000 Ms. RV 2784887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BSB: You would think if I talked to about it that they would be reasonable. The mom laughed and said "well that's Booboo for you." Even after the dog ran at my daughter scaring her to tears. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard/page/2#post-2784853 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 15:05:44 +0000 Mrs. D 2784853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: oh no! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard/page/2#post-2784848 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:50:41 +0000 BSB 2784848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: I might have missed this but have you talked to your new neighbors? My dogs are leashed when they go outside but I would be mortified if my dogs were doing something that was bothering one of the neighbors. </p> <p>I would hope that they are responsible and considerate neighbors and think of other solutions to adequately contain their dog and kids. I can hope at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2784846 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:45:55 +0000 gotkimchi 2784846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. D: we had a neighbor who let a cat loose and it was terrorizing a different persons house and she kept calling them and returning the cat etc. I told her to call animal control as well, if they don’t want to deal with the situation she doesn’t “owe” them anything so I think that’s a valid option </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2784839 Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:35:14 +0000 Mrs. D 2784839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Goose: I like the idea of a garden fence! I was going to suggest lining things up against the property line like potted plants, chairs, and gardens to at least curb the driving through your yard.<br /> My husband's cousin deals with crap like this!<br /> As for the dog, speak to them about the issue and liabilities. Then when you see the dog in your yard, put him on a leash and walk him back. If they still do nothing about it, suggest you will call animal control the next time their dog is in your yard. Be tough if you have to! If you don't complain, a lot of people just assume it's ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783312 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 14:22:32 +0000 Ms. RV 2783312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskansas: Thanks! I really appreciate and insider's input. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783305 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 13:59:01 +0000 mrskansas 2783305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work in insurance &amp; yes... you and your insurance company can be sued if something were to happen. A health insurance company can subrogate back to your homeowner's policy for damages. </p> <p>If shrubs or a fence isn't an option, I would have a frank conversation with the neighbor and document it... time, place, what was discussed, etc. If that falls flat get them to sign a waiver of subrogation :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783304 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 13:53:10 +0000 kiddosc 2783304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@misolee: Yea, this is an unfortunate reality I had no idea about. This thread prompted me to discuss with a lawyer friend who relayed that another mutual friend is in a similar situation. Her daughter broke her arm falling off a playset at someone's house and the health insurance company is suing the homeowners insurance </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783303 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 13:51:25 +0000 Mamaof2 2783303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As far as suing goes....</p> <p>I stepped on a piece of glass at my moms house and had to have surgery to get it out - it was over 20K.</p> <p>My insurance company wanted to sue my mom - I was mortified!!! I submitted the paperwork they requested but they ended up just paying it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783300 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 13:22:29 +0000 misolee 2783300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc</p> <p>It’s sad but true. Even if you don’t want to, your insurance can sue on your behalf. My friend served on jury in an insurance case like this. Two adults, friends, and one friend had tripped over a branch at his friends house and broke his leg. The insurance sued the friends insurance for neglect or something like that. It was a weird case and the two friends told the judge in court that they didn’t want to persue it but insurance made them. I think judge ended up dismissing it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783295 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 12:59:13 +0000 Ms. RV 2783295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Their pool uphill from our yard, so they can see us but we can't see them. Except out of our kitchen window we can see the pool. I may have to buy some curtains!</p> <p>@kiddosc: I agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783273 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:52:07 +0000 kiddosc 2783273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think it sucks that that's the mindset these days. I'm not suing anyone if my kid is in your yard without permission and gets stung, or breaks his ankle because he stepped in a hole. I get that there are people who would, this would just never cross my mind if I saw a kid chase a ball into my yard, or accidentally cross the property line while playing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783270 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:30:32 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2783270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: you would be amazed at the level of care you owe a stranger on your property. This for certain could become a lawsuit. Not everyone sues, but the liability portion of your homeowner's policy would come into play here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783265 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:25:21 +0000 looch 2783265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: So if you're in the yard, and they're at the pool, you can see each other? If the answer is yes, that alone would have me planting shrubs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783263 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:19:04 +0000 gotkimchi 2783263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: I think it’s your yard and your right to not have people in it. If I saw the kid I would say, please stay on your lawn. If that didn’t work I would do the decorative fence or shrubs. I don’t think that’s passive aggressive, I think that’s life. Fences make great neighbors. Since a true fence isn’t an option I think some of these other alternatives are great ideas. We planted privacy trees for no reason other the we like privacy when were out back. We don’t hate our neighbors so I think that’s a totally valid solution </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783260 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 11:07:11 +0000 Ms. RV 2783260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: Actually I could be held responsible. If the child gets hurt because of something wrong my yard then they could argue that I was not a responsible home owner because I have a kid the same age and she could have been hurt in the same manner. Likely, my insurance company would settle and not go to court, but my insurance rates would go up either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783252 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 10:59:25 +0000 psw27 2783252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The free range dog would bother me more than the tire marks. Mostly because I would be livid if I (or my kids) stepped in dog poop in my yard when I don't have a dog. Plus I don't think its reasonable to allow dogs to roam neighborhoods freely, for their safety. </p> <p>For me I would think long and hard about if I really wanted to have the conversation - if the pros (no dog poop, safety of child) outweigh the cons (maybe souring the relationship). I'm not sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783221 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 10:03:48 +0000 kiddosc 2783221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think planting shrubs or putting up a decorative fence is really passive aggressive and likely to damage the relationship with the neighbors. As uncomfortable as it is, I would have a conversation with them. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask them to keep the dog on a leash so that it doesn't poop in your yard, even though they are cleaning it up. As for the kiddo in the yard, I don't really see an issue with it. I don't see how you would be responsible for injury on your property if the person was essentially trespassing (you didn't invite him on to your property). I prefer a neighborhood where the kids are free to run and play with one another and cut across yards to find their friends as long as they're not damaging anything. I realize I'm in the minority here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783218 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 09:54:19 +0000 yoursilverlining 2783218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Meowkers: our HOA doesn't allow fences (except invisible fences for dogs). It's annoying!</p> <p>Could you plant a row of ornamental shrubs or other plants? Ideally something that wouldn't require a lot of upkeep on your end or would that be akin to a fence and require approval? </p> <p>I would be totally frustrated too if I were you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783216 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 09:49:31 +0000 MaryM 2783216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a row of azaleas between us and the neighbors. Luckily we get along, so it's nice to just hop the bushes to get to their back yard. But I certainly wouldn't want to drive a small vehicle through it if I was a kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783191 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 08:49:13 +0000 snowjewelz 2783191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Meowkers: The suburb I grew up in, nobody had fences; the area I live in now, every yard is fenced! I *think* it's because the are I grew up in, land is big &amp; hilly but here, lots are much smaller and more uniform and close to each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783176 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 07:16:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2783176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: No advice, but I would be really upset about this too. We don't have fences separating the property lines and honestly I don't want to put one up because our yard is already part shade. We are installing shrubs to make a visual border in hopes to avoid wandering kids- mine and the neighbor's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783174 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 06:59:44 +0000 Mrs. Toad 2783174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was decorative fence or a row of shrubs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783161 Tue, 31 Oct 2017 01:43:27 +0000 Ms. RV 2783161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pam1234: I never said I was worried about the tire marks, I said I was worried about the child getting hurt and me getting sued. If he hits a divot or a bees nest, I don't want to be responsible, but I would be.</p> <p>@misolee: Agreed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783136 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 20:14:58 +0000 Becky 2783136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be so excited if we had little kids living next door. Our neighbors do have 8(!) kids but the youngest is 10 (and our oldest is 4). The previous owners of our house had kids similar in age to some of the kids next door and apparently they'd all just barge into each other's houses and steal snacks. As for now, my kids are welcome to romp around the neighbor's yard (and across their yard into the others too), and the teens next door come over sometimes to swing on the rope swing in our yard. It's super common around here and part of the reason I love our town so much. In terms of the pool, the rules depend on the state and town--several of our neighbors have pools and the pool needs to be fenced in, not the whole yard. Our front yard is an unfortunately common poop spot (it's just where we are on the road) but everyone cleans up. My kids get to see the dogs (and meet a lot of them), and we don't have to deal with poo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783132 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 19:55:19 +0000 misolee 2783132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe bc I’m dealing with this too but I don’t think there’s anything neighborly withyour neighbor and their kids and dog enjoying your yard. It’s your property and your yard and it would bother me to have kids playing in it. Like others stated, just try talking nicely about respecting your property and the boundaries. The poop thing is also a surprisingly a sore subject to many dog owners bc in the past, my parents has their neighbor dog poop in their yard, I’ve lived in a townhome where the neighbors dog would come into our yard and poop and leave. Each time I’ve asked nicely for them to come clean it up and to make sure their dog doesn’t poop in our area but the dog owners were surprisingly hostile about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783131 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 19:51:59 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2783131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ms. RV: that’s a good way to approach it. And perfect that their dog is little. They’re nice too because they’re not permanent. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/neighbors-are-using-my-yard#post-2783120 Mon, 30 Oct 2017 18:26:17 +0000 erinbaderin 2783120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they’re otherwise nice good neighbours, it’s just leaving tracks but not damaging your yard, and they’re cleaning up the poo I might just chalk it up to neighbourly relations and let it go. The first time I found poop in my grass I’d be speaking to them, though - “I like my kid to be able to run around without worrying about what he’ll step in and I know you try your best to clean up but I’ve found poo on several occasions (I’d exaggerate) so if you could keep him on a stake and leash when you aren’t out with him I’d really appreciate it, thanks!” </p>